The dark nights are getting in and I've come to notice (and quite frankly, become bloody annoyed) that DD never gets inside her friend's houses. They're in first year of high school. She has lots of friends, is a well liked, bright popular girl who has never been in trouble in her life but the other day I heard one friend describing her house to her. It brought it to my attention that DD has never been inside even though it's just a small number of streets away. All the kids live in a very small area so distance isn't the issue I asked her if she ever goes in their houses like they regularly do in mine and she told me no, their mum's/dad's don't want kids in.
I often have up to 5 girls in my living room or DDs bedroom, eating our snacks and drinking our soft drinks, even sleeping over.
Like her friends, DD only gets over the threshold of a few houses when the one who lives there is getting something or popping in for some reason.
I recall a conversation with one of the girls mum's saying how she only let her girl out on winter nights if she was going somewhere indoors, not roaming around outside. It's just occurred to me that that means my house but never hers.
AIBU to want to do the same and not allow kids into my house when it is never ever reciprocated? DD has had kids sleeping over at least one night a month but she's slept out just 4 times ever. It's the same for all the girls. They don't sleep or hang out at each other's either, just mine.