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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To ask if your partner eats loudly?

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HippoEvans · 07/12/2018 19:26

DH is making too much noise when eating. He's only started doing it so loudly recently. We're talking slapping his chops and swallowing really loudly. If he has carrot stick on his plate the crunching is unbearable.

I turn the TV up but he is blissfully unaware.

AIBU to tell him his eating noises are bothering me?

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AlwaysSomethingThere · 07/12/2018 21:51

Misophonia sufferer here. If I see an apple or a packet of crisps I'm out of there faster than Usain Bolt. Trust me it's for the best.

Another recent one is throat clearing. Feet tapping. Tea slurpers.

It is no fun.

ItWentInMyEye · 07/12/2018 21:53

Same and if he eats crisps or something he'll suck each finger individually afterwards and make horrific noises.

Thisnamechanger · 07/12/2018 21:53

I have misphonia, anything louder than silence makes me want to tear my owm face off

KarmaStar · 07/12/2018 21:58

I hear you al!!😂.
But when the dog lays there chewing,knawing,licking and chomping on his treats,I don't mind at all!☺!

Piebeansandchips · 07/12/2018 21:58

I have found my people. I can't bear listening to DH eat. The bastard ate an apple while I was in the throws of labour - I nearly ripped the cannula out my hand to stab him.

Thisnamechanger · 07/12/2018 22:01

Also for some reason it drives me insane how much DP moves his food around his plate for NO reason. Just shoves it a bit this way, then that way. My late mother used to do it endlessly...she'd take ages arranging a tiny bite on her form and just....shove it around?! Every bite. Then she'd complain we all ate too fast.

Boyskeepswinging · 07/12/2018 22:10

The one that really grinds my gears is ice cream. Not ice cream with bits in - plain, vanilla ice cream. How the jeff can you eat plain, vanilla ice cream so loudly? I just can't fathom it.

And YY to the "hoovering" of food ie every mouthful has to be preceded by a huge intake of breath.
Dreading Christmas because every one of his family eats noisily. For added misery they all also talk with full mouths. It is gross.

boringlyboring · 07/12/2018 22:13

draws food in with his tongue. What a fucker. I have a new appreciation for my dp’s gulping.

karma I was thinking the same. I could listen to my cats crunching treats all day. I even have a cherished closeup video of one of them 😂

LaLoba · 07/12/2018 22:21

Husband does noises with soup and stew type things. Which is a nightmare right now, as they are the best meals for prep in advance and convenience. The smacking, mouth noises stuff drives me bonkers. And IABU and so are all of you too! We’re a grumpy, intolerant bunch of feckers, let’s not kid ourselves it’s a condition or anything, we’re just U!

rockchickchickyrock · 07/12/2018 22:42

Yes! My DH makes sounds like my horse used to when he was eating... I feel like offering him a bucket!

Time40 · 07/12/2018 22:51

I understand that it’s unpleasant but all these so called noisy eaters can’t help it!

Sometimes they can be re-trained. I re-trained one. It's hard, and it can take a lot of nagging, but it can be done.

EncroachingLoaf · 07/12/2018 23:06

Oh god my DH eats so loudly. It gives me the fucking rage. He also used to eat with his mouth open before I managed to get him to stop (mostly). He is wonderful and I know I do things that annoy him too so I try to just grit my teeth and bear it.

His whole family are like it... it's a real endurance having a meal with them. All I want to do is jump up and tell them all they're fucking disgusting and run screaming from the room.

Louiselouie0890 · 07/12/2018 23:45

No but he breathes really loud all the time it's annoying when watching a film

madcatladyforever · 07/12/2018 23:58

Thank God I live alone or I would kill I can tell you. Last christmas with my family was like animal house.
This year I'm spending it alone with my cat in blissful, wonderful silence.

lalafafa · 08/12/2018 00:11

I tell Dh all the time about his clacking, loud sucking. Drives me crazy. Why don’t people put crisp in their mouth to chew rather than snap each one with their teeth?

Lovingbenidorm · 08/12/2018 00:17

I would suspect that being irritated by the noises a loved one makes while eating is indicative of other problems...........

BillyAndTheSillies · 08/12/2018 00:28

DH and BIL do this. It sets my teeth on edge and really turns my stomach. I thought I'd get used to it but 8 years after meeting him my tolerance is actually decreasing and it's slowly driving me mad.

ChocolateTearDrops · 08/12/2018 00:44

And does anyone else's OH drink tea or coffee and let out an ahhh type sound after swallowing? I think it's an age thing. He's 56 and didn't do this 20 years ago

OH has just started doing this. I asked him to stop and he did. I'm still going to record him eating breakfast because I'm sure he doesn't realise how like his dad he is becoming how vile it sounds.

givemesteel · 08/12/2018 01:51

Urrrrgh, I have the same, it is awful. I have told him so many times but it leads to arguments so not worth it. Other people notice as well so I find it embarrassing. I just wonder how his parents brought him up to think that is acceptable.

Even more annoyingly I know he can control it as when I was really stabby in late pregnancy I told him he had to either eat elsewhere or control the noise level, he did the latter. But the chomping has just gradually filtered back in.

I actually wonder about doing something that pisses him off then saying that I will stop when he eats like a normal human being.

AlwaysSomethingThere · 08/12/2018 07:17

Lovingbenidorm - I see why people would think that but honestly it isn't. I love my Mum more than anything else in the world but if I hear her lips smack when she eats toast... misophonia is very hard to cope with

Magmatic80 · 08/12/2018 07:31

I find I am amazingly productive in another room when DP has soup. Which is every day before dinner not envy

cptartapp · 08/12/2018 07:36

DH has to stir his soup 20,00 times before he eats it, as he says it's too hot. Funny how the rest of us manage. Such drama. And the bashing of cutlery against his teeth! I do speak up but he doesn't seem to change! God knows what his work colleagues think.

ModreB · 08/12/2018 18:16

Oh god, I was thinking this the other day. Why do we have to have a soundtrack to each meal.

We have the grunt and aahh when he sits to the table.
We then have the chomp mmm chomp aahh while eating. Repeat each mouthful.

Then the scrape, scrape, scrape tap, to get the last bits on the plate.
And then the aahh, burp, aahh.

Hot drinks are Ooh, aahh, slurp, oohh, aaahh. Repeat for the duration of the hot drink. Cold drinks cut out the initial aaahh, but ffs, why?

I do love him dearly, but would love to lose the sounds.

Whataboutbobbo · 08/12/2018 18:49

Yep. Here too. Gross chomping and soup slurping. And tea slurping

Monkeynuts18 · 08/12/2018 19:17

My DH also bashes cutlery against his teeth! It makes me feel ill - doesn’t that hurt?!

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