To not want a jacket from the 1990s? Who's BU?

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Just that really. MIL is a hoarder and has still kept most of DHs stuff from his childhood. She bought round a leather jacket that he wore in 1999 when he was 9 years old, we're both 28 and have a DS who's 6, DH and MIL insist we keep it til DS can fit it. She's also a smoker, and smokes in her house so anything she brings round reeks of smoke. I don't want it, AIBU? I don't mind toys, but clothes really? From the 90s?

I don't know why the MIL is being brought into this.

This seems to be a conversation between the OP and her DH about his jacket.

dh and mil want ds to have it

let him have it, dont be churlish and ungrateful op

its sentimental, you can get the smell of smoke out of it and ds might like it!

"leather is still a popular look.
For 9 year olds??"

The Russian and Latvian Men who live around me all wear leather jackets and so do their Sons.

OP, that style is still for sale in the leather shops.

Charity shop it.

I’ve kept everything for when they have kids Really? Everything? I can’t begin to imagine how much space that would take up and the idea of keeping all my kids’ clothes in case they one day have kids is just mind boggling. One or two items maybe, but don’t you think they might like to choose their own stuff? The problem I see with the jacket is 1) it stinks 2) it won’t fit him for three years and 3) there will be a very short window when he can wear it anyway. The problem with hanging onto stuff for so long is that it takes on a ridiculous sentimental value that makes it harder to part with. I’d ask your son if he wants it. If he says no then take it to the charity shop. School reports is another matter entirely. I’d love to see those myself and I’m sure my kids would.

Don't see why the age matters as long as it is in good condition. Clothes should last and be able to be handed down, unlike the Primark crap you see today. The smoke would bother me though.

You have the following options:

1. Say thank you but no thank you
2. Accept it and clean it, then keep it or give it to charity

please DON'T put it in the bin and add it to the landfill mountain we already have

And the 1990s isn't the dark ages

I would just give it to a charity shop.

Partly because of the smoke thing and also because it’s very dated.

I don’t think it’s dated and so what if it is. Why do we have to be clones of each other
A good quality leather coat should last decades.

I’d love a old 60s or 70s one bout impossible to find now.

Much better than a cheaply primary plastic coat that will fill the land fill

Primark!

My daughter has a black, ribbed silk jacket made in Hong Kong in the 1950’s for MIL when she was a ships nurse. She started wearing it when she was 15 and even wore it to MIL’s funeral.

How do you know it looks very dated EdWinchester? Leather jacket design hasn't changed significantly over the years. Are you very young?

My dd (almost 9) would love that!! If you could get the smoke out of it I bet it would be a hit

If you don’t want if, I’ll absolutely genuinely come and collect it from you! I think your MIL has done you a bit of a favour to be honest.

I do sympathise with being on the receiving end of a hoarder though. I have an aunt who hoardes and even the social worker who was working with her says that we need to be firm and, when she tries to gift us genuine rubbish, to decline it and reiterate that most people do not keep this sort of stuff rather than accept and then throw it away on the quiet.

I’m struggling with the idea that something from 1985 is Vintage. God, I’m old.

Tell your dh that it’s his job to get the smell out of the jacket and then store it away somewhere.

Tell your mil that you don’t have space for stuff and in future could she not give you stuff 3 years early

Tell them both it will be ds’s choice whether to wear the jacket or not

Here here to jellybabies suggestions

90s will soon be vintage.

Clean it and eBay it or find a vintage clothing dealer.

for a 9 year old? not many vintage takers surely?
money for old rope, perhaps there are takers

We were given a child's leather jacket when dd was about 6, she looked great in it, and she loved it. In fact she could still wear it when she was about 11, and did so often.

Why not a leather jacket for a child? Does it have a Hell's Angel thing on the back, or a skull or something?

I don't agree that all old clothes should be thrown out.
Since my teens I've saved a few of my very favourite pieces of clothing. Not in a hoarder way but just because they were lovely and interesting. The velvet jacket I bought in 1976 got a wearing recently and looked fabulous.