To find this rude ?

[ILoveHumanity]

I have been helping this girl out so much and not an ounce of gratitude,

Hosted her in my home for free.. she asked me to and I felt bad not to.. stayed with her a full night while I have a baby because she wanted to chat about something important. She knew I wanted to sleep..

I live in a secure building, today I was out and came back home , been so tired from last night. I accidentally left the keys in the door, but the building is super secure.

The girl came back found the keys. Asked me if I left them out and I said

“Oops! Didn’t realise”.

She responded grumpily “just don’t leave the keys out again, it won’t be safe otherwise!”

She is just 19.. But I feel like if I was a guest in someone’s house asking them for favors upon favors I wouldn’t be telling them off like that.

AIBU to resent this and feel unappreciated? Or is this the straw that broke the camels back ?

Op I get you, I did same, helped someone out it just turned out to be the wrong person... The person who abused my kindness and in the end needed to be forcibly extracted out of my home it all turned ugly and I was heavily pregnant.

I was working she was living in my home for free refusing to take any jobs like me because it demeaned her.

Don't turn your back in future just find different ways to help if yiu want too.

Some people helped me out once and I was never rude like that I hope! And years on am still v great ful.

The trick is to keep a polite distance whilst helping someone. You can meet someone in a café and buy them a cup tea. You can go to CAB with them, help them fill in paperwork, google stuff for them, etc. But do not let them into your personal space or personal life until you've known them long enough to have formed a proper friendship.

If they are going to be ungrateful or selfish you will find out before you open your heart and your home to them.

You need to have boundaries and be prepared to hold them. If anyone asks for money or access to your property you just say 'No, I can't do that right now' and repeat the exact same phrase no matter how many times they ask. Don't get into discussion about anything that makes you uncomfortable, just state your stance and stick to it.

What is the date you set for her to leave?