Mild CF-ery!

[MinesaBottle]

I was working from home today and a delivery man came to the door with a parcel for next door. I was a bit reluctant to take it as I’m going out later and am unlikely to be in when she gets back.

He showed me the delivery slip and neighbour had instructed them to leave it with me if they weren’t in! Neighbour hasn’t been there long and I don’t know her at all; the guy agreed it was a bit cheeky of her to give my address without asking or mentioning it to me. Especially as she obviously has no idea if I’ll even be in, I’m normally out at work during the week as is DH! WIBU to have a gentle word when she comes to collect it?

Make sure sure has to wait days to get it. She won't do it again. Cf.

YANBU at all! Tell her that you're usually at work in the week and that she was lucky you were here this time. Also say that you'd prefer not to be her parcel drop-off point, thanks (small hallway/boxes underfoot get kicked - give a reason that will out her off).

Haha, definitely this! I don’t mind taking in parcels for neighbours but there is an etiquette about it!

Make sure sure has to wait days to get it. She won't do it again. Cf

This!! Definitely don't take it round.

Also, you can refuse, you don't have to take it in just because she nominated you.

I did refuse but the delivery guy was insistent - should have been more assertive. I certainly won’t take it round!

Apart from anything else she doesn’t even know me, I could be putting her stuff on eBay right now

My neighbours moved out a year ago but still order parcels to their unsold house so they'll be brought to everyone else (they now live in an area with no neighbours to take anything in).

No way do I take anything for them. Did it a couple of times and they took days to collect. Fuck that.

Yabu having a gentle word. YANBU having a very firm word!!! Cheeky is a kind way of putting it

When neighbour comes round, pretend you don’t know what she’s talking about, and you haven’t got the parcel.

Scranton it’ll be one way to get to know her I suppose

It’s irrationally annoyed me because of the assumption someone they don’t even know will be in and take their parcel! I happily take parcels in for other neighbours and they for me but giving a stranger’s address as an alternative takes the piss a bit.

I had a parcel delivered today, my parcel. The label read ‘neighbour if not in’ which is an instruction I never gave. Maybe that’s what happened in this case?

I get this all the time - sometimes I have 10 parcels in my house as neighbours never answer door as work shifts and some just ignore. The dpd guy was a complete arse with me the other day when I got huffy with him (had been at hosp with my ds all night and he still knocked on my door even with a note on it) he called me miserable I told him not doing it again. The day after despite us having a safe place etc mr amazon knocked at every neighbour and not one would take it (he told me yesterday) so I'm taking fuck all from now on. They can fucking go and collect them from now on - total cheeky fuckery!

My neighbour has started just putting my house as the delivery address. Hasn't asked.

My neighbour has started just putting my house as the delivery address. Hasn't asked

Refuse the parcel at the door. You don't have to accept anything.

Yunalis, again, when s/he turns up to collect, tell them you have no idea what they’re talking about.

I don't see the problem? I always ask delivery drivers to knock on my neighbours door before taking my parcel away again. She does the same with me. We aren't friends or anything but both of us know how frustrating it is to come home to a 'sorry I missed you' card.
It is a very simple act of kindness and I think not doing it is a little mean spirited.

Nope, it had my actual house number on the delivery info, he showed me as I was trying to refuse. Oh well, I’m off out in ten minutes so she’ll have to wait till tomorrow!

I stayed home yesterday for a delivery, mine never turned up but I ended up taking 3 separate deliveries for my neighbour, including a 6foot fake tree (not Christmas tree).

I was fuming. I'm in work today and I bet no one takes my delivery!

Minesa when she turns up be all vague "now where did I put it?" Make her wait. Cheeky mare.

Her, not you!

If you don't know her, I would demand some form of identification and proof of address from her before handing anything over.

Zeeboo, it’s not the same as a generic “if out, try neighbours” note though. The CF has said, “if out, leave it with OP.” Having never met or duscussed with OP first.

It’s a very simple act of cheeky fuckery, is what is is.

Oh and dpd guy showed me they had put my address in and said leave with xyz- didn't ask me either. To be honest when there are so many click collect places or leave in safe place I think it's really rude to order stuff and expect someone else to take it in for you especially if you aren't prepared to return the favour.

Bit odd to specifically put your address down but I thought taking in parcels for each other was standard neighbourly behaviour (unless there's some circumstance e.g. newborn baby or disability which would make it inconvenient).

The only time it would bother me if it was huge and they were away for weeks.

I don't mind taking in parcels but I agree it's a bit cheeky to just assume you'd be happy to. I'd call them out on it when they came round to pick it up.

We have agreed to take parcels in for our neighbours, it's not usually a problem. However, they are often away (for a couple of months at a time) and still keep ordering stuff, even though they know they won't be at home for weeks. This annoys me.