To fear I may have overreacted

[Boomah]

I'll try and keep a long story short.
I woke up very grumpy this morning after a bad nights sleep. My DH occasionally has night terrors and last night he had one and it's terrifying, he screams with so much anger and it's hard to wake him from it. It's not the best way to start the day so, although I know rationally it's not his fault and he can't help it, I was snappy this morning at 6am. We went back to sleep but ended up all getting up later than usual.
Anyway so we all get up ready to do the school run. I have an interview today so DH is taking them to school. He has a habit of taking his time in the mornings, a nice long shower, 'drying off' in a towel. However we all got up a little later than usual so I was abit miffed that he went to have a shower 30 minutes before he and the kids were due to leave, leaving me to get them ready/make lunches/get packed ect. I got it done, and he's still in the shower 15 minutes later. I figured I would give him a scare and get him moving, and also apologise for snapping, so I unlocked the door quietly and after a moment or two I realised he was masturbating! I was furious. They had to leave in 15 minutes, he's gone and left me to do every thing, I've come to say sorry and he thinks it's an appropriate time to have a wank? (Btw don't have a problem with that although it did take me by surprise, in 10 years I've never caught him out and didn't really know how to react anyway)
So he's pissed off with me for still being angry with him, I'm pissed off that he's an inconsiderate prick. But I fear I've over reacted here. Would anyone else be annoyed?

I’d be annoyed too - given you have an interview, he should have been taking responsibility for the kids so you could get ready and feel calm and prepared. He was being selfish.

Fucking hell! YANBU!

What the hell was he thinking? His timing is terrible? I would be mad too, not about the wanking, but about the timing. Very, very selfish.

I don't think you've overreacted at all. Yes, the night terrors aren't his fault, but neither are they yours, and with an interview, you deserve special consideration this morning, not someone taking a leisurely shower at the last minute and some special private time with his penis.

The mastubation thing is really odd, in fact. Who can get aroused in a busy morning routine full of lunchboxes and schoolbags and shouting TEETH! at small people, especiually when you know you need to leave in five minutes?

He owes you a massive apology.

I'd be very annoyed.

Not about the wanking but about his selfishness whilst you're having to run around like a blue arsed fly. Guess you know why he takes so long in the shower now.

I'd be angry too. What a time to crack one off as if he's got all the time in the world!

Hope he apologises to you OP.

YWBU for unlocking the door though - if he'd unlocked the door when you were in there (regardless of your activity!) you'd be pissed off.
Maybe it's his way of getting over the night terror?
But yes he should have stepped up & helped.
You're both in the wrong. Apologise to each other and move on.

YANBU!

He's being completely selfish in not helping with the morning routine, especially as he knew you had a busy schedule.

I'd also be furious that he was masturbating like some entitled little wanker. Just my personal standpoint, but DH knows full well he's not permitted to masturbate and any sexual relief he's permitted is entirely my decision.

Oh fucking hell.

You absolutely did not overreact.

I'm angry on your behalf. What an absolutely selfish wanker (I'm being polite there!!)

There are no words! Is this level of selfish normal for him?

Kissedbyfire, I agreed with you until you said your DH isn't permitted to masturbate. You realise that is abusive behaviour right? Awful. I can't believe I've even just read that!

Ew. So you're rushing round getting the kids ready and he's in the next room cracking one off??

I would be fuming.

I'm assuming they were joking dream 🤔

DH knows full well he's not permitted to masturbate and any sexual relief he's permitted is entirely my decision

WTF?

Kissedbyfire, I agreed with you until you said your DH isn't permitted to masturbate. You realise that is abusive behaviour right? Awful. I can't believe I've even just read that!"

If he's willingly agreed to enter chastity under my supervision that's between him and me, and not abuse.

Anyways the main point is the OP has a genuine grievance here and her husband needs to be held accountable for being selfish and placing all the burden on herself.

id be pretty pissed off too. A fucking 15 minute wank while youre running late and doing every other fucking thing that he was supposed to be doing. What a selfish dick

I'd also be annoyed it doesn't matter whether he was wanking or reading the paper, he was doing something that didn't need to be done while you get the kids ready single handedly.

I'd also be furious that he was masturbating like some entitled little wanker. Just my personal standpoint, but DH knows full well he's not permitted to masturbate and any sexual relief he's permitted is entirely my decision.

Not relevant to OP (who is totally justified in being annoyed) but what on earth? You sound incredibly controlling. It's not "entitled" to masturbate. His body his decision. OP's DH just chose a completely inconsiderate time to do it.

did you unlock the door or just opened it?
how was it locked?

i think there is a time and a place for a wank and before the school run isn't it...

If he's willingly agreed to enter chastity under my supervision that's between him and me, and not abuse.

Dear me. Do you hand about in a dungeon in a basque, Kissing?

Ooh no, YANBU at all, it's not at all about what he was doing, it's about the fact that he wasn't helping at all when you have an important morning.

Good luck with the interview!

RangeRinder it was intended as a prank, I promise you under different circumstances he would have found it funny and be plotting ways to get me back :)
Thanks to everyone else. It's genuinely not an issue with the act itself, I understand it's normal and I do it too, but at appropriate times. I even bother to lock the bathroom door because I'm never afforded peace and quiet 😂

Its not what he was doing but the fact that he was taking time to do stuff he wanted (regardless of what is was) when the priority should have been to get everyone ready and out and let you have time for your interview

He was incredibly selfish

Dear me. Do you hand about in a dungeon in a basque, Kissing?

I'm not into any of that stuff thank you so I don't know why you choose to mention that on this thread.

Who can get aroused in a busy morning routine full of lunchboxes and schoolbags and shouting TEETH! at small people, especiually when you know you need to leave in five minutes?

...not many people, but he wasn’t doing any of that, he was leaving it all to her to do, before she has an interview and he’ll probably want a pat on the back for doing the school run too. Selfish twat.

You’re not over reacting Boomah. He should have taken the responsibility for the children this morning, not left it all to you.

KissedByFire. You’re quite enjoying your controversial posts this morning aren’t you...

He’s a very selfish man and needs to apologise to you for being a lazy f####r.