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AIBU to be abt annoyed by this....

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KTMP16 · 05/12/2018 10:26

So basically we live dead close 2 a shop and my partner will nip around there more evenings than not picking up milk etc My problem is...he never asks or looks what else we need and its driving me mad!

The other day i took my little un to school and came back home in the pouring rain....so i make a brew...change into pj pants cos my jeans are soaked thru... everything goes off, leccy run out! My other half cant understand why i would be irritated by this! He'd been to the shop the night before i dont understand whats so hard about just checking to see if theres owt else needed before he goes!

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Pinkyyy · 05/12/2018 10:28

Why don't you just tell him to being back what you know you need?

SoyDora · 05/12/2018 10:32

I suppose because if you live ‘dead close’ it’s easy enough to pop back out if you need something else?

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KTMP16 · 05/12/2018 10:35

I didnt know we needed it. If i was off to the shop id open the fridge see what we need...and check the gas n leccy! Maybe its just a man thing to not think of things like that! It annoys me more when he askswhat we need....cos he cud jsut go and see himself? He knows what we use !

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KTMP16 · 05/12/2018 10:36

soydora yes it wasnt a major emergency,just something that ticked me off after id come in soaked thru n got changed etc

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Pinkyyy · 05/12/2018 10:37

But if he's not doing a full shop you can't expect him to replenish everything. Sounds like he's just popping to get milk, I don't see the issue here

FluffyMcCloud · 05/12/2018 10:37

This would annoy me too!

Biggles398 · 05/12/2018 10:38

I get your frustration over stuff that's in the fridge (or not in this case), but not sure you can get cross about the electricity as surely you would also know how low it is, especially if you're only 2 minutes away from the shop?

Drogosnextwife · 05/12/2018 10:41

Or you could have checked it and got it on the way home, just a thought.

VictoryOrValhalla · 05/12/2018 10:43

Why all the txt spk? This isn’t Facebook.

DorothyLNaySayers · 05/12/2018 10:47

I don't get the connection with the shop and the electricity going out?

PorpentinaScamander · 05/12/2018 10:48

Get smart meters then you can top up from your phone. I don't even need to be at home to know my gas and electric are low.

Have you told DP it would be useful if he checked what else you need? No you shouldn't have to but maybe he's just not used to it.

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KTMP16 · 05/12/2018 10:49

Drogosnextwife touche` Say we both must know its low - who should check it? The person going to the shop anyway for something else - or the person going out somewhere else (in the rain)?

VictoryOrValhalla Do u mean me? I cnt c much txtspk on dis thread tbh but ddnt kno spelling and punctuation was being judged!!! Grin sum ppl av 2 much time on der handz innit m8!

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KTMP16 · 05/12/2018 10:52

DorothyLNaySayers we have a card so we have to go and top it up when it runs out

PorpentinaScamander Didnt actually know this was possible, I willlook into that because that would be very handy! Thanks :-)

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CrazyOldBagLady · 05/12/2018 10:53

There’s an app called Wunderlist you can use for shared lists. You can both add and tick off stuff on the list and whoever is at the shop can check what’s needed whilst they are there. It’s been really useful for us. You have to remember to add things to it though but it works well if you get into the habit.

VictoryOrValhalla · 05/12/2018 10:54

Do u mean me? I cnt c much txtspk on dis thread tbh

I do. Look harder!

sum ppl av 2 much time on der handz innit m8!

Or not enough, if they can’t use full words.

SleepingStandingUp · 05/12/2018 10:56

Agree if he's popping to the shop he could have checked the meter. But also if I was going out I would have checked it. So you're equally responsible for running out.

Tinty · 05/12/2018 11:09

ddnt kno spelling and punctuation was being judged!!!

You can't have been on mumsnet very long if you didn't know that! Grin

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KTMP16 · 05/12/2018 11:12

I thought perhaps you didnt understand text speak to I was giving you a demonstration. "language regarded as characteristic of text messages, consisting of abbreviations, acronyms, initials, emoticons, etc."
I wasnt aware that Queens English was required on an online thread.
Sincerest of apologies for upsetting you. Have a nice day x

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PorpentinaScamander · 05/12/2018 11:13

KTMP16 mine is with 'boost'. I just have an app. They email me when it's low and I top up via the app. It couldn't be easier

BlankTimes · 05/12/2018 11:15

Maybe its just a man thing to not think of things like that!

No, it's not a man thing, it's a person who doesn't see that they need to share responsibility for running the household thing. Try explaining to him, nicely, what he needs to do.

The app CrazyOldBagLady suggested seems as though it could be a good solution for both of you, as long as he doesn't expect only you to make all the lists all the time.

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KTMP16 · 05/12/2018 11:16

Tinty Yes, im new here. I thought surely people arent that pedantic?

The way that message was spelt was a joke by the way, incase anyone didnt get that - to make a point that the original message wasnt actually what most would consider to be text speak.

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Drogosnextwife · 05/12/2018 11:16

Ah bit you said he went to the shop last night he either forgot or didn't bother, you were out this morning and either forgot or didn't bother. Surely you knew he didn't get it last night! Do you not speak to each other. Unfortunate as it is some men need to be walked through life with someone holding their hand and telling them exactly what to do. My dp is one of those men. He is oblivious yo everything around him. These men can not be trusted with menial tasks 😂

Arkansrazer · 05/12/2018 11:18

Ah come on - soaked thru, bad hair/face/body day trying to juggle everything and get changed out of wet clothes and the lekkie's off!!! Who else would you blamewww.mumsnet.com/emo/te/2.gif.pagespeed.ce.pqlGYGVWqX.gifwww.mumsnet.com/emo/te/x4.gif.pagespeed.ic.-btgXlP15N.png

Pinkyyy · 05/12/2018 11:20

@KTMP16 didn't you know that 90% of Mumsnet have a degree in the English language? And they will call you out for the smallest error

VictoryOrValhalla · 05/12/2018 11:20

Grin I know what txt spk is OP. It’s what you used instead of ‘to’, ‘could’, ‘through’ ‘because’