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AIBU?

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Nursery worker babysitting?

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NoFoxGiven · 03/12/2018 20:35

DH has found a handwritten note in DC's bag from DC's main nursery worker offering babysitting services with her number on it.

Whilst I (a parent of a DC who has a fantastic worker who can get her to nap) can see the appeal, when speaking to other friends who are parents, they've said they felt it crossed a line.

Was she BU to do this?

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DaisyDando · 03/12/2018 20:36

I would have loved it.

Orlande · 03/12/2018 20:37

Many of the staff babysat at my dc nursery.

Livpool · 03/12/2018 20:37

I think it is fine

YourMilkshakeIsBetterThanMine · 03/12/2018 20:37

Not at all, it's really common. Someone qualified who I trust and who is known to my child? Yes please! We don't all have a queue of relatives offering to do it for free.

LadyGregorysToothbrush · 03/12/2018 20:38

What line did it cross? People are so bloody weird

HouseOfGoldandBones · 03/12/2018 20:38

Brilliant idea.

I used to use DS's nursery worker for babysitting.

I knew they were reliable, fully checked, already had a relationship with DS, etc.

I had to ask at nursery though.

If it doesn't work for you, just throw the note away.

OnoAnotherNC · 03/12/2018 20:38

Yep. I'd love this

jeanlou1se · 03/12/2018 20:39

I don’t think she is BU. It’s quite common for some nursery workers to do this. I guess they don’t get paid a lot so do it as a way to top up their wages? If others are uncomfortable with it, all they need to say is no thank you.

Hogtini · 03/12/2018 20:39

A lot do this. Why wouldn't you want someone with a DBS, knows your child and is employed in a position of trust looking after your dc?

FilledSoda · 03/12/2018 20:40

It happens all the time , perfectly normal.

missyB1 · 03/12/2018 20:41

Totally normal in a lot of nurseries.

mamaslave18 · 03/12/2018 20:41

My children’s nursery don’t allow it.

Noodledoodledoo · 03/12/2018 20:41

I have used a number of my nursery workers to babysit for me, one left 2 years ago and has a day off in the week which has proved very useful a number of times. One was my backup plan for labour for number 2, another bought my children home for me on the day of my grandma's funeral.

A huge huge help for me with zero local support.

user1493413286 · 03/12/2018 20:42

I’d think that was great; someone who your DC knows and you also know has been checked. By putting in a note she’s not putting anyone in an awkward position as if they don’t want to use her they just don’t respond

thelonggame · 03/12/2018 20:42

This is perfectly normal, at least it was when my now adult children where that age.

Onatreebyariver · 03/12/2018 20:42

It's very common. My sons keyworker at pre school offered this to us and we bit her hand off. Son loves her and she has babysat for us for 2 years now even though DS is now at school.

Lovely for your child's nursery worker to offer.

Thesearmsofmine · 03/12/2018 20:42

It’s perfectly normal and means your child is looked after by someone you trust and their terrible wages get a boost.

Hortonlovesahoo · 03/12/2018 20:43

I'd love this. Our previous nursery offered it but our new one has a strict rules against it. As others have said: it's a valuable life line when you have little support networks around you

HavelockVetinari · 03/12/2018 20:45

I would absolutely love this, in fact I was wondering whether it's allowed to ask at nursery if any of the lovely staff in his room do babysitting!

WillyNilly00 · 03/12/2018 20:46

This is not unheard of but is against policy at many nurseries. Some childcare providers feel it blurs lines and may not be in the best interests of the company. I am a designated safeguarding lead and babysitting is actively discouraged as it can cause issues for a setting.

Paddingtonthebear · 03/12/2018 20:47

I would check with the nursery owner/manager. At our nursery it was not allowed and It was written in staff contracts that they couldn’t babysit for customers

theonlyKevin · 03/12/2018 20:47

What's wrong with that? She obviously can be trusted.

Some nurseries don't allow their staff to babysit for the parents, and for at least 6 months after the child has left the place, which is frankly ridiculous.

The other parents are ridiculous, she wasn't begging, she offers a service, they can just ignore it if they don't need her.

cariadlet · 03/12/2018 20:51

I would have loved this when dd was little. My parents lived pretty far away and my PIL looked after dd on her non-nursery days so I didn't like to ask them to baby sit as well. We ended up not just going out for quite a few years.

Oobis · 03/12/2018 20:56

I'd be more than happy for a trained professional, presumably with child first aid etc, who knows my child to offer their services as a babysitter. You don't have to take it up - where's the harm?

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NoFoxGiven · 03/12/2018 20:56

I asked them to elaborate and all they could say was "it's just wrong". I thought I was missing something?! Is there a reason some nurseries don't allow it?

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