To feel rather inadequate next to younger, cleverer and seemingly more woke men?

[forceofhabitandnotneed]

I've always considered myself reasonably intelligent, open-minded, sensitive, respectful and pro-feminist.

Nowadays I look at all of these millennial guys who seem to have this air of intellectual self-confidence, be open about their feelings and loudly demonstrate their awesome wokeness, and I just worry about looking like a tedious lump of middle-aged, mansplaning pomposity.

Is it too late to stop a pathetic pig like me sliding down the dating dumpster?

Can anyone explain this thread to me. I’m in my 40s, so it sounds like I should know about it.

I’ll tell you what I absolutely don’t have time for, and that’s propping up the ego of a man bewailing his own inadequacies.

Wokeness!!!

I doubt many women regardless their age have the patience for "wokeness" .

Are you a feminist because you believe in equal rights for all humans, or because you see it as a shortcut in to womens pants. If the former, then how are these younger guys relevant to you.

Indeed, Buttered.

Go buy a soft top sports car, OP. Or a Harley. If you're having a midlife crisis, do it properly.

You’re not competing with other men to win a woman and nobody has an ‘edge’ on you. Worrying about not being ‘woke’ enough kind of suggests you’re either hoping to attract somebody by pretending to hold values that you don’t, or you think women are all attracted to the same things like we’re some kind of hive mind without our own thoughts and preferences. You’re either compatible with someone or you’re not.

I (a young woman) think young men who loudly broadcast their wokeness are inevitably tedious. Likewise for people who are always going on about how sensitive and in touch with their feelings they are. I can't believe women in their forties are any more tolerant of this than I am.

Kindness, respectfulness and sensitivity are not qualities that you can broadcast, but they are important and make themselves known. I always notice whether a man talks about themselves all the time, or if they ask me questions about myself like they really want to know the answers.

So I'd say don't worry too much OP.

Just be your best self and stop worrying. Confidence is attractive. Oh, and ignore those who say feminist is an insult, because it’s bloody well not.

If you don’t know what wine means google it. No need to highjack someone’s thread because you don’t understand words, that’s not OP’s fault.

*woke not wine!

Then change ? I don't see the problem? How fake is this?