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To not give my ex £300

43 replies

whaaatthe · 02/12/2018 13:52

He helped me out looking after dc for 4 days last week so obviously missed out on a few days work, I was going to say don't bother giving me the £50 cm, and he's asked for £300! He's saying he's skint but £300? Really?

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DontCallMeCharlotte · 02/12/2018 13:53

Are they his children?

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whaaatthe · 02/12/2018 13:54

Yes, only the one

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TyrionsNextWife · 02/12/2018 13:57

He’ll probably need it for all the crack he’s smoking 😂
£300 to look after his own child is taking the piss, especially since he’s only paying £50cm!!

MrsTommyBanks · 02/12/2018 13:58

He wants £300 for caring for his own child for four days?
I'm gobsmacked.

gamerchick · 02/12/2018 13:58

Tell him to skip the CM for this month if you want and tell him if he wants to go down that route then he needs to make it fair when you're looking after child so he can work and he's welcome to up the CM to reflect that if he thinks 300 quid is fair for 4 days.

Absentwomen · 02/12/2018 13:59

What do YOU think, you should do?

Blankscreen · 02/12/2018 14:02

I guess that is how much he has missed out on had he been working.

I would saty that if he wants that rate then it works both ways and you want £75 a day when you are looking after her.

What a dick

FissionChips · 02/12/2018 14:03

Just tell him to fuck off.

ElideLochan · 02/12/2018 14:05

laugh at him! thats all he deserves

I would saty that if he wants that rate then it works both ways and you want £75 a day when you are looking after her. this

Hengine · 02/12/2018 14:14

Did he look after them to allow you to work?

Hengine · 02/12/2018 14:15

Also if he only pays £50 through cms he can’t be earning much?

HollowTalk · 02/12/2018 14:15

Why did you ask him last week in particular? Who would normally have looked after them? How much does he earn?

FrangipaniBlue · 02/12/2018 14:17

Both DH and I lose money if we stay home to look after DS.

It's called "life with kids".

Tell him to jog on.

Maelstrop · 02/12/2018 14:17

How many days a week do you have your DC? Tell him you want paying proper cm per daily rate. He's a fucking idiot.

Hengine · 02/12/2018 14:19

But surely you would share that cost so it’s not comparable

dontalltalkatonce · 02/12/2018 14:20

I'd laugh. And then tell him NFW he's getting 300 quid for looking after his own kid for 4 days and ring off.

Bluntness100 · 02/12/2018 14:21

This can't be real. He's asked you to pay him three hundred quid to look after his own kid for four days.

He's not a child minder. He's the father. He has a responsibility. You don't get paid to look after your kid.

Don't do it, becayse it will set a precedent where you need to pay him to look after his child.

Tell him to do one. Or politely explain that you don't get paid for looking after your own kid. And he should still pay his child maintenance.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 02/12/2018 14:21

Work our a band 1 reduction on child support for that month. It’s not £300.

CrunchieFriday · 02/12/2018 14:25

He wants £300 for looking after HIS OWN CHILD????!!

Tell him it doesn't work like that. No-one gets paid for looking after their own children FFS.

What a twunt.

BewareOfDragons · 02/12/2018 14:26

"Now you know how far your piddly £50 A MONTH goes towards the care and support of YOUR child. Get a grip. You need to step up more, not less, financially."

Although "Fuck off" is shorter and quicker.

Torn.

PonyPals · 02/12/2018 14:26

This is a repeat thread. You have posted the same thing before. What different advice could you possibly be looking for Hmm

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whaaatthe · 02/12/2018 14:39

This isn't a repeat thread?

He looked after dd Tuesday till Friday because I wasn't very well. I didn't work. He gives £50 per week I put cm as child maintenance. I have dd all week and he has her on the weekends

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whaaatthe · 02/12/2018 14:40

I understand he might be skint but there's days I miss work due to dd being poorly etc and I don't ask him to top up my wages

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Userplusnumbers · 02/12/2018 14:41

If he's earning 300 quid for 4 days work, he needs to be upping his CM contributions

HellenaHandbasket · 02/12/2018 14:42

Have some fun working out what that daily rate makes his new maintenance payments. 😂

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