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To make a move on my DH?

40 replies

Elmoespanol · 30/11/2018 21:19

DH and I have been through a very bad patch over the past few months. Things finally seem like they are getting better and we are about 60% back to normal.

We haven't had sex in about 5-6 weeks. Maybe partly to do with bad patch but also generally being busy with work and children, a period of illness, etc.

I've suddenly felt like today is the day to make my move. I'm currently waiting for DC to fall asleep and wondering if this is a good idea or not?

Im planning on having a shower and goibg dowbstairs to surprise him. However, if he's not into the idea, this could be a massive set back. Really unsure of what to do. Please help!

OP posts:
CarrieBlu · 30/11/2018 21:20

Break the stalemate.

Sethis · 30/11/2018 21:23

Don't just grab his cock.

Be affectionate. Start slow and see if he's into it.

Aquamarine1029 · 30/11/2018 21:25

Of course it's a good idea! Go for it!

Original poster
Elmoespanol · 30/11/2018 21:29

Gah...still unsure. He doesn't really do subtle so it'll be a case of walking downstairs naked and shocking him unto action Grin

This could massively backfire though....I'm worried.

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JudasPrudy · 30/11/2018 21:30

You could always go in for a kiss and try to snog him.

Neverender · 30/11/2018 21:31

Do it!

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Elmoespanol · 30/11/2018 21:32

judas he's not really the kissing type. It really is all or nothing.

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bigchris · 30/11/2018 21:33

Not the kissing type?!

Ask him to have a shower with you, that's not subtle !

SausageSimon · 30/11/2018 21:36

"I'm just off to get a shower, are you coming?" Grin

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Elmoespanol · 30/11/2018 21:37

What do I do if he rejects me?

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Crazyfrog007 · 30/11/2018 21:38

DO IT!!! Or grab him by the hand and drag him up to the shower....

Crazyfrog007 · 30/11/2018 21:39

If he's got any sense, he won't. If he does, just head back upstairs to bed.

Adviceforhouse · 30/11/2018 21:39

Go for it!! I know what you mean tho, I’ve been with OH for over 10 years but still get worried about making that first move, usually a glass of wine helps Grin xx

MrsCatE · 30/11/2018 21:48

At least wear a dab of perfume behind the ears and a smile [wink.]. awaiting outcome with bated breath! X

MrsCatE · 30/11/2018 21:49
Wink
Bluemascara4 · 30/11/2018 21:50

Just go for it !

Good luck 😉

cablewable · 30/11/2018 21:53

I've gone upstairs all cosied up in my pjs and dressing gown and then come back down in just my dressing gown. He had no idea until I got up 'to make tea' and it came undone GrinGrin it worked! Haha

Redcherries · 30/11/2018 21:54

Hope it gets the results op!

I’m with him kissing wise, I love and fancy Dh to pieces but I find kissing claustrophobic and unsettling unless completely in the right frame of mind. We can’t all enjoy the same things.

Redcherries · 30/11/2018 21:55

Cross post in the best way 😁

HeffalumpsDaughter · 30/11/2018 21:55

That was quick work!

Ariesgirl1988 · 30/11/2018 21:58

Why ask him to come up to the shower with you and "scub your back"? failing that just ask him fancy me tonight instead of your hand? he'll defo pick up on that no so subtle hint Wink

Ariesgirl1988 · 30/11/2018 21:59

oh never mind seen your post nice work :)

ChocolateStash · 30/11/2018 21:59

Go for it. He's might be as worried as you and be happy for you to break the ice. Good luck! Smile

cablewable · 30/11/2018 22:00

Ooo I'm not op... that's just what I did.... as an idea. Sorry Blush

HeffalumpsDaughter · 30/11/2018 22:02

Oh sorry cable! I wasn’t paying attention. I’m going to assume the fact that op has gone quiet is a good thing.