Would you date your friends son?

[hlob]

Absolutely pointless thread. He hasn't shown the remotest bit of interest in me that way 😂

But older friends adult son is really quite lovely

(She's about 35 years older than me, he's about 10 years younger) or something like that

So I'm definitely not going to since he's not in the slightest interested but is that a really creepy thought? (Never going to tell her)

Denise/Kush

Or go wash brain with bleach at this slight crush?

Ew. No.

I wouldn't like it but don't think it's creepy.. xx

It’s creepy AF. Sorry.

Nothing wrong with admiring him from afar.

I don't think it's creepy but could potentially be a nightmare for your friendship.

No, that would be extremely weird.

Oh there's everything wrong with it - my loyalty is with her

Just wondered how bad it is in secret to have thought it

He'd be mortified if he ever knew anyway probably!

To make clear though - he is an adult by quite a few years! I don't fancy a child

A friend of mine was 18-19 when he had sex with his mum's friend while she was babysitting his much younger sister She was a relatively recent friend so hadn't known him as a child under about 15/16... I remember how shocked he was about how upset his mum was. Don't do it!

I don't have a chance to even if I wanted to and it was not weird so it won't actually ever happen

I have. It was fine. He and I were rightly the same age, we got on like a house on fire and shagged a lot. He and I were in our 20s, she early 40s. He wasn’t living st home. That would have been weird. Thus was 20+ years ago in a different city. Totally lost touch with him, still hear from her from time to time. probably the shaggiest reationshio i’ve ever had

Depends on what those ten years are... 32 and 22, probably not. 45 and 35, crack on!

I can't imagine.. I tell her my wildest secrets. This one I obviously will keep to myself!

It's very weird and cringeworthy. Just curious, do you have friends or had partners closer to your age or do you always go for big age gaps?
I always think that other women are very clued up when a woman in the vicinity fancies a man..we just tend to spot these things...so i'd tred carefully if you value the friendship! go out dating?

WhoGivesADamnForAFlakeyBandit

That’s grim... who are these women who do this?! It would be good to hear from one on MN trying to justify their behaviour.

Ps OP. It all depends on how old he is... If you’re 26 and he’s 16, then creepy as fuck. If you’re 50
and he’s 40, maybe that’s ok!

so no in answer to your question, no i wouldn't. there is no shortage of men..... in fact have to fight them off with a stick

Probably not, but if you are both over 40, I don’t think it is an absolutely horrible idea.

I had a friend who married her friend's son. She was 30 and he 24 when they got together. It was all well and good when they were married, when the grandkids came. His Mum was even a bridesmaid (that I did think weird as she wasn't with her son on the morning of his wedding!) and said it was great because she was so close to her DIL.

Right up until the marriage crumbled and my friend lost her her husband and her best mate at the same time. Plus things she'd confided in her friend before the relationship were suddenly brought up and thrown at her. It got seriously ugly.

Not in a million years.

I think probably he's just very nice and I have had a shit time with men and projecting my safety in the friendship into thinking he's very nice ... she's like a mum to me as well as a friend

I'm closer to his age than hers

No. It's not so much the age gap but your friend would become your mil.

Be far worse if she didn't become my mil

I can't imagine how explaining/crying over that break up would work to his mum!!!

You need to give the ages?

Noooo - mind bleach, deffo

Not a good idea. Would be in a way similar to dating a friend's ex.