To not want to use exes Christmas decs?

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I'm probably being unreasonable. My mother says I am but understands why I'm feeling a bit weird about it.
Around 2 years ago my ex and I were briefly separated. I moved back to my parents and he kept the flat we had rented. He spent 6 months in a casual relationship last year with another woman which happened to be over the Christmas period.
We rekindled our romance at the beginning of this year and are very much back together and happy.

The AIBU is, his 'ex' went out and bought all new Xmas decorations for our tree. (That we had bought together the year before, I think it was a case of she didn't want any part of me at his house). Now however the tables have turned and I feel slightly uncomfortable decorating OUR Xmas tree this year with decorations that she bought.
It's not that I'm trying to be petty because I know that it's just decorations but every time I look at that tree I'll think of her.
I'm not bitter about him being with her; we were not in a great place relationship wise and it took us both being with other people to realise that we still loved each other, it's more that I just want my own touch and not hers this year.
He's happy to buy more with me if I really need to but said it would just be easier to use the ones he's already got in the loft.
Would anyone else feel the same or should I suck it up and just decorate the tree with the stuff he's already got available?

I’d get rid.

yanbu

Buy new, especially as he agrees you can, you would look and remember the bad memories using hers I expect

Donate them to charities and buy new ones.

there is no way I'd use the stuff she bought! Take it to the charity shop or similar and start afresh.

If you don't want to use them, donate them and buy new.

Yeah donate!

Phew! I'm definitely not just feeling weird about it then because I'm being petty!
Thank you, I will definitely be buying all new this year.
Really nice idea about donating to charity too as they are pretty decent decs from John Lewis.

YANBU Why are they in the loft and not the bin long since.

DH and I unpack our tree decs every year and we can trace our whole 27 years together and our DC through them. Someone else in among them is beyond comprehension to me,

@howabout that's how I felt when I found out she had binned everything we had ever bought over the years together. There were 5 years worth of our own stuff all gone but I'm happy to start again.

You don’t need a reason to buy new decorations, just pass them on /donate etc . Christmas decks aren’t usually that expensive. Your dp agrees.

The whole back story does make you seem a bit needy.

Definitely time for a new start and new memories.

It’s one of those things that is really subjective. Some people wouldn’t care, others wouldn’t even contemplate using them. Neither view is unreasonable IMO. If you don’t like the idea and you would feel wierd, just replace them.

You can’t help how you feel! Definitely donate them and make a fun day out of getting new ones together [santa]

I’d probably pick out the ones I particularly liked and send the rest to charity

Chuck chuck chuck!! (Donate)

There is no way I would use them.

You don't seem needy at all OP

Thanks @lazymare I didn't think so neither. Always one though isn't there.

no way would I use them.

I love Christmas decorations and like choosing them, so would feel really anonymous using any bag of someone else's decorations.
But really, ones he chose with and ex? That is like having a picture of her round the house! No.

Not needy, and not weird, perfectly normal.

Ignore your mother, who care what she thinks. I'm so done with people/family hoisting their opinions on how I should think/feel etc. I would feel exactly the same as you and would be buying new decorations asap. Any charity shops would be well pleased with decent decorations to sell on at this time of year.

that should read foisting btw.

Yes there may always be one ! Thank goodness for that.ill take that any day over having to start a debate over wether to get rid of Christmas decorations

YANBU at all, it’s perfectly reasonable and I’d feel the same.

Get new! The others belong on ebay/charity shop.