Disgusting toilet

[NutElla5x]

So my son has recently moved away for work and is flat sharing with two other lads.I went round for the first time at the weekend and was nearly sick when I needed to use the loo and saw the state of it!Would I be unreasonable to bring round stuff to clean it next time I visit?And what would I need? It looks like it's never ever been cleaned and there is probably decades of built up limescale and grime down the pan not envy

I'd give them a bottle of bleach, a clean loo brush and a cleaning sponge and say 'your loo is disgusting, if you ever bring any partners back here you've no chance of getting lucky' hopefully that will spur them on!! 😂

Nope I don't think he ever has cleaned a loo to be honest lynnepot

He's lived there two weeks. In that time, clearly none of them have decided to Google "how to get limescale off a toilet". It clearly doesn't bother them that much. It's their loo - they can keep it how they like.

Why you have assumed that it's somehow your job just because "it was like that when they moved in" is the bit that sounds mollycoddling.

Haha sounds like a plan Drivenmad80 though I think a skip full of bleach would be more like the amount I would need to deliver!

The lads he's moved in with have lived their longer than 2 weeks though SendintheArdwolves which is why I don't see it as my son's fault,and why I feel I should do him a favour.

The lads he's moved in with have lived their longer than 2 weeks though SendintheArdwolves which is why I don't see it as my son's fault,and why I feel I should do him a favour

Are you doing him a favour though?

A) you've said you don't think he knows how to clean a toilet - it would be more of a favour to give him a chance to learn this lifeskill

B) That his mummy bustles in and cleans up after him will make him look like a child in front of his housemates

C) it's actually worse that the limescale and faeces had been left on the toilet by existing housemates - they are too idle to clean up properly after themselves. Why are you planning to reward that?

It sounds like this is much more about you, though - he hasn't expressed a wish for a clean toilet. You are the one reeling back in horror and asking for tips on limescale removal.

I think this is about you needing to feel like a mummy and still taking care of your little boy. Which is fine, but I think you should be honest with yourself (you don't have to be with us). Are you feeling sad that your boy has left home, and looking for ways to still feel needed /valued?

Because he obviously can see himself how dirty it is,but beggars can't be choosers and I didn't want to start picking holes in his new home straight away.

It's not your place to pick holes or anything. He lives there, he can go on and clean the toilet. They're all responsible.
And if you think it's your duty as Mammy to clean after your precious little one or defend him from the witches who believe he has equal responsibility for the cleanliness of the toilet, that's your problem.

Actually unless you know that you have taught him how to clean (which you may have done) I would not be the least bit surprised if he and his flatmates do not know how to clean the toilet. I was never taught how to clean, I had to teach myself, because my mother did all the cleaning at home, I just did hoovering, dusting, washing up etc. I think all children need to be taught how to clean, cook, and sew plus basic DIY.

I don’t see that limescale actually needs to be cleaned off a toilet anyway. It doesn’t look great but clearly they don’t care, so what harm it is doing?

nevermind the limescale i'm thinking about how many germs must be in that toilet if its not been cleaned for years

It was clear from the op that this wasn't a toilet that just hadn't been cleaned for a couple of weeks.

I never encountered limescale until I was 20. I didn't know what it was. Why would I it wasn't a thing where I'm from.