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Disgusting toilet

86 replies

NutElla5x · 29/11/2018 15:31

So my son has recently moved away for work and is flat sharing with two other lads.I went round for the first time at the weekend and was nearly sick when I needed to use the loo and saw the state of it!Would I be unreasonable to bring round stuff to clean it next time I visit?And what would I need? It looks like it's never ever been cleaned and there is probably decades of built up limescale and grime down the pan Envy not envy

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wowfudge · 29/11/2018 16:14

You just know it's coming lynnepot.

Aeroflotgirl · 29/11/2018 16:16

NO you are not raising a man child don't clean it for them, they have to learn. Show them the loo and tell them how disgusting it is. They should know how to clean a blooming toilet.

SlowDown76mph · 29/11/2018 16:20

Point out that visitors, for example overnight guests, are highly unlikely to want a return visit...

Sparklingbrook · 29/11/2018 16:20

Nobody showed me how to clean a toilet and I didn't show my DSs how to, but amazingly we can all do it. It really doesn't need a lesson.

Bluntness100 · 29/11/2018 16:23

No. Tell him to clean his friggen toilet. What are you trying to raise, a bloke who thinks women clean the toilet for him? So when he gets a partner she should do it?

wowfudge · 29/11/2018 16:24

Assuming he's straight, but I completely agree with you Bluntness100.

ACatsNoHelpWithThat · 29/11/2018 16:27

Why not just wipe his golden bumhole for him then the toilet won't get so quite dirty?

Bluntness100 · 29/11/2018 16:38

Fair point on the straight.

My mother in law was like this, did all the menial stuff for her sons, well into adult hood. Thought she was doing them a favour for some odd reason, My husband got a real shock when he met me and asked questions like "fancy ironing my shirt" and got thr resonse "no do I fuck, iron it yourself"

29 years later and I've still never ironed them.🤣

Bluerussian · 29/11/2018 16:41

Something many parents have to deal with when they visit children who have left home. Did you ever watch 'The Young Ones'? Hilarious.

I've been there. I'm not a 'clean and tidy' person but was appalled and bathroom/toilet situation.

I understand cleaning it - once. A friend of mine did that at her student son's flatshare place, she had one hour before leaving for home.

Leave them bubble bath which, if rinsed off, cleans the bath (as long as they don't have skin probs); buy them toilet cleaning stuff and then - leave them to it. They are grown up, they either learn or don't.

Bluntness100 · 29/11/2018 16:47

They are grown up, they either learn or don't

This. My daughter for one of her uni years house shared with three blokes, all good friends but they got messy, dirty dishes, rubbish, filthy bathroom etc, eventually she started cleaning one night and went nuts at them, which actually caused them to tidy up their acts. Took a bit of shouting, but they learned...and stepped to it.🤣

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NutElla5x · 29/11/2018 16:49

To be fair my son shouldn't have to be the one to clean it either as he wasn't the one to let it get into such a state.And I can't give him pointers on how to clean it as I need some myself because I'm pretty sure a swish round with a bit of bleach is not gonna do it!

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Bluntness100 · 29/11/2018 16:50

To be fair my son shouldn't have to be the one to clean it either as he wasn't the one to let it get into such a state

Ah cmon now, you don't think he shits petals do you. They are all equally culpable.

cadburysflake · 29/11/2018 16:52

Why would you clean their loo? The reason none of them clean their loo (well apart from being filthy animals) is I bet their mother's have always cleaned it at home. It isn't their job so they will ignore it until it either cleans itself or one of their mothers visits and does it for them.

Don't.

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NutElla5x · 29/11/2018 16:54

Why didn't you say something to your son while you were there? He must have grown up with a clean toilet at home

Because he obviously can see himself how dirty it is,but beggars can't be choosers and I didn't want to start picking holes in his new home straight away.

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lynnepot · 29/11/2018 16:54

Make there is a stand off in the house over who gives in and cleans it? Hmm

lynnepot · 29/11/2018 16:55

Blush *maybe there is a stand off in the house over who gives in and cleans it? Hmm

ACatsNoHelpWithThat · 29/11/2018 16:55

So if he's not bothered enough by it to clean it himself, why on earth should you?

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NutElla5x · 29/11/2018 16:56

Can you not read Bluntness? There is years of built up shit(pun intended) down that toilet,and my son has been there less than two weeks.

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arranbubonicplague · 29/11/2018 16:56

Harpic Power (black bottle)

Cillit Limescale and Rust was good but I think it's now Limescale and something else (there's a Limescale and Grime or Shine). Still decent.

Borax (or the currently available substitute in the UK) is good for handling limescale.

Tobebythesea · 29/11/2018 16:56

Buy a toilet brush and strong bleach and hope they use it. Please do not clean it for them. They need to learn.

My female friend and I lived with a male slob at university and his mother had the cheek to complain to us about the state of the place. We just ended up putting his junk into a box in the living room everyday as we wanted it to be tidy.

AdoraBell · 29/11/2018 16:57

Do you know who left the toilet in such a state?

lynnepot · 29/11/2018 16:59

I take it none of them have a girlfriend? A dirty loo like that first time staying over would be a massive turn off for me.

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NutElla5x · 29/11/2018 17:09

Cillit Limescale and Rust was good but I think it's now Limescale and something else (there's a Limescale and Grime or Shine). Still decent.

Borax (or the currently available substitute in the UK) is good for handling limescale

Thank you for this,and to anyone else who offered a constructive opinion and/or advice.And to those witches who, as per, gleefully took the opportunity and jumped at the chance to have a go fuck you Grin

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BrendasUmbrella · 29/11/2018 17:19

I still wouldn't clean it for them...

llangennith · 29/11/2018 17:30

I'd clean it for them but also show them what needs to be done to keep it that way.