To expect a teenager to say hello

[tofupanda]

What is the norm in this scenario? I come home from being out. Teen would most likely hear the car or front door shut. Should I be the one to shout upstairs 'I'm home!'? If I'm lucky I'll hear a grunt in response, or should my teen welcome me home with joy!? What happens in your house? Which way round should it work? Are you welcomed home, or ignored! Not just with teens, but OH too.

Ignored by the teenager unless I specifically yell hello up the stairs, then I will get a hello shouted back, but he won't come down.

Always a lovely welcome from DH though.

Sparklingcat's welcome makes up for any disinterest on DS's part.

My DH would almost always greet me when I come in, the exception would be if he was in the middle of something (e.g. work, DIY etc). I wouldn't expect him to distract himself. Teenagers - it would be nice if they did but I'm not sure I'd expect it.

DSS grunts if he's attempting to be polite. If he's not feeling polite we get a heavy sign or nothing. Either way he spends most of his time in his room and only slithers out for food because we're lame and don't 'get' him

*sigh (not sign)

If you want something that'll fall over itself to greet you when you come home, get a dog.

Variable in my experience - maybe just give yourself a cheery ‘hello me’ when you get in?

I do tell my youngest that if she doesn’t come down and chat to me when I get in, she has to put up with me coming and sitting in her room for a bit.

Get in and turn the WiFi off. Draw them out of their caves.

Op, if you were upstairs in the middle of a good shit and a book and your OH or Teen got home, would you stop that your doing and run downstairs with joy?

Cause I'd find that really weird tbh.

pmsl @ BumD. I think asking teens to celebrate your arrival is a bit much, OP.

As the person arriving home I would shout hello I’m back to any other occupants of the house. Similarly if I’m at home and one of the kids or dh arrive back they shout to me.

I don't mind either way, secretly wants to be welcomed and adored it was more out of intrigue. It's just the teen and me so I wondered what happened in other peoples houses. My ex rarely bothered (one of the many ways he showed zero respect) and I wondered if the teen was following his behaviour.
I've tried to train the guinea pigs but they are no better than the teen.

If I'm lucky I'll hear a grunt in response

Your lucky, thats a lot more than most.

I bellow "Yellllowww everybody" when I come in, and get a "Helllooo" back teen #1, a sort of noise from teen #2 and Yelllllloww from DH.

DH an me chat and sometime in the first 20 mins of been in the teens will wonder in brief how's your day been exchange then they'll hardly be seen again.

If she hears me she’ll yell hi. If she doesn’t that’s fine. She notices eventually and comes down to have a small chat/steal my bus pass so she can get to orchestra practice.

It varies according to what they're doing.

DD1, however, used to make a point of getting to DH first and giving him a hug. So, that turned into a race between us all for a while!

So the general consensus is that the person arriving home shouts "Hello, I'm home". The DH/OH greets unless doing a poo or other important business. The teen may or may not. Glad that's sorted. I will be yelling "Yellowww, I'm home" or just welcoming myself home from now on. Thank you

If the person arriving home shouts up the stairs that they stopped at KFC on the way home that does change things slightly I find...

I don't have teens yet- I'm still in the stage of having under 5's so I'm greeted enthusiastically even if I just put the bins out but as a teen I'd always hear the door and shout a hi to a parent coming in! I only comment because dsis is 10yrs older than me and she has no idea if her kids are in or out and we've discussed it several times in passing and it's just a bizarre notion to me- they go in/ out without a word of hi or bye sometimes! It's normal for her now although she and her DH moan about it, it's not something they call them out on. I suppose it might be my normal when I get there too but I just can't imagine not knowing exactly where my precious babies are 24/7 yet!

Yes sparkling I can see how that might change things. To be fair, if we haven't seen each other for an hour or so (teen holed up in bedroom, me in garden for example) teen will come and find me to check that I haven't tripped over a rake or something...
I think part of it is neither of us really like yelling, but we can practise.

Person arriving home shouts "hello" in this house. Occupants usually reply "hello" from whichever room they're in.

I would say hi as a teenager but my two brothers definitely wouldn't, there was no getting them out of their room let alone shout hi

tofupanda at your 21.31 post, very funny.

It varies, but mostly they both say hello, sometimes they even emerge blinking into the light.

If not, I shout Pizza!

You really need to work harder on the guinea pigs. When we had a pair, they'd start squeaking when I went up stairs. Absolutely nothing to do with the fact I would generally bring up a carrot or something for them.

Dogs are much more rewarding. They're usually the only ones to greet me when I come home, unless I come bearing food.

OP you need a dog. Mine greets me every day as if I am the best thing ever.
The teens well they grunt if I am lucky