Loud, rude stroppy SIL coming for xmas - I need one liners to shut her up.

[GinAndTings]

How can I get her to stop sulking and stop attention seeking? Shes 30, newly married and likes to be centre of attention. I couldn't care less (honest!) but she tends to take it out on my lovely MIL (and we do get on fine!) how can I stop her from ruining the day.

Thanks!

I’ve had this but with one of my step daughters. I have a drink, get busy with what I want to do, joke and laugh with my kids, and just breeze through it. It’s only a few days. And if it gets too much I go out to phone other family.

They are not going to change and you can’t let it ruin your time.

op -memo to self: buy fart cushion - can be used by op, or alternatively, place on chair for sil to sit on :)

But what about the old MN classic: Did you mean to be so rude?

Surely no one actually says this in real life?

OP, I agree with pp that the best thing to do is just ignore her every time she's being rude or negative. If you start putting her down or making jokes at her expense then it just gives her an excuse to play the victim. Take the high road.

What would you do if it was a toddler behaving like this? - ignore them!

I wouldn't have her but since you are, I might try some humour (in addition to 'grey rock').

Maybe get the kids to come up with a game of "Moody Bingo". Make up cards and have a prize for the winner.

For some reason, I'm also thinking that having funny masks to hand might help. You can hide behind them and they might lighten the mood.

Develop the look. When she interrupts, stare at her for 5 seconds longer than she speaks and then resume your conversation with mil as if she hasn't spoken at all.

If she being rude in your house you're entitled to call her out on it. If she behaves like a child treat her like one. Tell her she can't have dessert if she speaks to mil like that again

I would go against the advice of many posters and have to do something...why does everyone need to bend cos of her shitty behaviour and attitude? A rather loud oh ffs here we go again would blast right from me and bugger the consequences...Why does she get the power to hold everyone to randsom because of her attitude? She is allowed to dampen everyone elses day ...just why? Wouldnt happen in our house,Time she was told to grow up.

Give her a mug of tea/coffee with the saying 'Be nice or leave'

My favourite:
You are a hard woman to ignore. But well worth the effort........

Surely no one actually says this in real life?

Thanks only to mumsnet! To one of my teens, and it works a treat.

@MrsTerryPracett is very wise!

MrsTerryPracett is very wise!

Buy her one of these for her Christmas present...