To sometimes find 'woe is me' posts annoying

[dancinginthehall]

Not all the time, sometimes they're very relevant to a thread and add a new perspective to a subject.

But sometimes on a thread where someone is wondering about say, someone having their music switched up too high on the train so it's seeping through the headphones and you have a poster who comes on and says:

"Well that could have been me this morning OP because I'm recovering from the flu, have a ds who wakes up at 3am every morning, a Manager who hates me and a landlord who hasn't fixed the washing machine despite SIX phone calls in the last two weeks. So sorry if me trying to listen to some music and accidentally turning it up too high offends you, but actually I have more important things on my mind."

AIBU to just find these tirades a bit irritating?

No. I completely agree!

Otherwise we could all do what we wanted and excuse it away with the droll and bollocks of our daily existence. Selfish bastards.

YANBU. We all have our issues and the people who come onto every and any thread to give chapter and verse in a 'poor me, hope you feel bad now OP' are usually just drama queens.

Totally agree - it’s infuriating! There is always one person who takes a general comment about something annoying as a personal attack on them in particular, in their very specific circumstances, in a way that makes the complainer look like an arsehole even though they clearly aren’t referring to people in the poster’s circumstances.

I find loads of things annoying. So what? I'm sure I do loads of things that annoy others. So what?

Yes agree OP they are just displaying to the world their utter self absorption and me me me attitudes.

Or

“You’re lucky you have ears to put the headphones on. Not everyone does. I lost them in a traumatic earmuffs amputation accident when I was 8. You should think of the earless before you post.”

“You’re lucky you have ears to put the headphones on. Not everyone does. I lost them in a traumatic earmuffs amputation accident when I was 8. You should think of the earless before you post.”

Almost just choked on my lunch laughing

“You’re lucky you have ears to put the headphones on. Not everyone does. I lost them in a traumatic earmuffs amputation accident when I was 8. You should think of the earless before you post.”😂😂😂

YANBU

Or

'who can afford headphones and train travel nowadays? Why aren't you cycling the journey and not using plastic earphones, don't you care about the planet?'

*“You’re lucky you have ears to put the headphones on. Not everyone does. I lost them in a traumatic earmuffs amputation accident when I was 8. You should think of the earless before you post.”

Almost just choked on my lunch laughing*

I'm going to be 'that' poster now because actually I do have only one ear and know kids and adults with no ears, and I cant help but get a bit antsy at that . Sorry and all...

Jeez, what a 1st World problem! If that's all you have to worry about OP I envy you.

Yes - I’ve had to unfollow my local area Facebook group because there were so many of these sorts of posts, shame as I liked keeping up to date with local news. If it wasn’t the endless woe is me posts, it was the ones at the opposite end of the spectrum seeking smug validation (“just wanted to say thank you so much to the lady at Costa in town today who smiled at me when I was crying into my coffee, nice to know there are some good people in this world”) or the ones offering to give away absolute crap for free as if they’re doing someone a massive favour (“Would anyone like this half used crusty tube of body lotion? Only going to the tip otherwise!”)

YANBU OP. I find it annoying too. Also anyone who tries to take over the thread with an irrelevant point of view just 'cos they want to push their own ideas forward.

'That's probably because you took the train, OP. I drive, I never have that problem. Bit unfair to moan about trains when you could have taken any other mode of transport without headphone-wearers.'

I notice is most in the "My DM is a complete cow who has made my life a misery, caused me to go bankrupt, slept with my ex-husband and stepson and punches me in the face every time I see her. AIBU not to invite her for Christmas?"

Someone will always reply about how their mother has died and they would give anything for another Christmas.

No - why would you find complete strangers posting anonymously on a forum annoying? It could all be a load of total bullshit anyway.

Obviously yes - YABU, not no.

I'm going to give an alternative thought

I think some people are trying to give OP's a reality check (when they are bleating about minor issues)

Not everything needs to be a big drama.

If a person is struggling with real issues, death, serious illness, chemo, and then read that someone is having a drama over something petty it makes you feel like grabbing them and shaking them to make them realise how lucky they are - that they only have a minor issue.

Not every minor issue is a drama or even a problem, but some folk seem to make them so

There is a lot of woe is me

Woe is me, someone has loud music pouring out of headphones.

Woe is me, I need to have loud music because, sad things.

Woe is me, I'm listening to someone whinging.

And now me, woe is me, someone whinging about someone whinging about someone whinging.

I think a dose of man the fuck up might be in order.

What I think is wrong is when someone is talking about their problem and another poster pipes up that they/theirsister/their aunt's mother-in-law/dog has had similar and what happened, which will be totally irrelevant to the original poster who is not one of them.

Those who try to outdo someone else's woes as if somehow the op was lucky not to be in as bad a situation.

People who give advice. By all means we can make suggestions but rarely is anyone qualified to actually advise.

I agree. On every post where someone is venting about family/annoyed at MIL/fed up of uninvited visitors you always get the "My DM/MIL/dog is dead, I'd give anything to see them again/have them drop in unannounced/have them piss me off".

It makes me cringe. Yes, we should all be overjoyed at the annoying people in our lives and are not ever allowed to have a vent about them.

Why Elfinablender? Are we only allowed use AIBU to post about stuff of earth shattering seriousness? I mean, pardon us for wanting to vent a bit about something that's vaguely irritating on a forum designed for that purpose. How very dare we.

Oh do piss of Elfinablender.