To ask how the eff people keep their homes and kids immaculate!?

[ThisCharmingmamm]

I'm a SAHM to a 4 yo and a 7mo. I could clean all day and it would still look like a bomb has gone off.

I could get the kids changed 400 times a day, bath them 3 times and they'd still be grubby and bedraggled!

Don't even get me started on myself. I resemble something that looks like a cross between miss trunchbull and mrs doubtfire.

When we go out to baby groups or soft play so many of the mums have a full face of make up, they look stunning, with a put together outfit and their kids squeaky clean and even on trend themselves. I can just bet their home is the same.

I am ashamed of myself for not being able to keep up with the Joneses I have to say

I have a cleaner for 3 hours a week.

I'm also desperately trying to train DH & DC to clean up after themselves. It mainly works, but I definitely need to sort out the porch as it's a total disaster area & it's the first thing visitors see.

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I was just mocking a poster who pretended that a clean and tidy house = neglected children, but who seemed to have enough time to be on Mumsnet...

I actually don't care or even really notice other people's homes. I am just happy with the way mine is organised, but I disagree that my children suffer because of it! If nothing else, their life is easier, happier and less stressful because we don't live in a tip. Do what makes you happy, but don't judge me because I am happy with my lot.

My house is very tidy but only because I'm at work and the kids are at school all day! And also because I shut the kids bedroom doors so no-one can see in there....😂

It would work out cheaper to buy from charity shop or your local selling groups, but just saying...

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whoops, wrong thread...

Im a single mum of three on mat leave . I have 3 DCs 14, 8 and 7 months. My two youngest are always well turned out and my house is always tidy. My 14 year old does her thing messy room etc. I had a mass clearout when i was pregnant and now I clean as i go. DS gets carted round the house with me and put on playmat (leave one upstairs) im last priority im often seen with wet hair in a bun coz i havent had time to dry it. Im v lucky as my DS is laid back and Dd8 is naturally neat and tidy. I know i have high standards and i wish i could leave things more. Im always knackered and I know a tidy house isnt important but its my way of feeling on top of life

Sorry forgot to say i have no help from family no cleaner. I wish i did at times

Wait till the kids are teenagers, then see if you can keep the place clean and tidy. The sitting room might be OK but trying to get them to sort their bedrooms out...

Oh i know my 14 year olds room is actually disgusting. She thinks it tidy

Wait till the kids are teenagers, then see if you can keep the place clean and tidy.

easy, give them the choice: either they do it themselves, or they pay for the cleaner to do it for them.

no cleaning their own room = no pocket money / ipad / lifts

personal responsibility

I have only one claim to organizations and a clean home.

When the children’s hands are covered in assorted goo and yuck, I sing the “wave your hands in the air like you just don’t care” song. They then march off to the sink, hands in air, without touching ANYTHING on the way. Nice clean walls and door handles.

The houses I know that are like that contain no clutter.

I have always had a clean home from when had 1 dc as a working single parent no help from family etc. To now with 2 dc.. Dp works a lot 2xjobs.. Day job till6.. Self employed 8.30 till 12. 30am at weekends after day job. so I just get it done mainly on own.
If it means I'm up till 2am ironing or mopping then so be it. I can't sleep if somethings not done lol. My kids are always immaculate. I'm However not.. Jeans and jumper an trainers lol

Being organised is key.
I also hav 2 DC 8 and 4. Dedicate myself an hour from 7pm (when DC go to bed) to wash dishes from tea, tidy, Hoover, polish ect. Also get uniforms and school bags ready for morning, then I have a bath. Then watch tv until bed. In the morning I get up at 6 so that I have an hour to myself before I get DC up, in this hour I can have a coffee apply make up then just run around like a crazy woman, making beds and tidying as we go. I have this rule to never go bed with a messy house and to never leave the house unless it's tidy. Seems to work for me. As for keeping the DC tidy I always keep a packet of baby wipes in my handbag. Not much you can do about them getting things on there clothes but mine don't leave the house without hair being nice and tidy. As l9ngs they got tidy hair and a clean face I don't mind

Don't have a lot of clutter.
Good organisation and storage.
Clean as you go and then do a minesweep after bed.
Have a small house that is wipe clean.
Always eat at the table.

I have a two year old whirlwind and a small dog. We go to multiples of playgroups and classes. We bake, cook, paint, do glue/glitter/craft, play doh, go grufallo hunting and jump in muddy puddles.

The idea that my floor is clean because he's missing out is laughable. It's not either/or

If mine ever gets really bad I ask DH to take DD to the park and blitz the fucker - takes much less time when you angry clean!

If your teenagers room is a mess it's because you haven't taught them how to clean up after themselves or be hygienic. Me and my siblings always had a clean and tidy room. We knew anything we got out went back away, washing went in the machine and clean washing was put in the wardrobe - because our mum took the time to teach us how to be functioning members of a household. Admitting on the internet you failed to teach your own child basic life skills really isn't something to gloat about

Don't assume just because they look smart that their homes are the same.
I wash my hair and wear clean ironed clothes everyday.
Never leave the house without a full face of make up and have some quite nice clothes.
I'm sure most people wouldn't imagine the state of my house from looking at me and my child.
Its so bad at the minute that if anyone other than immediate family or best friends knocked the door, I wouldn't be letting them in.
I guess I make the effort out of the house to disguise the fact I'm an utter slut at home.

GobbyMcGobshite what utter tosh!

My room was immaculate, my sister's an absolute pig sty. Our parents taught us how to clean and tidy, I liked a tidy environment, my sister didn't and still isn't fussed by mess. It's our personalities. And my parents fostered independent thought and valued our individuality. Acmitting on the internet that you failed to accept your child's personality traits and turned them in to subservient lemmings isn't something to gloat about.

God knows. Our house is scruffy (needs re-decorating) and it's no show home but we're happy and have time to spend together so that's good enough for me.

My house isn't a pigsty. The dds arnt tiny anymore but I've always been a working lone parent.
Strict declutter as often as you can. No one eats outside the kitchen. Dyson handheld and the dog keep the floor clean.

I can't relate to looking Ames's when I go out I always do make up and hair.

Most teenagers are messy. My mum has OCD and i was brought up like that. As a teenager i was messy im not now. I just shut the door on my DD14s room. Its the least of her worries. She has chores and she does them, her school reports are good. Its her room her space

@JillyArmeeen oh my god are you my spirit animal?! (or me yours more likely).

This is me, and I definitely think its fairly normal as most people I know with kids are like this, kids gorgeous and looking nice and tidy themselves...but their houses are a bit of a bomb sight with a permanent pile of washing up.

Its fine! as long as you and the kids are presentable in the outside world and your home is messy rather then actually filthy its all good [smile[

Everyone's priorities and expectations are different. Never compare or compete with other people. You're never seeing the complete picture and you'll drive yourself bonkers.