Christmas Day Birthday

[SadChristmasBaby]

I know I'll be told I'm unreasonable but - my birthday is Christmas Day. I'm so fed up with being expected to celebrate everyone else's birthdays, on the day, doing what they want etc yet mine obviously gets pushed back to the mid January wasteland because everyone is busy or it's too expensive on the day.

I know I don't have to celebrate other people's but then it's petty to do that.

I love Christmas but I get sad every year that I'm just forgotten again.

Refuse to celebrate other people's birthdays until the acknowledge yours?

Friend is Christmas Day also. We celebrate on Christmas Eve. It’s become a tradition. They do a drop in from 3-9pm. Lays on a finger buffet & people bring drinks. The crucial thing is that families are invited. It’s great. Families go earlier & those with no or older children go later. Works really well.

It’s DH’s birthday on Christmas Day too. We do Christmas in the morning then make a big fuss of him after lunch. I think I probably overcompensate on presents, but that’s OK cos he’s ace.

If people who celebrate others’ birthday ignore yours, have party at the start of December or in January. Force them to celebrate you!

I feel your pain as I have the same birthday. When I was younger, I used to have drinks with friends on January payday. Now I'm middle aged with two small children, there's no chance!

I'm not sure what the solution is anymore or whether it's just silly to even want to have your birthday acknowledged really as an adult? My parents always spoil me which is lovely though.

I know how you feel, mines new years day and everyone is always topo busy to do anything, they are either - hungover, doing some post-xmas detox, skint....hate it.

I don’t know what the big deal is about celebrating it in January tbh? Just completely move your birthday. Don’t acknowledge the 25/12 as a birthday at all, move it to 25/11 or 25/1.

Thank you for the replies.

I have tried inviting people Christmas Eve but they say they are busy getting ready or travelling to see people (which is true).

Yeah they say my birthday is either before or after lunch FourEyesGood, it's still Christmas though isn't it? Can't go out for dinner (unless you want to pay 4 times the cost) or out to the the theatre or anything that other people do.

I'd love to go away but then everyone moans that it's Christmas and they want the traditional thing.

I'm utterly unreasonable I know.

We take turns every year seeing my parents or in laws etc and my parents see my sister every other year. Next year is a big birthday and I'd like to do something with my family but I will have to fit in with everyone else's plans because they work around other in laws etc too so it's not just about me.

I feel so jealous seeing say my sister planning her birthday. She doesn't have to get committee approval.

If it were me I’d celebrate on June 25 th . Let them wriggle out of that

I'm Christmas Day too, I feel your pain

I'm the 27th December. I gave up ages ago trying to celebrate. I'm treating myself this year and working on my birthday. Sorry I'm not much help really 😕

You're not unreasonable at all! Maybe moping a bit but we all need to wallow sometimes don't we! Christmas Day is a shit birthday for all the reasons you've listed above. I went into false labour on xmas eve evening and I thought it was a shame for my baby to have a Christmas day bday. Little bugger stayed in another month so all good here, but I had planned to celebrate his half birthday every year witb a big bbq or garden party if he came on xmas day. I reckon people would be pretty understanding that you wanted a celebration clear of the festive period, what do you think?

Make it clear to your family that you won’t be celebrating their birthdays anymore as they never bother for you. If it means this much to you, don’t bottle it up.

New Year's Eve isn't much better. If I want to have a party I need to organise it 6 months in advance to avoid everyone being busy. I have the same problems of overpriced meals too.

I don't bother any more.

Have. "Half birthday" every year instead. So celebrate on June 25th.
It's really just an arbitrary date to mark anyway.

I was going to say have a birthday in June then you get pressies twice a year. My birthday is in June. I love it!

You could be like the Queen and have 2 birthdays, choose another day in the year to celebrate your birthday every year, I would probably pick a summer date, that way you can go out and enjoy it without the crowds and the added yule time expense.

I'd rather celebrate my Christmas Day birthday in January ( or another month ) tbh as I wouldn't really expect people to be able to spend the day with me seeing as it's Christmas!

Ds1 birthday is boxing day so i know where your coming from , its expensive for me too, not great timing tbh

New Year's Eve isn't much better. If I want to have a party I need to organise it 6 months in advance to avoid everyone being busy

What's wrong with having it on another day?

My birthday is an ordinary mid-year day. It falls on a weekday more often than not (as does everyone's) so if I'm going to celebrate with friends it's not usually on my birthday anyway.

Why not celebrate on Sat 5th this year?

I have a friend who is a Christmas Day birthday, she's always sworn blind she doesn't care, but I've always made an effort to send a card with as summery a picture as possible, and always buy the coffee and cake whenever we first meet up in the year ( we only manage a few times a year these days as she's moved another 20 minutes further away).

My twins are pretty early January, and we tended to have a big summer party as near as possible to six months later, although the birthday itself was always acknowledged with something with a smaller group of friends.

My own birthday isn't quite as close to Christmas, but when I had a big milestone a couple of years ago I still had the celebration several months later so that we could have what I wanted, which was a private mini-festival, with plenty of glamping-type things. It was just after the end of exam season which meant a lot of teaching friends could make it, as well as the teenage friends of the children.

Just take 'ownership' of another day.

Like those of us that have birthdays in August do, and those of us born on NYE, and those of us born on Christmas Eve or Christmas day. Then, during exam years, those born in June.

dh, myself, and 2 of my 3 dc have always had "Official Birthdays" after our actual birthday. It's great, having 2 or in some cases 3 birthdays.

Thank you all.

My commiserations to the fellow Christmas and New Year birthdays.

I wish that my parents had thought to give me a second birthday. It just feels weird to do it now, like it's just a day isn't it, not your birthday?

It's a big one for me next year too so do I celebrate it this summer (so 6 months early) or the following summer (6 months late)? Either one seems odd so I end up not bothering.

I would love to go on holiday to celebrate it but honestly the back lash just spoils it.

I celebrate my December birthday the next summer, so I usually go for a meal and a few drinks with close friends and family in December and then have a party and proper get together in the summer

I don't have a Christmas birthday (mines November) but I celebrated a big birthday in August.
It was fantastic.
DH has a summer birthday and as it was a big birthday for him too we decided to have a big summer BBQ with bouncy castle. It felt slightly odd celebrating so early but still had great fun. It might be worth thinking about it.

Big garden party the summer after it. Make a big silly thing of it being 30.5 or 40.5 or 50.5 years (not sure which big bday but assume one of them!). Do it! Your friends and family will love it!