Christmas Day Birthday

[SadChristmasBaby]

I know I'll be told I'm unreasonable but - my birthday is Christmas Day. I'm so fed up with being expected to celebrate everyone else's birthdays, on the day, doing what they want etc yet mine obviously gets pushed back to the mid January wasteland because everyone is busy or it's too expensive on the day.

I know I don't have to celebrate other people's but then it's petty to do that.

I love Christmas but I get sad every year that I'm just forgotten again.

My mum and her mum were both born on Christmas Day, so feel your pain !!!

My mum has a Christmas day birthday and is really resentful. She's in her 70s. It was not marked as a child for her. For which she's quite bitter.
Since I've been a proper grown up I've always tried to do a Christmas eve thing for her at ours. And sometimes out. I even put up some birthday decorations.
She, however has always hated other people's birthdays and has never made any effort for mine. Some years in my childhood were barely marked. Subconsciously I thought spoiling her on her birthday might improve this. It hasn't. She forgot to wish me happy birthday this year! I feel sad and I overcompensate by spoiling my dc on their birthdays , which my dm does not approve of. She gives me cash to get them a present. My dad is useless. He's never bought her or anyone a gift.
I'm sorry her birthday is crap but why does she have to rain that misery down on us??

DSD is Boxing Day it’s so shit.

Has a load of presents from her mum and from us two days in a row then nothing for the rest of the year.

Commiserations. It’s horrid that people won’t mark your birthday in the same way they would other people’s. I did laugh wryly at you having to get “committee approval” unlike say your sister - so so true!
DS2 has mid-December birthday. He’s still little (turning 2) and we haven’t figured out what to do about it - sounds like we should throw him a 2.5 party and do that every year? Those with half birthdays, when do/did you get birthday presents? What marked the half birthday as different to the actual birthday, and what did siblings say about you getting two birthdays??

My birthday is just before Christmas and we "save" my family meal out until January when it's dark and cold and Christmas seems like a distant memory. Cheers us up!

My dc have a birthday during summer holidays, we have their party in June usually. It works really well. Pick another day OP and celebrate then.

You have to take control of this situation as it is clearly getting to you. Choose another date which is when you will be celebrating your birthday from now on, and make the kind of arrangements you want.

Our DD was born on 23rd December and from early on we have celebrated her birthday on the Saturday nearest 23rd June. It works really well - no-one is interested in a birthday near Christmas and equally no-one bats an eyelid at her having a celebration in the summer instead. And you get the benefit of the weather being more likely to be better for outside events etc.

Go ahead and try it!

Should perhaps add - we do family presents and birthday cake on her actual birthday but the party is in June.

My mother-in-law's birthday was Christmas Day. We continued a tradition with her that her mother started when she was a child. All Christmas activity takes place before nightfall. There was no mention of her birthday during the day. Nighttime was her birthday, with no mention of Christmas. We had birthday cake and birthday presents. It always made a special day even more special and we all enjoyed it very much. She died 10 years ago, but every Christmas Day at nightfall we give her a special toast.

Next year is a big birthday and I'd like to do something with my family but I will have to fit in with everyone else's plans because they work around other in laws etc too so it's not just about me.

Right you've got a month to come up with a plan for next year. Make it about you! Announce that next year 25th December will be your x0th birthday and you'd appreciate it if people could forgo their usual Christmas plans to celebrate it accordingly just this once (well, until the next one with a zero). I'm sure their in laws will understand as well. Tell them what you want to do on the day.

Go on, I dare you!

my birthday is also christmas day!! however i also have 25th june as my unofficial. Thats the day we do gifts / celebrations / cake / meals and have a big BBQ party at home. done it for the last 10ish years and it works fab! most people actually assume thats my birthday i think

But I don't get this - how many non-special day birthday people celebrate their birthdays on their actual birthday anyway?

Why can't you just do it at the nearest weekend?

If my birthday's on a Wednesday and I'm at work, I celebrate on the nearest Saturday. What's the difference?

Oh wow. Thank you everyone. I'm going to have a good think about next year and the suggestions that you've made.

everybodypuuuuulllll I know what you're saying but people are usually too busy or too broke leading up to or just after Christmas and trying to pin everyone down is really difficult.

Icedgemandjelly that's really sad about your birthday. I tend to do the opposite with my childrens' birthdays and go over board because I want to make their day special (I guess to make up for what I've missed out on).

Christmas day here too. When I was a child I had my parties on 25th June. As a yoof, I used to go out on Xmas eve. Now I don't really celebrate it, but next year is my 40th and I'm buggered if I'm doing christmas. Me, DH and DS are going away and I don't care what anyone else thinks! We can do Xmas when we get back.

I live people
With Birthdays on Christmas Day....it means you only have to get them one present to cover both celebrations!!!! 😉