Aibu to not feel adequately “thanked”

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My sister planned a weekend away what was supposed to be a night away turned into 3 nights. I took care of my nephews while she was away, incl school drop off/pick up’s 15 miles away from where I am, while juggling my children’s schedules too.

I adore my nephews and am more than happy to have them anytime.

My problem is after being away she arrived home, didn’t say thank you for having her boys. Didn’t buy me a bunch of flowers or bottle of wine or even a box of chocolates or anything.

Aibu to think this would be a normal thing to show appreciation to someone like this?

I don’t do “favors” in the hope of “payment by thank you gift type scenario”, but not being thanked makes me feel like it’s expected or not really appreciated or valued.

Blimey yanbu. Cf!

Let's jope she has got you a mega Christmas prsent

You're certainly due a big thank you for that and I would have brought you something nice as well.

Yeah she fucked up. You’ll think twice next time. Rude and self-absorbed of her.

YANBU. I'd be "too busy" to help her with anything from now on, if I were you.

I have the same and it hacks me off a bit too. I'm fond on my nephew & nieces but not that fond! Plus I have my own DC and I'm a single parent and I never asked her to look after mine.

I also had a friend's daughter for the weekend recently and I didn't even get a text thank you - let alone a bottle of wine!

I think I must have MUG tattooed on my forehead!

YANBU. It's not nice to feel taken for granted and like your generosity / good will is being abused.

Reciprocal babysitting or a Spa day would be more appropriate than a box of chocolates imho.

Are you me? So strange as this weekend we looked after siblings 3 dc at some very high personal cost as I’m disabled.

During the weekend I didn’t get a single text or call nor did the dc. On return dh dropped them home with clean school uniforms and all laundry done etc. He barely got more than a quick thanks then ( the sort of level you might say for a cup of tea) and I got a piece of cheese . No text or call. Nothing.

I know IANBU to be bloody cross.

I wouldn’t expect a gift from my sister, I would expect a big thank you though. So I think it’s a bit much to expect chocolates and flowers, but I would expect a very clear expression of gratitude

Looks like you're not going to be thanked OP, so please don't put yourself out like that again for such a CF.

how did 1 night become 3 nights?

she should have been thanking you profusely!

Well, she's a rude one. I'd be extremely pissed off if my sibling had done this to me.

I'd be more grateful than this to someone who looked after my cat, let alone my children!

She has shot herself in the foot though - as she is unappreciative, you are hardly likely to agree to do it again are you?

1 night became 3 by saying, “ oh you must have forgotten but I did mention it when I asked you.”

At times I do wonder though how we grew up in the same home and turned out so differently!

Time to book yourself a three night break ... she could hardly say no, could she? (Could she?????)

Maybe I should try!

How ungrateful! I know you don’t do things to be thanked but YANBU she should’ve at least said thank you! What a CF!

That's really off. You take care of someone else's kids for a whole weekend and not so much as a thank you? Bit much to expect chocolates and flowers? Hell, I buy wine, chocolates and flowers for my neighbour who pops in once a day to feed my cats if I go away for a weekend.

Wow! I’d be more grateful if someone watered my cactus let alone looked after the kids 😂

Disrespectful and entitled. And so you must do similar so you don't seethe with anger and resentment.

I'd remember this. And not do 'favours' for her in the future.

What a rude graceless person. No more favours for her.

Act I don’t think I would be able to not say anything

You need to learn from this. She's selfish and rude and entitled. Don't put yourself out for her again.