Driving our children without car seats

[wwydo]

My ex delivered our children home yesterday evening, and I found out that they'd driven over 100 miles in the front seat of a large van with no car/booster seats - they were forgotten in his girlfriends car who'd gone out. They are 4 and 6, well below 135cm and weigh 2.5 stone approx. My view is that this is really dangerous, and its about the 10th time its happened & I have banned contact before when he couldn't appear to make safe decisions. I suggested he should have waited to drive them home, until he had the car seats - a suggestion that fell on deaf ears.

There is a huge backstory, so based on this without muddying the waters, what would you do? I need know if I am being unreasonable to consider banning contact between my ex and kids unless its ordered by court of through a contact centre - which are my thoughts here. We have no court order in place currently.

Have you spoken to the solicitor now? Your ex is a complete arse for not wanting to keep your dcs safe. It sounds as if he’s taking pleasure in this.

Is contact court-ordered? If not I would be stopping it and ensuring there is clear documentation of the reasons. Eg contact has been withdrawn because despite repeated reassurances that he will cease driving them without car seats, he once again drove your 4 & 6 year old 100 miles on the motorway without seatbelts. If you can trust him to do so, I would offer him to take them out locally on foot for a couple of hours, but I sincerely doubt that this turd-for-brains can be trusted to return them.

*without car seats

No court expects you to hand over your DC to knowingly have them face dangers that can be easily prevented, they would expect any person to protect their DC from that, because apart from anything else, it is actually illegal