My friend has commandeered my spare room!

[Nutmeggy]

Hi,

Possibly over reacting but a bit hacked off.

Friend of mine asked for a big favour last week and foolishly I said yes what is it.

She has a friend coming over to stay she said but no where for them to sleep as her sofa is already taken with another friend.

Reluctantly I agreed though have not met her friend before.

She bought her round just now, both quite merry and asked me to show her friend how tv works etc, ok, now she has left and this random friend has said she didn't realise she would be staying at mine and it was a surprise to her.

It's 8pm on a Sunday night and I have to entertain a slightly pissed stranger and make her dinner , a little annoyed by it all.

You might have found a new friend!

I think you'll just have to make the most of it op as pp have said, order a takeaway, crack open and bottle of wine and have a good night in, its not forever and it sounds like there's nothing you can do about it and your poor guest must be mortified!

Beeefcake.

...really?

I would suggest a takeaway and a long bath

I’m not really that body conscious, but a bath with a woman I’ve only just met...that’s a bit much even for me.

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Open a bottle of wine and have a mutual grumble about your mutual friend, who should have at the least had you round for a meal to introduce the friend and make you both feel more at ease.

Share a takeaway with her and have a natter. She sounds far nicer than the 'friend' who dropped her off.

Friend of friend sounds nice, friend not so much! She's put you both in an awkward situation. A bit weird. Why didn't she ask you and friend of friend to dinner at hers?

Poor woman! I would relax, try to enjoy it and see it as good karma. It could be the start of a beautiful friendship.

I would be sending CF friend a text saying that dinner was never part of the deal and how is she feeding her friend for tonight given that this was never part of the deal and you don't have any food in...

Even if you do share a takeaway. Or tell her to order her own as you had no idea that she would need to eat, CF friend had implied that she would just be sleeping there after having spent the evening with her so you don't have any food in for her. CF friend needs to realise that she has screwed up. big time. Incredibly rude to turf out a friend she has promised a bed (and you would expect, by extension, that you would be spending the evening with that friend) to somebody and is blowing her off for somebody else.

Guessing she dropped her off early so she could have an evening getting pissed with other friend that is staying...

Fuck me, I'd be so angry

I'd make her some dinner and be generally lovely to this poor woman who has been abandoned at your house

And I would never talk to Flaky Fuckface again!

I can’t believe your friend thought that was an acceptable thing to do! She shouldn’t have invited her if she couldn’t host her.
Sorry OP

What the hell was your friend thinking?

The question is... are you no longer replying because you have been murdered by the stranger or because she is actually really nice and you are bonding over the awkwardness?

If anything you would have thought that the "friend" would have stayed with Op & left her 2 friends together at her place.

How any does she have staying??

I would be much more concerned with the plan for tomorrow morning!
How, when & where will your CF friend & the spare stranger she has left you, be reuniting with each other? Is their plan convenient for you? Does it involve you leaving a total stranger in your place while you go to work? You’re in this now, the more pressing issue is ‘how soon can you get out of it?’

Yes what is the plan for tomorrow OP?

I think you and this hapless woman need to reconsider your relationship with this friend

Why did you not speak uo and say something to your friend before she left, you have a voice.

I was put in this situation once and it was completely embarrassing and there was no reason for it either. Just try and make her feel as welcome as possible because she will feel worse than you.

It is a bit weird, but you didn't have to agree to it and I don't think you should be complaining now. Just get on with it, but say no in future.

Making her feel as comfortable as possible, I've got to leave for work in the morning and she has to wait for my friend to pick her up, no idea what time.
It was sold originally as just a bed for the night not an evening entertaining a stranger nice though she is. Hence a bit fucked off with friend who has gone.
Didn't say anything earlier as too shocked and would have been v embarrassing

Friend of friend sounds nice - maybe she can become your friend! Enjoy getting to know a potential new friend. Sack old friend...well at least feedback your displeasure to her - I'd do it in terms of how awful it must have been for your new friend....
p.s. I'd just do something simple for supper - am sure some soup or something would be fine.

All the people saying don't make her dinner are being really unfair. This woman is a stranger to the area i presume and probably won't know where the shops or takeaways are to sort out her own food. It sounds like she has been landed in it and is very embarrassed. God talk about making the woman feel even more awkward. I wouldn't be so rude as to not help her out.

Poor woman! I'd go fecking spare if a friend had invited me to stay and I turned up, had drinks, and found out she was turfing me out to sleep in a stranger's home.

If I were you, I'd make it crystal clear to your friend that she needs to come and collect her before you leave for work, not after.

Could you drop her round your friends in the morning? She may be nice but it’s still a total stranger being left in your house.

Such a weird thing for your friend to do.

So weird of your friend! Friends of friends have stayed with me before but we've all gone out for meals in evening etc.

I'd make your guest welcome and be nice to her. Not her fault.