AIBU DH & Weed

[Pondmonster]

Have 2 small kids. At a small family party and some decide to go do weed in the garden as we were leaving. DH decides to go out and try it. AIBU to think that it’s a bit off to go and try weed in someone’s back garden with a bunch of young adults when we’ve got two babies to get home and look after?

I'm sorry but I just don't believe this post. If it's true that sounds annoying but no harm done really.

Get a grip

Sorry - what’s there not to believe? It happened, I was irritated because he’d already had a beer or two and it just seemed a randomly immature thing to do as we are going home. Sorry if that comes across as unbelievable.

YABU an adult man tries weed at a party.

It could be worse, he could be Canadian.

Ah. Maybe I’m being unreasonable then. Sleep deprivation will do that I suppose!

Do weed? I find alcohol more of an issue if I'm honest.

I don't smoke myself but it's legal where I live and I'm definitely in the minority!

Yanbu. But then again I see weed as drugs.

Sorry for doubting you op. I think I've been on mumsnet too long and have become unpleasantly cynical. Hope your babies start sleeping better soon xx

I would hate it. You'll get mixed views on this subject but I absolutely hate weed generally. I wouldn't marry anyone knowing they smoked it and if they wanted to try some I would find it hard to have the same feelings towards them.

I have friends who smoke it and I'm not so bothered by that - what they do doesn't influence me in the same way although I do wonder if they get it from people who have been trafficked somewhere along the chain so I'd obviously rather they didn't do it

Thanks Play, me too! 4 month sleep regression has hit hard! The older is not even 2 yet and is waking overnight too, and I’m in with them both all night so I think it made me get shirty. Like Silver I see it as drugs but maybe I have been a bit of a pearl clutcher. I don’t know!

I don't think yabu at all. I'd be massively pissed off. My ex was/is a heavy weed smoker, he was totally useless when the kids were small. I can't stand the stuff.

I guess as a one-off it would be ok at an adult-only evening, but not when there are kids there, especially his own kids who he's responsible for.

Has he smoked before? Because trying something after two beers when you have no idea the effect on you is pretty irresponsible when you have charge of babies.

It's a drug. It would be a deal breaker for me.

When I told him that I thought it was unreasonable his reasoning was that he tried it as a teenager and just couldn’t remember what it felt like.

Why name change over a weed and husband thread? You wouldn't be the first.

Because I feel really embarrassed.

YANBU Id be fucking furious if my DH did that. Can't stand any drugs but I've seen how much damage weed does as my DS and her DH have smoked it for years she's incredibly paranoid & has lost a lot due to money spent on drugs.

He's clearly not starting a lifelong addiction to skunk. For me it's more about being under the influence and leaving you in charge when he has responsibilities.

I do think the hyperbole about drugs is unhelpful.

I’d find it a bit bizarre and probably suggest to DH was it really the time and place (in an unimpressed way)

MrsTerry - that’s what annoyed me but like others have said, there were already a couple of beers in play. Well, one and a half, but it just seemed to me like an unnecessary last step for the evening! Kids are asleep now anyway and he’s sulking in the kitchen looking a bit green so I’ll get some peace at least.

Hi OP, I don't like booze but loves spliffs, each to their own. I think the problem is that he was going off to have fun when he shouldn't have been, rather than the drug of choice. Is he helping enough at night? I remember those days and they were awful, you have my sympathies!x

Hopefully he'll throw his guts up for being a dick.

There are plenty of people on here whom will defend drug use by bringing out the usual alcohol crap. But no I would be spitting feathers.

I do all the overnights as he work really long split shifts through the day. I think you are probably right. He’s already had a very relaxed day of a lot of x box earlier, maybe I just felt like he was taking this relaxation kick a bit far. Felt like he had regressed today!

I’d think he was pretty pathetic to be honest. A father of two trying weed at a party with ‘young adults’ (presumably younger than him) while he had childcare responsibilities.
And for people who say it’s no different to/worse than drinking... well there is a fundamental difference. Alcohol is legal, weed isn’t.

YANBU. And yes, regression sounds about right. I associate weed with immaturity (it's also very, very damaging to MH - carries a significant risk of developing psychosis and other conditions) and doing drugs as a parent is a complete no-no IMO.