AIBU to not do her hair?

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So DD is coming up to 14.
She washes/dries/straightens her hair.
But begs me near off everyday to plait it.
What age did you stop doing your DD hair?
I told her she needs to learn to do it as if I carry on she will never learn.
She's now in a shit about it.
But AIBU to not do her hair anymore?
I don't help/do anything else for her, she does makeup/maintenance on herself pretty good. Just not plaits.
I've tried teaching her but she can't get to grips with it. I remember my mum stop doing my hair in YR 7.

Awww I hear ya OP. My DD 15 drives me crackers asking me to do plaits in her hair but I do it around twice a week for her. I don’t like doing it because I’m not actually that good and although she never says it outright I can see she gets vexed when they look a bit shit. But I’ve never professed to be an expert!!

Maybe look if a hairdresser offers some plaiting or other hair workshop. A salon nearby did a Dad’s one, which was a great success.

I find it hard learning these things via YouTube, hands on is def easier and they can either do it at each other or with one of these styling heads.

I am quite sad that my 11 year old won’t let me do her hair anymore unless it is an emergency or she is really tired in the evening.

I do my daughters hair, she’s almost 15, I’m happy to do it for as long as she wants me too.

Once in a while as bonding sounds nice - every day and in a snit if you won’t do it sounds like a pain in the arse. I’d say she can have daily help with a very simple style to get it out of the way, and she can have a nice style from time to time at your convenience, but NOT the style of her choice every morning. If she wants that, she needs to learn.

DD has got quite good with the help of friends and YouTube - she knows I’m a lost cause, I’ve never even had shoulder length hair my entire life so anything more advanced than a basic plait is behind me.

My 15 year old dd has very very thick, very long hair. She has only just started to plait it on her own, before she would ask me and i would make a poor job of it because it was so thick BUT I really didn't mind trying.
The only people who could do it really well for her were her friends at school who were used to doing their own afro hair. They did it superbly.

Just carry on. At some point she won't want you to do her hair and loads of other stuff and you'll miss having that closeness. Make the most of it whilst she still wants it.

If you learnt to do it via Youtube so can she! You're not her lady's maid.

I am 45 and still prefer someone else to plait my hair as it is much neater than doing it myself. DD (21) is the same, we can both do it, but we prefer to have it done for us.

YABU

How about bribery? Wait until she's in a good mood & stick a £10 note in a jam jar & show her. Tell her it's hers to spend if she can do her hair there & then (not necessarily a school day). When she has, give her the tenner & loads of praise & thereafter you can refer to her having achieved it herself. It worked for me.

My dd is 24 and I m 50 and we do each other's hair (including plaiting). It's just easier