AIBU to not do her hair?

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So DD is coming up to 14.
She washes/dries/straightens her hair.
But begs me near off everyday to plait it.
What age did you stop doing your DD hair?
I told her she needs to learn to do it as if I carry on she will never learn.
She's now in a shit about it.
But AIBU to not do her hair anymore?
I don't help/do anything else for her, she does makeup/maintenance on herself pretty good. Just not plaits.
I've tried teaching her but she can't get to grips with it. I remember my mum stop doing my hair in YR 7.

She went through the stage of not being able to paint her nails. And would always ask me when I had just got in from work/leaving for work or when I was knee deep in bleach, so after maybe 4 times she can now do them.
The same with her eyebrows. She kept asking other DD to do them and in the end other DD refused so she did them.
I'm all for bonding, having time. We have a lot of that as she is indefinitely grounded right now.
But the hair, I just want her to learn. To stop excuses and to actually attempt.

What on earth is shower strike?

I would do it. Perhaps on weekends get her to have a go first each time.

My mum never did my hair but that is because she couldn't manage more than a ponytail. Neither can I, I think its genetic! I promised mt dd that I will learn how to plait her hair.

Me and my sister were always doing each other’s hair, I learnt to do all sorts complicated braids etc all from YouTube. I’m rubbish at doing my own that’s why we always did each other’s.

My dd is 7, and I love doing her hair.

I think yabu!

YANBU Point her in the direction of youtube for instruction. Mine does her little sister's as well as her own. (I am rubbish at doing hair so got sacked when mine were pre-teen)

My DD`s are 13 and 17 and i still brush both their hair!

I can't plait worth shit. Never could. But I do what I can with my DD's hair and am just happy she still wants me to try ... it won't always be that way.

If she wants one plait down her back then I'd do it.

One each side-she should be able to do.

All my life my hair has been super long and when young, it was to my bottom, I started brushing and washing my own hair at 8, and by 10 would wash, dry, brush and tie up myself, but my mum continued to trim it until I was 14, when I learnt how to do it myself I was on my own from there with no asking for help, I can't plait it to save my life, to much to handle! I think it depends on why she is asking, if she is asking because she can't be bothered to do it herself or take time to learn and perfect then just encourage her to keep working at it, if she is and it isn't perfect or in a rush I see no harm in helping out if you are free, depends on the situation.

Why is she doing makeup, eyebrows and nails at 13 anyway?

It sounds to me like you want her to grow up too fast.

Also have a 14 yr old DD whose hair I still do. French plaits or pony tails or buns. She can do a French pony and that's about it.

Tried getting her to do it and she has tried and does sometimes succeed with a pony tail but it's not a high one or particularly neat so she gets stressed and asks me but deffo cannot do a French plait. She can just about plait her hair for bed down her back by tucking the bits under her chin - it's v long.

DD and I often do each other's hair.

She is 18.

My manager is 30 and still drives over to her mums for her to plait her hair

Do it for her! It’s only a small thing, and nice mother/daughter time. Before you know it she’ll have left home and you won’t be doing anything for her anymore and you’ll look back on this time with fondness.

This made me think of the really poignant scene in the Mamma Mia film where they play "Slipping through my Fingers"

Plait her hair OP

I still do my DD's. She is learning off YouTube. I'm shit at plaiting my own hair, though.

26 here.
I LOVE 2 French plaits/braids.
They look neat, keep the hair out your face and are very fashionable
50 YouTube videos, hours of practise and I am just at shit and useless as I've always been
A hairdresser on Facebook charges £15 to do it for you, so I assume a few people struggle.
Just because plenty of people find it easy doesn't mean we all do. It's up to you when you want to stop doing it. But sometimes being shit at something isn't an excuse, it's just a fact.

Can you say that you will do it, say on the days that she has PE so it needs to be more secure, but she needs to do it the other days?

30 here and I can't plait or braid my hair to save my life. I've never been able to, I have looked at plenty of tutorials, I have been shown so many times but I just can't do it and know plenty of others who can't. I'd personally do it for her but still try and show her how to do it and see if she can pick it up

Perhaps its the closeness to you that she enjoys?

I get my DDs to do my hair because I am shit at it and they can do it fab for me (french braids are my favourite but they like to do fancy stuff)

Are you stressed in other areas of your life? Or lacking time generally?
It just seems a funny thing to get so worked up about.
She sounds like she is begging for your time.

I'm sorry but I think this is just really sad. When she really does need to do it herself then she will. They're only young for a short time!