a stranger slapped my butt yesterday and my friends....

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think i was over reacting and shouldnt have shouted that it is sexual assault (which it is)

this happened in china town last night around 3 am

guy just walked up to me slapped/grabbed both my cheeks then laughed while walking off

am i wrong to act in a bad way or is this behaviour acceptable these days?

You’re right to call it out. Every. Fucking. Time.

He was in the wrong

Who the fuck does he think he is

I am pleased young women are being encouraged to react to such sexual assaults it’s not a bit of fun at all

Of course you didn't overreact. That was clearly sexual assault.

YANBU! This happened to me in a pub as I was walking out. I shouted as loudly as I could “Don’t you dare touch me, what gives you the right to touch me?!” He looked embarrassed so hopefully he’ll think twice before doing it again.

In the great scheme of things, is it that important? You should have run after him, and smacked his bum!

Singlenotsingle

You fucking what?

Call him out on it. These men think that they can just touch strangers because those strangers are women.
Fuck that guy.

Singlenotsingle

Don't be so ridiculous. The OP felt uncomfortable with it so of course she should have called him out on it.

And FYI, it is important in the grand scheme of things. It's important that men learn that they cannot go around touching women whenever they want.

it killed my night so i do find it important why would you do that to someone? and the guy thought it was funny like his behaviour was okay
after that i didnt want to eat which is what we were doing in china town i got a cab home

He would never have dared to do that to a bloke!

You didn’t overreact. You can’t just go around hitting people. Try it in a shop tomorrow and see how far you get!

YADNBU and I’m sorry your friends weren’t more supportive.

You absolutely did the right thing.

In the great scheme of things, is it that important?

You don’t think sexual assault by a stranger is important?

You should have run after him, and smacked his bum!

What nonsense.

Or rather, tell your friends to try it in a shop!

FFS, they’re being ridiculous.

'In the great scheme of things, is it that important? You should have run after him, and smacked his bum!'

What the fuck

This behavior should be called out every single time I once grabbed a man hand and bent his fingers back as he kept touching me on a packed tube I absolutely did the right thing

It’s assualt and women have the right to walk about whatever time in whatever clothes wherever without being assualted or made to feel uncomfortable by men making sexual comments or hassling them

Oh yes, definitely run after someone who has no boundaries and commits sexual assault and retaliate. Great idea

OP you did not over react and your friends sound like idiots.

I remember walking down the road years ago with my friend and a guy walking towards us put his hand out to grab my friends breast. Luckily at the last second she realised what was happening and managed to bat his hand away. To this day I regret not going off on one at him, but we were just so shocked we were a bit dumbfounded. Unfortunately that is exactly what twats like that are counting on. You must call them out on it or where do they stop?

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I would have felt extremely violated and frightened.

You were right to call it out. Completely right. In fact whatever your response is to sexual assault, that is right - it's your right to do whatever the fuck you like.

Unfortunately I think sexual assault is common late at night in Chinatown, some friends have had similar experiences.

You should have run after him, and smacked his bum!

She should have started aggressively flirting with a random man who grabbed her?

I agree they should be called out

But at times I have been shocked or embarrassed so haven’t said anything and it can be intimidating at times

But certainly everyone girl and women should be encouraged to call out such behavior

God that makes me annoyed that we have to talk about girls gettting sexually assaulted and harassed and how to encourage them to shout out

We teach our children the pants rule so why should it be any different for adults ?
If anything they should be setting a good example.
No one has the right to touch you if you don't want them to.

you need some new friends, they sound like idiots tbh

@Singlenotsingle I'd say that kind of behaviour is specifically important in the grand scheme of things - more so than as an individual event. The grand scheme of things being centuries of oppression and women still being treated like objects. Do you normally treat it as a joke when strangers touch you up? How about if they flash at you - also not that important? Or if your bf does something to you that you don't like? It's the first step on a slippery slope, surely?

YANBU at all. But YABU to refer to your bum as your butt.

single are you an idiot too, or are you being goading for response ?

OP you didn't over react, it was sexual assault, and your friends are idiots.

(I once had a guy grope me on the underground - I waited to the top of the escalator and then turned and kicked him in the shins as hard as I could. Ah, to be that teen with attitude again!)