To be worried this is neglect

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I don’t want to get too specific but...

2yo passed from pillar to post almost every weekend so parents can go out/go on holiday since he was a young baby, as well as being in nursery full time. Isn’t at all phased when parents leave, even if left with people he doesn’t know (they don’t even say goodbye mind you).
When i last saw 2yo - very very skinny & pale, bruised down the spine.
Parents constantly talk about how ‘annoying’ 2yo is, never really say anything nice about him.

Mum of 2yo told a friend that the dad “hit him the other day”.
Speak to him horribly infront of others, are very very ‘tough love’ with him.
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He seems very nervous & anxious. He’s so sweet and I just really feel for him.

Am I over reacting? I just have a weird gut feeling.

Definitely report to SS.

This is so sad! I hope the poor baby isn't being neglected, but please do contact someone for advice on the matter.

All added up t doesn't sound good and I would report to be safe. But Why the hell is the boy being in nursery full time a red flag for neglect?!

The thing is @ilovehumanity I would rather you got a visit from ss asking about a bruise that you could easily explain away as a birthmark than for someone to ignore what they thought was a bruise in case they offended you. Iyswim.

Nursery full time is definitely not a sign of neglect. I was trying to set the scene. They never see him in the week and then every weekend he is with whoever will have him.

The bruises don’t really look like those spots from my memeory. He was so skinny you could see his spine and the bruised were on the boney/sticky out bits. Sorry for my terrible knowledge of medical terminology!

I would definitely report to SS. I know a few very good, loving parents who have been reported to SS. (My friend's child by chance had a few freak accidents at home which required GP visits in a short period of time shortly after moving to a new area with a new GP, another doesn't know who reported but probably neighbours annoyed by a colicky baby). They were obviously very embarrassed and a bit concerned but it was absolutely fine and nothing came of it (rightly so).

I would much rather 20 responsible parents had a visit from social services than one neglected child was left without support.

Do you know which medical practice they are registered with ?

Contact them .
There should be a health visitor that is responsible.

Two words OP - Baby P. Please please please if you feel like anything is wrong it won't do any harm to report it. If nothing sinister is happening, then it's all good. If something is wrong, it will be dealt with as appropriate.

Poor little mite

Listen to tiny sleepy.

I would rather be wrong than say nothing. All day long. Feel very strongly about this. A baby like that really really cannot help themselves.

Exactly.
Baby P .
Victoria Climbié.

And yes. Baby P. Took the words out of my mouth. Who the fuck does not want to spend time with their child at the weekend at all when the child has been looked after by somrone else all week.

Massive red flag.

OP you’ve got us all worried about this poor child. We’ve all answered your query- yes neglect signs, you have the SS contact details. We have to ask why you’ve posted if you have no intention of helping the child?

@letsmoce1t I’ve said previously that I will call NSPCC/SS in the morning

@letsmove1t sorry, spelt your name wrong above

Call social services and don't waste time clutching pearls. This is a child's welfare, not something insignificant. Get on with it.

Sorry missed that yes please do, poor little mite. I need to stop reading these at night imagining them perhaps not all warm and cozy and cherished

He’s definitely warm & cozy - they are quite a well off family with a lovely house! It’s the cherished bit I can’t promise unfortunately :(

And wow @penisbeakers bit rude! I’m here looking for advice & after receiving it have said twice that I will call

Not quite the same but i will tell a recent heartbreaking story i know of by proxy. It was a little boy with a working quite detached dad and sahm mom with a drinkig problem. My friend who was closer to them was considering calling social services beause the boy was clinging to people and crying to stay with them instead of going home, was a sweet little boy obviously crying for attention. As he wasnt sikinny as a bone and always in good clothes nothing was done. But the situation was desperate if you pieced it all together. What happened next was his dad got suddenly very ill and mum’s drinking problem escalated as a result until one day she was found dead because of drinking. So now the boy has no mother (who was taking good care of him when not drinking which i gather was a sporadic occurrence). Dad still in hospital, on deaths door still.
The bottom line is, if something, anything was done, a visit from social services might have saved this boy’s mother’s life... perhaps it could have been the wake up call for her. But it’s too late now. My heart breaks for this little boy. His life could have been different if those around would have recognised that it is the time to call someone NOW.
You might be the person able to change this little boys’s life for the better. The signs are all there, don’t wait for anything tragic to happen. His mum and dad obviously need reminding of their priorities.

Call social services OP. If you don’t and anything happens to that little boy you’ll never forgive yourself.

Hi OP.

did you manage to call SS this morning?

OP please tell us....

Please don't bother with the NSPCC. That will just delay any eventual referral.

Please call your own local SS or LA child protection agency /MASH unit directly.

Tell them what you have seen in terms of physical details as well as the dropping off with anyone who will have him at weekends. Plus the fact that he does not seem fazed about being left with people he probably doesn't know.

nottonightjosepheen

Yes we are middle eastern of completely white skin and my baby is very fair and has a prominent bruiselike birth mark.

It’s not the skin colour.

Op hope you managed to find answers