To be worried this is neglect

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I don’t want to get too specific but...

2yo passed from pillar to post almost every weekend so parents can go out/go on holiday since he was a young baby, as well as being in nursery full time. Isn’t at all phased when parents leave, even if left with people he doesn’t know (they don’t even say goodbye mind you).
When i last saw 2yo - very very skinny & pale, bruised down the spine.
Parents constantly talk about how ‘annoying’ 2yo is, never really say anything nice about him.

Mum of 2yo told a friend that the dad “hit him the other day”.
Speak to him horribly infront of others, are very very ‘tough love’ with him.
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He seems very nervous & anxious. He’s so sweet and I just really feel for him.

Am I over reacting? I just have a weird gut feeling.

please trust your gut insticnt and call SS. it can be kept anonymous. they can then look into it and if everything is fine, no harm done. but if everything is not fine, you will have saved that child from abuse. don't wait a second longer.

Google says Mongolian spots are seen in ‘dark skinned’ babies if that’s relevant.

Not always.

If you have any concerns or gut feelings, OP, report them. You may do this anonymously to Social Services or the NSPCC.

My friend went through an absolutely dreadful time with her partner last year. Physical fighting in front of their 2 year old, screaming, things being smashed etc..it was my job as her friend to do something about it.

I contacted her mother and father, who went around there immediately, picked up their grand daughter and took her back to their house (they didn't have any idea what was going on!)

My friend didn't speak to me for months after, which I was absolutely fine with as I wouldn't of been able to live with myself if anything would of happened to the child involved..
Since I have had a huge apology and thank God everything is fine now!

It's your responsibility as a parent yourself to protect any child you think could be in danger!

Op doing nothing isnt an option
If you’re wrong you’re wrong but if not then help is available for this family
Call ss

It's your responsibility as a parent yourself to protect any child you think could be in danger!

It is everybody’s responsibility, nothing to do with being a parent or not.

Phone the NSPCC for advice. The answer to “should I report possible neglect” is always yes.

Please do contact Social Services and explain your concerns. Your comments may add to a bigger picture and others might have reported their concerns.
The “lessons learnt” from Baby P and others reminds us that people did actually have worries but perhaps didn’t report them or SS didn’t put the pieces of the puzzle together. If SS make contact and they are satisfied that he is not at risk, there is no harm done. Conversely, if anything was to happen to him, you would regret not reporting your concerns.

Report OP, asap. It sounds horrendous for him.

Hi OP, I am a SW and I would strongly encourage you to call children's services in the area in which the child lives.
Bypass NSPCC, that is just delaying things - all they do is refer on the Local Authority.

Much better to speak directly to the Local Authority in which the child lives.
Be as specific as you can, including dates where bruises were seen.
I would include information about him being passed around and not being upset by parents leaving him.
It all builds a context.
Its so important that you do report.
Sometimes its when there have been numerous concerns raised (by neighbours, friends, relatives, etc) that prompts the Local Authority to get involved. You never know if your referral is one of those reports.
I am not exaggerating when I say you could be saving a child's life.
It is never the wrong thing to raise concerns.
PLEASE CALL ASAP!

I reported someone to SS last year and one of the concerns everyone had was that she was passed from pillar to post like you describe. Treated like an inconvenience. Parents never collected from school (mum not working, no excuse) and they went out all the time, would dump the child on literally anyone who showed a passing interest.

Parents also talked about the child in a derogatory fashion as well. SS were on it like a shot by the way, visited within 48 hours.

There will undoubtedly be other issues. Please at least speak to the NSPCC for some advice, for the child’s sake. It is anonymous. He’s too little to speak up for himself, please do it for him.

I think leaving him at the weekend with people and he doesn't seem to show concern, speaking of how annoying he is, and shouting at him are huge red flags.

Add the bruising and the comment that the father hit him - there are a huge number of red flags.

When a 2 yo isn't fazed when parents leave him with strangers, something is very amiss. It may be reactive attachment disorder or it may be a sign the child is on the autistic spectrum. Either way, if the parents find the child merely annoying and a nuisance then he is not getting the nurturing he needs.

Please call your local child protection / social services agency.

Google your local MASH team. You can report anonymously - it stands for Multi Agency Safeguarding Hub and will go to a social worker for assessment.

Call SS. Good luck

Doesn’t sound right to me either - parents going away even 6-8 times a year but nearly every year?

Sorry every weekend...

If a child has a Mongolian spot it is recorded on medical records when the child is seen at their first exam or if seen by a medic before.

Share your concerns with the professionals and let them deal with making sure he’s ok

That child doesn't have a voice.

I'd rather be wrong than ignore a potential safeguarding issue.

My friend didn't speak to me for months after, which I was absolutely fine with as I wouldn't of been able to live with myself if anything would of happened to the child involved

Yeap, my dd's ex was abusive and he kicked up in front of their baby. If my dd had gone back to him after that I would have called social services.

A referral is just that, a referral.

You’re passing it over to a professional to check things over and see what they think, because you’re not sure and you’re not qualified. If there’s nothing to be concerned about, there’ll be no further action.

I’m pleased you’re going to tell someone.

A bruised spine is not really an everyday injury. I always consider what consequences my action or lack of action might have and in this case I would be very converned and report to social services- I have seen too many people wander on past vunerable folk and then when the worst happens they all say they thought someone was doing something about it. If it turns out that everything is fine then fair enough but if there is neglect or abuse you will be doing the little lad a huge favour

I would phone nursery annamosly. Speak directly to safe guarding though... Say rather be safe than sorry also... Call ss.

All these people will triage you, ie decide whether to act or maybe already on thier radar.
To many kids have died because people didn't say something.
It won't harm

Has the child always got these bruises? Have you questioned how he got them? As a one off I wouldn't be concerned about them as he could have fallen down the stairs or anything, but if they're there all the time that's odd? The other things, leaving him etc, unfortunately that's how some people parent.

These come in all shapes .does it look like that op ?

These are harmless spots that are common amongst certain ethnicities.

My baby has it and expanded over time and for a while I though he had fallen and was freaking out. Till I was told it was stretched out due to growth. I knew he had it at birth but defo expanded.

Plz make sure you aren’t mixing up his for a bruise. I would hate for my son to be reporter for social services for something I had no hand in