He’s almost 18. Since leaving school he’s done nothing other than a 2 day a week college course (which has suddenly become half a day a week). He’s been arrested once for assault and once for affray - still awaiting the outcome on this one. He’s also been “spoken to” twice for having relations with underage girls (aged 13-15). He’s stolen from us, lied, takes drugs and has attacked my husband (not his dad). He sees his dad once a fortnight but won’t let him live there as his fiancé is afraid of him.
I’ve told him that he either gets a job, apprenticeship or proper college course by January or he has to move out. He’s fine nothing in the way of sorting this.
He self harms and is seeing Cahms once a week.
He goes out almost every night abd sometimes doesn’t come home until early hours meaning we can’t go to bed when we want to (he can’t have a key as he can’t be trusted). He also comes home early (6am -8sm ) meaning we have to get up to let him in. It’s exhausting me. He has no income so we’re paying for everything and he won’t even keep his own room decent, never mind help out with the rest of the house.
AIBU to actually go ahead and kick him out? He’s young in his head and I feel so guilty but I can’t go on like this. While he’s here having everything paid for etc he will never learn or have the incentive to do anything. I feel we have no option but to let him find his own way in the adult world.