To ask if anyone has considered doing a runner?

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I mean running away, starting again somewhere where nobody knows you? Killing off the old you and giving birth to a new you? Has anyone ever thought about it?

Thought about it when younger but I love my folks and knew they'd worry horribly.

I completely understand the temptation though. Clean slate!

Yes, it was a symptom of my depression though. Luckily I became aware of this quite quickly and went to the gp. But I remember about a year or so ago sitting in a coffee shop opposite a train station and thinking how much nicer life would be if I just got up, emptied my bank account and got on a train out of there.

All the time, although as a family not as a singular person. I would love for us to pack up our car, put the house on the market and go somewhere completely new.

All the time.

Yep. Depression talking.

Isn't it quite hard to actually disappear?

All the time.

Yes I have. But I have £100 in the bank so I can't do it.

God yes, I think of this so often. I would love to but it would screw up my children's lives so I never could.

Yeah, all the time in my teens and 20s. Not since I had my own family though.

I don't know how practical it really is. If you want to erase the old you then you can't really ask your old employers for a reference can you so if you are likely to end up in a NMW job and have difficulty finding somewhere to live (no bank account, no previous address) and so will have a considerably worse standard of living than you do currently. So doesn't really solve the problem unless you are in danger of death.

My eldest is a good boy. He’s at university and living in uni act so he’ll be fine. My youngest is currently awaiting a decision from the police as to whether they’re going to charge him for affray or not. He lives with us. Has stolen from us, lied, attacked my husband and is a drug user.
I hate my job and the thought of going back after two weeks makes me feel sick.

GP has signed me off for two weeks, doubled my dose of quetiapine and now I’m sat here wanting to fuck it all off and do a runner.

Yes and once the dcs are older I'll seriously consider it

I did in a way . I left a DV relationship and moved countries. Only five people know where I am.

Yes. If it wasn't for my children I'd either be dead or starting a new life somewhere. I'm a miserable as sin and as lonely as an old boot in this life so I might as well.

I think about it a great deal; used to cut and run a lot.

It’s not surprising given what’s going on in your life. Can you do anything about looking for a different job?

I’ve often had this thought, I’ve got small children and sometimes the grind feels relentless, but at least they hug you. Both of your boys need you, the younger one does too, who knows why he’s doing what he’s doing but hopefully he will come out the other side of it - we had a young family member get into all sorts of trouble and he calmed down and was a lovely boy after that.

Yes, fantasise about it quite often. Don't think I'm depressed, just fed up.

Yes as a family though in conjunction with my Friday night lottery winning fantasy! Hate the town we ended up in for proximity to London for work. Have no roots here, very difficult to make friends as quite an insular place where people have known each other from school, through family etc, no family here either. DC would benefit from change too as they also hate the town and older ones at stages where its feasible.

I dream of living in a Cambridgeshire village (we're in East Essex) and starting again where no one knows us. Would love youngest DS not to speak like the older ones too.

Over the years frequently....at times fantasising about it kept me going...mine involved roughing it in the wilds though... wouldn't last five minutes

In reality not sure how easy it is to 'disappear'

Feckitall, I also fantasise about roughing it out in the wilds! In my head i live in a tent in the woods surliving off fish and rabbits that I’ve caught 😂 I also travel around by horse ... that’s where my head is at 🙄

Frequently. Not so much from a changing my identity type of thing, but just somewhere that no one knows me and I can start again. I know exactly where I want to go too.

Yeah, I'd like to run away somewhere warm please. It's a shame it's completely impractical with two DC and the household bacon to bring home.

Ideally I'd run back to the past and do it all differently. Also highly impractical.

Regularly.

Yeah it crossed my mind today