AIBU to not know what fat people should wear?

[glueandstick]

It’s Christmas party time. I’ve got fat this year and look shit in everything.

What the hell am I supposed to wear that doesn’t look awful. I feel shit in everything.

Can the fashion gurus help? Everything lovely looks awful on me. Help.

I'm similar size and shape. I find these dresses really flattering especially with net petticoats underneath.

From Amazon less than £30 cotton/spandex mix, really comfy, black kitten heels. Always gets commented on. Feel really confident in it too

Have a look at fullerfigurefullerbust on Instagram, she wears everything from 16-22 and is a great example of being bigger but still having an hourglass figure and big boobs! I'm a 16-18 hourglass (huge thighs but J cup boobs so balance out) and love her for style inspiration!

Surprised the weight police haven't been on this thread yet.

OP have a look at Scarlett & Jo and as per pp's, Simply Be.

Boobs are your friend. Find something that does good things for your cleavage and doesn't highlight your bump. Tight skirt, loose baggy top off one shoulder works for me.

Pepperberry has some great dresses www.bravissimo.com/collections/dresses/

I'm not mad keen on those 50s style dresses, I don't think they look very modern or young.

I think the pic posted by @Unicornandbows is great, and I want to know where it's from!

I actually think I'm going to buy that Jessie one - looks very flattering. I'm the same size as you OP but 4 inches shorter and still look pretty good - I tend to wear shapewear to pull in the tummy as it's a problem area for me too.

Oh Yes. I know the feeling OP. I can’t offer advice (I’m actually thinking of not going to the work night out because of this). But I am reading this thread with interest

I think the 50s style dresses are flattering but quite a niche look. If I turned up at a party in a dress like the one shown above with net petticoats my friends would ask if I thought it was fancy dress! I like the more simple tea dress style but it's not really a xmas party look.

So many ideas. Thank you.

I’m addressing my weight but that doesn’t help a party in 10 days. Really did spend a year eating my grief....

Not sure the 50’s style is me. I’m not overly confident and a bit ‘horsey’ so not sure I’d feel comfortable in it. Will order one to give it a go though!

Can't go wrong with black and sparkly. I have about five of them! Here's me in one of my favourites (have name-changed for this thread!) - I'm a size 20. The cardigan is silver cashmere, great for getting from taxi to venue etc.

Evans have quite a nice one in: https://m.evans.co.uk/en/evuk/product/clothing-7810902/dresses-6931372/black-and-gold-sparkle-wrap-dress-8057662?dual-run=evans.co.uk&geoip=noredirect&cmpid=ppcplaaUKip&utmmmedium=cpc&istCompanyId=b60a50db-e373-4ec2-aca8-9fa395e9832d&istItemId=-xtwppmrqpw&istBid=tztx&gclid=Cj0KCQiA597fBRCzARIsAHWby0Hqrv6NMNzVBgd0CzA4U5MCZ7u438rbFhCjrnC0Mmp4Q8mzVsBVbEYaAq6iEALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

@glossier - you look amazing. I wish I looked half as good as that.

Can you arrange a hair cut/blow dry the day of the night out? I always feel much better once that’s done. I second FFFB, she’s the woman in the polka dot dress above.

@glueandstick You are lovely, but honestly I am a fat and lumpy frumpy mum most of the time - black is just very flattering! Here's another. One's from Evans and the other is Monsoon I think. My other top tip is M&S bodyshaper tights - they really smooth you out but are also very comfortable.

Ok, I’m very similar - 5ft7 and a size 16/18 with a tummy (but sadly my boobs aren’t big enough to even it out!).

Look for something with a deep v-neck or wrap style that drapes over the tummy. Is it a dress you want or top/trousers/skirt?

Simply Be have lovely stuff online OP.

Something like this would look really good:

m.dorothyperkins.com/en/dpuk/product/dresses-5699972/shop-by-fit-5653578/plus-size-dresses-5653615/dp-curve-black-floral-print-34-sleeve-wrap-dress-8193068

Emphasize legs and boobs, get a knee length swingy dress. Put on a necklace that drips into your cleavage. Bet you'll be amazing.

I am a good size 16 and have just bought this for some christmas parties. It's from Little Mistress. It's very flattering.

I’m wondering if trousers and a top would be a better way to go.

Ordered a couple of black dresses. Hopefully I’ll find something before I have a whole mail van of stuff ordered!

I like how Dawn French dresses

Or a party dress like this -

www.simplybe.co.uk/shop/quiz-curve-green-dip-back-midi-wrap-dress/jy812/product/details/show.action?pdBoUid=8015#colour:Green,size:

@showgirl what is that dress called? I've just looked on the Little Mistress website and I can't see it. I love it

Larger women can look deliciously voluptuous - I see it all the time. The problem is not with your body, but with your mind. You think you look "shitty" - why not tell yourself you look gorgeous. I am sure you do.

And in any event, a size 18 on a 5'7'' lady is not fat!!