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Being annoyed with this mum.

48 replies

KungFuPandaWorks · 23/11/2018 17:06

Got a call this morning for an urgent app, this mum said she had done a bad DIY haircut on her 12 year old daughter and her daughter was now hysterical over it. No problem dealt with this before, so I book her in.

15 minutes before the appointment time a lady and a girl walk in. They come over to the desk and the lady introduces herself as the woman on the phone. I glance over at the daughter and notice her hair isn't how I pictured it, infact there was nothing wrong with it. What I did notice was horrendous massive patches of an brassy blonde patches dotted around this girls hair. I think I know exactly where this is going.

Giving them the benefit of the doubt still, I lead the daughter to the salon chair and ask her what she doesn't like about her cut and how can I help.

The daughter looks confused and looks at her mum and says "I thought she was colouring it?" The mum let's out a theatrical laugh and says

"Kung I forgot too tell you, it wasn't a bad haircut I gave her, it was a bad streaking job. Now we was thinking a really light blonde, light enough so over time she can put vibrant colours in it"

I explain how

  1. I don't colour hair of under 16s
  2. Before I'd even colour anybody's hair I would require they do a patch test.

The mum informs me that a patch test isn't necessary, I have her consent which trumps a patch test. The daughter just wants rid of her horrible natural ginger hair.

I look at the daughters reflection in the mirror, and get the feeling the daughter doesn't want rid the mum does. I begin touching and looking at the daughters and tell her how I have a lot of clients who pay good money to have her natural colour and how it's beautiful hair she has. You should have seen the girls smile, but the mum chimed in

"But it's ginger and she doesn't want it? Now can you just start bleaching it"

I tell her that her daughter is under 16 so I won't be colouring it let alone bleaching it. She kindly tells me it won't take me long as she's done half of her hair anyway, she won't tell anybody that her daughter got it done at this salon and she'll sign something waiving the patch test.

I explain how just because she's put massive chunks in already doesn't mean I'd only have to do the bits she didn't, I'd have to correct it all so it was all one colour and even throughout. I once again tell her I won't be doing it regardless of her consent.

At this point she's getting really pissy and asks me am I really going to leave her daughter half blonde and half ginger. I tell her there's nothing I can do colour wise to help, but I'd be more than happy doing a conditioning treatment on her hair so it takes some of the orange tinge out - which the daughter looked happy about. The mum offered me quite an absurd amount of money and said I can come round her house and do it, if I was worried about doing it in the salon. I once again refused and suggested maybe teaching her daughter to embrace her hair colour and how it's beautiful instead of speaking negatively about being ginger and this wouldn't have happened in the first place if she would just accept it.

The mum didn't like this one bit and, told her daughter too stand up. She said I can shove the conditioning up my arse, I can thank myself if the daughter gets the piss taken out of her in school because she does anyways for being ginger. She'll be messaging my manager (I am the manager) and she'll be reviewing the salon on Facebook so expect a loss of customers. Basically thanks for nothing and flounder out the salon whilst her daughter looked so sad.

I'm so annoyed for a multitude of reasons

  1. Fucking her daughter's hair up because she can't accept she's ginger
  2. Letting the girl believe she won't be pretty with ginger hair
  3. Emotionally manipulating me by saying her daughter will get bullied because I won't correct it.
  4. Wasting my time

There was no way of rescuing that girls hair unless doing a massive bleach job on which i just wasnt prepared to do. I just wish there was something else I could have done for that girl.Sad Just awaiting a massively embellished rating on my salon page now on how I'm the world's biggest monster.

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RunningFeisty · 23/11/2018 17:09

YANBU she's horrible and ought to be ashamed of herself

WorraLiberty · 23/11/2018 17:10

I don't understand why she didn't try to book in for a colour, or why you didn't confirm it was for a cut and blow dry on the phone Confused

StealthPolarBear · 23/11/2018 17:11

Yanbu and as a ginger, thank you x

Unicornandbows · 23/11/2018 17:12

Op you did well and I am glad you stood up and didn't go along with her crazy demands. If she does review you on FB you can always refer the message back to salon policy of no colour for under 16s and you aren't going to be breaking policy for her satisfaction.

Moominfan · 23/11/2018 17:12

What a thoroughly awful person. Ginger hair is stunning

ElideLochan · 23/11/2018 17:12

Wow! What a contender for mother of the year

ToastedSandwichObsession · 23/11/2018 17:16

God some parents are awful. Ginger is a lovely colour but I do know kids with that colour hair are often taken the piss out of in secondary.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 23/11/2018 17:19

Cheeky fucker

Vampiratequeen · 23/11/2018 17:19

If she does leave a review, show her up and tell her again that if she would just except her daughter's beautiful ginger hair, she wouldn't have been in that position in the first place. The poor girl. My DH has bright ginger hair and I love it, it is such a beautiful colour.

KungFuPandaWorks · 23/11/2018 17:22

Worra
Because she knew fine well if she said it was for a colour I would have said no. Most salons will say no. She thought by lying it was for a cut and getting her daughter in the seat I would change my mind. I did confirm it was for a cut.... Because that's what she told me.

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Dotty1970 · 23/11/2018 17:23

Well done how you handled it though, very patient and straightforward.
What a disgusting person saying them things about her daughters hair like that, poor thing, she's basically as bad as her daughters bullies 😟

PerryPerryThePlatypus · 23/11/2018 17:33

My dd has ginger hair and she is frequently approached by agencies and photographers ( she goes to Uni near a popular location for filming etc) asking to sign her/ photograph her hair. She's done hair modeling, ginger hair seems to be popular for hair modeling.

Graphista · 23/11/2018 17:37

Redhead here - thank you.

Mother sounds an utter arse! And bloody irresponsible!

Well done for standing your ground AND supporting the redhead/ginger girl here, bet her hair is actually gorgeous.

Aeroflotgirl · 23/11/2018 17:42

Wow the poor dd is going to be in for some self esteem issues for the future thanks to her stupid mum. Ginger hair is wonderful, think Nicole Kidman, Lilly Cole.

Tistheseason17 · 23/11/2018 17:43

YANBU - And lovely to hear your positive comments to the daughter. I love all shades of red hair. Wished my girls had inherited from GPs but it was not to be .

bringbacksideburns · 23/11/2018 17:49

You handled that brilliantly.

If i was you I would relish any feedback she does give - just so you can in no uncertain terms put all that online for everyone to read.

Changedmyname89 · 23/11/2018 17:52

Ginger hair over here!!

I feel awful for that poor girl, her mother is a nasty piece of work! Her mother is scared of bullies but she is in fact the bully! Bitch!!

You handled the situation tremendously, well done

KungFuPandaWorks · 23/11/2018 18:01

Honestly her hair was a gorgeous vibrant red (the bits the mum hadn't tried too bleach) and I genuinely hope that girl feels I was being honest in what I said and truly meant every word of it.

I feel like getting in there first on Facebook. Not posting what happened but more of a reminder that KungFu Salon does not colour hair of under 16s and won't do a colour without a patch test .

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AnotherOriginalUsername · 23/11/2018 18:36

Get in there first on Facebook but maybe with a general "following an incident at the salon tonight, we'd just like to politely remind clients that we don't A B C on under 16's for X Y Z reasons"

Then lots of ginger hair model photos over the next few days/weeks/months

GaryBaldbiscuit · 23/11/2018 18:40
Sad poor kid
KeiTeNgeNge · 23/11/2018 18:45

That poor girl - red hair is giegeous

Julianaa · 23/11/2018 18:46

A student of mine is a model. They have absolutely amazing red hair. So unique and eye catching, just real natural beauty.

TeenTimesTwo · 23/11/2018 18:50

I really don't get why people are so down on ginger/red hair.
It is striking, unusual and lovely, and reminds me of Celtic / Viking warriors. A great, strong colour.

WinterfellWench · 23/11/2018 18:56

OMG rude!

WinterfellWench · 23/11/2018 18:57

Posted too soon!

What a twatty twunt that woman is. That poor girl having such a nob for a mother. Sad

Good for you for sticking to your guns. I know a number of ginger people, and they are all gorgeous, and their hair is stunning. Why the F would this girl want it dying? Ginger hair has been 'cool' for the best part of a decade now! (Though a few gingers I know do get people commenting on their pale skin and saying the need a tan! Cheek!)