Help me.

[ilovepuppys]

I just can't anymore
I'm with such an emotionally abusive controlling man who makes me sob everyday. The things he does to me are indescribable 😢 I end up sobbing most days then being shouted at and being told everything's my fault and that I'm hurting baby on purpose by crying ( I'm 7 months pregnant ) and being told I'm evil, ugly, horrible, and that I don't deserve anything and if I leave him he will take me to court to get custody of baby. Even though I told him if we ended that I'd always let him be in babies life. I get told I'm a lying bitch and no woman ever tells the truth and that I'd never let him see his child. ( I would!! 😢)
He's now taken everything away from me and said I can only speak to him and others after I apologise for the drama and when I next speak there are no visible tears on my face otherwise he will keep me like this.
I'm so heart broken and I don't know what to do because I can't leave him it's so messed up. But right now I'm so distraught and I have no idea what to do 😢

Think of your baby, is this the relationship you want them to be around?
I was you just a few months ago, I only got the courage to break up with him once my baby was born and it was the best decision I made. It's hard being a single mum and I'm going through a custody battle too but the courts are on your side. You are the babies mother. Please don't be scared you and your baby deserve so much better than this man

Please don’t believe a word of what he says about you. You can’t be with this awful person - please please speak to someone who can help him get out of there. You CAN leave him. He does not deserve you. Lots of love x

It may seem hopeless but you do have options. You could contact Women’s Aid, talk to your midwife, confide in your employer or coworkers.

It isn’t easy to extricate oneself from an abusive relationship, but it is always worth it. Wishing you strength.

Pregnancy, birth and the first weeks home with a newborn are he most risky times to be in a domestic violent relationship. He could hurt you, he could hurt your newborn. You must leave and we all say that knowing how difficult it is to leave.
But you owe that to your baby

‘We're so sorry to hear you're going through this, OP.
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Very best wishes from all at MNHQ '

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Get a red pen or any fucking pen and make a big circle on the front of your notes. They say red is best because the book is blue and white stands out. When you give the notes to the midwife she will see it and not act on it if he is there and then so get you help. Bit lovely you have to do this your self. Do not put that nasty fucker on the birth cert and do not give his name. Be strong your a warrior you have asked for hell now take it and fucking waddle and run xx