To not want to dress ds in stuff just because it was a gift?

[sweetjane]

Let me be clear: it's very kind of people to give us baby clothes. I do realise that. But why why why do people persist in giving us those T-shirts with stuff like "Tiny Tearaway", "Gremlin", "Menace", & "Here Comes Trouble" on them, and jeans - JEANS!! for a 6 month old baby?????

Dh says we should dress him in them when we see the people who have given them. I say we should donate them to charity and have done with it.

I admit I am a bit strict when it comes to baby clothes and it's only very recently that I have dressed him in anything other than sleepsuits. And I don't really want to offend people. But I am putting my foot down on this. Am I being unreasonable? What do you think?

[tassis]

no offence Kewcumber, but i really don't get designer clothes (especially for littlies)

[Kewcumber]

neithe do I tassis, especially as the tshirts tend to be navy with logo embroidered in Navy! (Would have been £2.50 in M&S!)

[Kewcumber]

he is normally charity shop or Tesco kid!

[donnie]

you are not being unreasonable. I refused to dress my dds in tights, frilly pants, dresses and shoes when they were tiny babies as it makes nappy changes bloody impossible and they are completely uncomfortable.

couldnt agree more.

[Anna8888]

I don't like jeans on new born babies either.

But the minute my daughter was trying to crawl, I thought they were fantastic for saving her knees . Specially Gap boot cut ones, with a little flowery tunic top from Bonpoint or Monsoon

[Wisteria]

My Mum made me wear some gold lame socks with a bambi on when I was 15 because my Gran sent them to me - I was a goth btw..........
You won't get the chance to choose what they wear for long so do what you want now. I personally would put the unwanted clothes on for dinner time when givers come round that way everyones happy as you have to change them afterwards anyway!!

[MrsPuddleduck]

I would take them back to the shop if they still had the label on (without mentioning it) and pick something your child will wear. I always think at least that way they didn't waste their money. (My son used to be the proud owner of a "funky little dude" top at the age of 6 months)

[bouncy]

ah takes me back to the days where I had to wear a jumper that my nan had knitted, the arms were too long and the neck was too small so I nearly lost my ears when it came off, and it itched to buggery.

Agree with other take it back or tell them if they didn't mind to give other gifts.

[SomethingIncrediblyWitty]

No you're not unreasonable -just unlucky to have had gifts from people who have taken no notice of your sense of style. I personnally don't mind soft jeans past 6 months, but if someone gave me something for dd that was luminous pink or covered in frills i would have have same reaction! I don't like the slogan tee-shirts either. I don't even like the 'i love my mummy' type.

[chucky73]

my mil bought my dd a dress for xmas when she was about 7 mths old. OMG it was the most hideous thing you could ever imagine, it was red velvet and had doilies all over it, and to top it off there was a hat. she looked like strawberry shortcake. mil put it on her and started taking photos then brought us to a family do, i was mortified

[NKF]

If someone had brought me a present for a baby, I'd make an effort to dress them in it for a visit. It makes them - particularly old ladies - so happy. But then I was never given nasty T-shirts just a few over the top, rather impractical items.

[lionheart]

Dress the child in the clothes, take a picture, then pass clothes on/give them to charity.

Display photo on mantle when specific guests arrive.



I like the idea of diplomatic dressing, elliott.

[Tortington]

if you dont like it -bin it. simple. the people who bought you clothes won't know.

[Thelittlesoldiersmummy]

they are so chavvy i know what you mean

[Wisteria]

Yes but then, they'll assume you loved lo in it so much that they'll buy you more.... what a waste of money.....

[jellybellie]

YANBU - if you don't like it then don't dress them in it - we often have those charity bags left on the doorstep - others will be grateful for them - there is no accounting for taste(!) If anybody asks just say that the clothes were too big/too small. IME that usually works..

[Anna8888]

Wisteria - yes, you are right.

My mother-out-of-law buys lots of expensive clothes for my daughter (2.7). She has always said that, if I don't like what she chooses, I should feel free to exchange it for something else. Which I do, and tell her, and bit by bit she has come to understand my taste and so she makes fewer mistakes.

I definitely don't want to discourage this source of beautiful clothing worth at least 1500 euros a year

[sweetjane]

Lakota I am lovin the image of a witch finder general hat!! That has so cheered me up!

Hand knitted stuff is a different matter though I agree. As long as it doesn't have "Little Terror" knitted on it.

[LowFatMilkshake]

I think YABUish. Fair enough if you dont like slogan shirts. But as for jeans, people will only buy what they can see. And when it comes to boys clothes they are limited.

My DS is same aga as yours and I find jeans perfect for cooler weather when we go out for a walk and he's stuck in the pushchair. And I always make sure they are soft denim. However if he's going to be stuck in a seat for a long time I try to get away from waistbands and use rompers and dungarees.

Dont see why everyone is so agahast a a baby having jeans! Just cos they are small doesnt mean they cant have proper clothes.

[Katy44]

We've been given loads of knitted stuff, it's so kind of people but it's not really practical, washing wise, it's also 28 degrees and heading into summer!
I also love cute babygros / vests!

[flibbertyjibbet]

YANBU. I gave stuff away or in a couple of cases ie the LINEN trousers from Next for 0-3month size (and me being a minimum ironing type) some cases returned it to the shop it came from and exchanged for something more practical. If the people who gave it to us came to visit I would say that we had got baby dressed in their outfit but that he was sick just before they arrived and had to change him
But have to agree that for little boys there is not much apart from jeans or denim. Unless you go 'upmarket' and I try not to spend a lot on clothes that last such a little time.
Try not to moan too much at being given clothes as once they have outgrown all the 'pressie' stuff you will wish you had a few spare t shirts even if they do have slogans on.

[flightattendant]

No you're not alone...when DS1 was born, I had various outfits given to me which were either not to my taste, really, really uncomfortable or simply would not surround his cloth-nappied and rather portly girth

I took back one or two as they were expensive, and I thought it better to use the money for something that would fit him. I told the people concerned that he had just worn them and been sick on them so they were sadly in the wash...

Collared shirts (babies don't have necks!!) and jeans were just not useful.

With you on the sleepsuits, anything jersey basically...

This time I'm saving a few things I know he won't wear, to give as presents to pregnant friends I think will really like them.

Nothing wrong with tact and diplomacy but at the end of the day it's you who has to get the wriggling thing into them

[nightowl]

lol..i remember the days when i was fussy about what ds wore. my friends said they had never seen any child wear as many outfits in a single day as mine did.

every single outfit had to have matching shoes, he had about 30 pairs. he was immaculate.

dd normally looks like a tramp. she wont wear anything pretty or girly. she chooses the clothes and dresses herself in the most horrendous combinations its enough to make my eyes hurt.

people have brought her some pretty awful clothes in the past but luckily by the time she's been big enough to fill them out, they're too short for her (she's tall and thin, was never typical chubby baby) so ive never had to feel bad about giving them away!

[flightattendant]

Oh my gosh, Yes the knitted things with loads of finger-snagging holes.

And a tigger sleepsuit, wit hood, he wore it once for a photo to show my friend as proof he'd worn the bloody thing.

It was ridiculous, she has her own child now and would understand why (if she ever found out )

Very kind nonetheless!

[handlemecarefully]

YANBU - why should you dress your baby in other people's taste bypass choices. As long as you feign gratitude and appreciation for their offerings - job done.