Advice please

[6triesbuttingout]

Hi my daughters pregnant, happy time. She intends to breastfeed. It’s 26 years since I did it at the time the recommended treatment for sore nips was camomile cream which wasn’t great. What worked for you. I’m putting together a mums ‘ support kit’ anything you would have really liked? Tia

Lansinoh cream and lots of it.

A thermos and a Netflix subscription so a) your brew never goes cold and so you have something good to watch while your tied to the sofa feeding

Some home cooked meals in tupperware boxes she can stick in the freezer and heat up when she doesn’t have the time/energy to cook. Good calorific stuff like lasagne will help her keep her energy up for breastfeeding.

Lanisoh cream, nipple shields, if she has flat or inverted nipples then you can also get something that 'sick's' them out making latch easier (can't remember the name), the number of a good, mobile breastfeeding expert, breast pads, breast pump.
Encouragement and support but also someone to say that it is ok to give formula if needed.

Yes to hot meals, large water bottle she can sit next to her.

Great! Thank you. A thermos hadn’t even crossed my mind

Oh thank you every one. Amazon is going to be quite busy tonight

Another one for lanolin it's amazing stuff

Oh yes a decent water bottle too for cold drinks. One that pref has a flip straw/sports cap

Oh..... can you please be my mum!? I'm 36 weeks pregnant and a survival kit like that sounds just lovely xx

A good piece of advice my mum gave me was to have two teas - one late afternoon and one early evening. Really helped to keep calories up.

My midwife also recommend cream cakes and full fat milk - yummy :)

Nipple shields- my baby was tongue tied and this was the only way he would feed

Lansinoh is the only one you don't have to wash off before feeding so it's the most convenient.

A travel mug with a lid so hot drinks stay hot and don't spill.

Netflix

A big shawl or blanket to go around them both, especially good for skin to skin contact when baby won't settle.

Extra muslins

A pashmina, I found mine so useful as a cover up when out. Also useful as a blanket and changing mat in an emergency!

My amazon basket is pretty full. There’s breast pads, breast pump with bottle, Muslim squares,nip cream, moistureizer and hand cream. I am knitting a big shawl and a kick rug and have a pashmina. Also subscribed to monthly nappy delivery. I’m thinking food now beef casserole, chicken casserole, lasagna. Tomato sauce for pasta, couple of fuit crumbles what do you think?

@6triesbuttingout with the monthly nappy delivery. How do they know what size to deliver?

You sound like a lovely mum and I'm sure you'll be a lovely Gran too

I preferred cloth great pads as they were more comfy. Electric breast pump and bottles. Food you can eat with one hand esp snacks that don't need heated in grab bags

You could look at cloth nappy service where they deliver and pickup

Pashmina was my life saver too. I could wear it like a scarf then have draped across me when feeding

I think it's more about the emotional support than the stuff - bf is totally worth it, but not always a bed of roses, and support to get through the hard days is so important.

This is a great online course about how everything works and how best to support:
https://courses.abm.support/courses/team-baby-a-partners-guide-to-supporting-breastfeeding/
(Not just for partners, for everyone around the mum)

I personally preferred MooGoo's nipple cream to Lansinoh big it is harder to get hold of.

No advice but you sound lovely OP and as a big fat pregnant woman with an amazing mum it makes the world of difference having support like this. It’s not the stuff (though my mum is knitting like a pro and I’m hugely grateful), it’s the thought and knowing she’s there for me.

Congratulations to your DD, enjoy being a granny

I am not expecting but I would still like you to be my mum , you sound very caring .
I am sure your DD will appreciate all you do for her .

Food wise I would say snack / cereal bars , easy to eat fruit , yes to the idea of stews / chilli / curry / pasta sauce .
Does DD have a slow cooker ? if not then buy her one so that when DC is asleep DD can chuck some cheap cuts of meat and veggies in and then sit back down and have a well earnt rest while food sorts its self out .

Mmm hadn’t thought of size of nappies, guessing you can update it when needed. I just want to give daughter as much support as I can but we live quite along way from each other due to her husbands job. So am planning to batch bake and fill her freezer. Snacks are a great idea, baby’s not due till feb so I have time, I trying to think of healthy hearty food that she can just take out of freezer and ding

My mum moved in with us for the first two weeks and cooked, cleaned and did laundry. It meant husband and I could just focus on getting to know our new baby and I could get breastfeeding established.
I'd second the advice about phone numbers of people who can help - I didn't get great advice from the midwives and having someone come to my house who believed I could do it and also believed it was important to breastfeed was a game changer.

I have just read the opening page from the link that rockcrusheslizard posted , and while I do not doubt that they have some good advice to give it alienates bottle feeding parents altogether .
Surely they would benefit to but are (imo) unlikely to join up after reading that page.

(Thank you rock for posting it though )