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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think this was WRONG!

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TenPastEleven · 22/11/2018 16:10

I’m working late 2 nights this week so Wednesday and Thursday DH Is collecting the children and making their tea. In the fridge are the following: a bag of spinach and cheese tortellini, a carton of fresh pasta sauce, some sausages, broccoli and new potatoes.
I got home last night to find he had cooked the sausages and chopped them up and added them to the tortellini and pasta sauce.
Is it just me, or does anyone else see the problem with that?

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JakeBallardswife · 22/11/2018 17:41

I get it, but really a non issue. Sausages and pasta are a great choice in my opinion.

Can you make brocolli frittatta to go with the new potatoes to make it go further?

RedSkyLastNight · 22/11/2018 17:44

You can make a cheese sauce in the time it takes to cook sausages and potato! It's hardly time consuming ...

Snowdrifthill · 22/11/2018 17:45

Of course I see the problem, I feel you OP.
My husband would have fed the children sausages on bread and ignored all the other things though, so you're one up on me!

TheGirlWhoLived · 22/11/2018 17:47

I’d have popped it all in a crockpot and had mystery fridge surprise 2 nights on the trot

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TenPastEleven · 22/11/2018 17:47

red sky I can. HE can’t. And I don’t have time to do it for him.

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TenPastEleven · 22/11/2018 17:50

Can you make brocolli frittatta to go with the new potatoes to make it go further?
No, I can’t. I’m at work, remember? 😀

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RiverTam · 22/11/2018 17:52

He’s not the usual cook or meal planener then it’s probably not obvious that what was planned, my DH wouldn’t necessarily gather than either.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 22/11/2018 17:53

Pasta is great as leftovers lunch.

No it's not. Cold pasta is like slime, and reheated pasta is muck.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 22/11/2018 17:56

I'm sorry but what part about having a penis causes this?

I don't know Eila - but it so often does.

bsbabas · 22/11/2018 17:57

Sausages are a traditional Italian food normally pan fried with peppers then a mild tomato and basil sauce with tagliatelle. Bread, salad and red wine optional

RiverTam · 22/11/2018 17:59

It’s not about having a penis, it’s about being the member of the household who’s not in charge of meal planning. Of course, this is usually the woman but I have no doubt in households where the man is chief cook his wife is pretty likely to just knock up what she fancies as well.

Since I went back to work full time we plan the meals together and then write it down and leave it on the fridge. But before that, I shopped, meal planned and cooked and somwhilst Fh would be perfectly capable of feeding himself and Dd, he wouldn’t necessarily know what else was going on in my mind re food.

blackteasplease · 22/11/2018 18:03

Surely he can just get something else to.go with the broccoli and potatoes if he fancied sausage pasta.

RibbonAurora · 22/11/2018 18:14

I get that some men are deliberately useless but this really isn't one of those cases. If meal-planning were a joint thing in OP's household, though she says herself it isn't, I'd expect her DH to be as good at mind-reading knowing what the meals comprised of these ingredients should be as OP herself is but that's not so here. If OP resents the current status quo whereby she takes on the full burden of meal planning then she needs to have that conversation with her DH instead of dragging him through the Internet mud for doing as he saw fit with what was available to feed his DC.

diddl · 22/11/2018 18:30

If it's something that has been eaten before though, he doesn't need to have meal planned, shopped or cooked to know what is usually in it.

Still, shows that it's useful when both adults on a household can cook!

missnevermind · 22/11/2018 18:33

When I got together with DH many many moons ago he came round for lunch and my Mum offered him a ham sandwich or a cheese sandwich. He chose ham and cheese and then totally didn’t get that it meant somebody didn’t have a filling for their sandwich. (We were on a tight budget at the end of the month and I don’t think his Mother had ever had to budget for anything)

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TenPastEleven · 22/11/2018 18:46

I just thought it would be obvious! But obviously not 😀 for those worried about my children I am sure they will be fed this evening and will not die of scurvy from want of nutrients. As for my poor beleaguered husband, please don’t worry about him being ‘dragged through the Internet mud’. He is blissfully unaware that I even raised an eyebrow at his choices, and I haven’t actually said anything negative or critical about him. It’s just the thought process is totally different - what I thought was blatantly obvious, he didn’t. Yes it is a waste but there we go. I don’t really subscribe to the “tell him what to do or expect a fuck up” school of thought - it’s fine with me if cooking isn’t his thing, he is competent enough to do a basic meal and that’s okay - it’s more bafflement at not seeing what I thought was right there. I’ve found the reaction really interesting and there’s a lot of reinforcing of gender stereotypes which surprises me. And that’s not even what the point was, really.

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SD1978 · 22/11/2018 18:48

I agree it doesn't make much sense- that sounds like the makings of two meals, obviously. But I'd temper it with you didn't stipulate that the sausages were part of a different I tended meal, ergo were fair if a bit left of field choice to add.

RiverTam · 22/11/2018 18:50

DH is not the usual cook in our house, but he is often more creative and happy to try new things, whereas I stick to the same old same old. If he did this, he would come up with something equally unlikely for the following meal - because he’s not really into food he doesn’t ‘see’ certain things simply not going together - as long as it’s vaguely balanced he’ll combine whatever. DD doesn’t seem to mind, she also doesn’t give a shit about food.

BlueJava · 22/11/2018 18:51

I see where you're coming from but I don't think it's a big deal. My DP has done some amazingly weird stuff - chips and potato waffles (that was it) was one meal (carb loading or what), another he hasn't lived down was Panetone and faggots on the same plate!! So you see if could be worse.

TheChineseChicken · 22/11/2018 18:59

missnevermind I suppose most people wouldn't assume there was just one slice of cheese and one slice of ham to go around...

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 22/11/2018 19:02

I’d have done the same, much tastier.

Bouledeneige · 22/11/2018 19:02

I get your drift if you were planning 2 meals. But if I'm honest I guess sometimes I do the same thing just to mix things up a bit. I get so bored of the same old plain stuff.

I cook quite a nice sausage pasta with Elmlea cream, onions and garlic and a bit of spice. Yum yum.

muchprefersummer · 22/11/2018 19:05

My DH would do this too. In fairness his appetite is big (he does lots of fitness) and he would use the sausage to bulk the meal up to make it more substantial. I can't /won't complain though as he does 90% of the cooking!!!

Dotty1970 · 22/11/2018 19:21

How pathetic telling her about her veggies and how many she should have etc

MaryShelley1818 · 22/11/2018 19:42

YANBU OP!
I totally get it and would have thought the same - DP wouldn’t get it but would probably ask what to cook 😆

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