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about this parcel delivered in error to my house?

38 replies

LumpSatAloneInABoggyMarsh · 22/11/2018 06:43

The guy who previously lived here forgot to change his address on paypal and had a parcel delivered here by mistake.

I found him on fb and told him he could come by to collect it but he asked me to post it to the new address as he wouldn't be over this way (half hour away)

I said I could but due to working hours it would be in a couple of weeks before I would make it to the post office. I specifically asked him what type of postage ie tracking etc and he replied "whatever is cheapest"

As it turned out - I couldn't get to the post office after three weeks but completely forgot to tell him. He sent me a message one night at 2am with just a line of ??????????? which I thought was a bit rude! I told him it would have to wait until the following weekend or he could come by any evening.

Anyway, I posted it and never heard anything from him. Just figured he was rude and I'd never see the money for the postage and couldn't be bothered to chase it.

Over a month later and he is asking me where it is and saying I should have gotten tracking etc.

I did have proof of postage but after over a month I've no idea where it's ended up.

AIBU to just ignore him now? Could I get in to any trouble for this?

OP posts:
Blanchedupetitpois · 22/11/2018 06:46

What a prick. You were nice to post it in the first place when it was totally his mistake. Just ignore him - you certainly haven’t done anything wrong and couldn’t get into trouble.

Blanchedupetitpois · 22/11/2018 06:46

I would keep screenshots of your conversation though, just as an absolute failsafe!

caroline161 · 22/11/2018 06:48

Did he pay you for the postage?

Original poster
LumpSatAloneInABoggyMarsh · 22/11/2018 06:50

No he didn't.

I popped a note on the parcel with my email for paypal and he didn't pay me but I figured he was pissed about the delay.

OP posts:
spicedemerald · 22/11/2018 06:51

I’ve forgotten to change my Paypal address before and had it sent to my old house by mistake (it’s easily done) but I went to collect the item myself-and it was out of my way. He has been rather rude when you have inconvenienced yourself because of his error.

If I were you I would screenshot the proof of postage and send it to him, then not contact him again.

brighteyeowl17 · 22/11/2018 06:54

Not your responsibility! He should have come And got it himself. If you have proof of postage then that’s that. Why on earth would You pay for tracking for an item nothing to do with you?

AJPTaylor · 22/11/2018 06:57

Tell him to jog on.

forumdonkey · 22/11/2018 06:59

I wouldn't have posted it. He's a CF asking you to . Tell him he owes you money for the postage and then ignore him.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 22/11/2018 07:07

I wouldn't have posted it either. No chance.
Cheeky swine. Some people are ridiculously self important and rude and he's one of them.

Just block him on FB.

Candlelights2345 · 22/11/2018 07:09

Just ignore him now. I wouldn’t have made a special trip to the post office for him.

EdisonLightBulb · 22/11/2018 07:12

I wouldn't have posted it either, I would have said come and get it or it goes outside the gate. What a CF, he should have at least sent you the postage in advance.

Alfie190 · 22/11/2018 07:17

Also would not have posted it or initiated any communication. It was up to him.

Holidayshopping · 22/11/2018 07:19

i wouldn’t have posted it-what a rude man!

Pinkyyy · 22/11/2018 07:20

Just reply with a line of punctuation of your choice, like he did

WinterfellWench · 22/11/2018 07:20

Wow what a cheeky bastard. Words fail me. I would ignore every message now and block him!

Don't be surprised if he tries to pursue you for the package though. Something similar happened to me about 6 or 7 years back. A neighbour I took a package in for (who collected it the next day,) denied having it, and caused me a lot of bother.

Hope this doesn't happen to you.

costacoffeecup · 22/11/2018 07:50

Reply saying sorry it hasn't turned up, you still owe me for the postage I paid to send it btw. Then block him.

gimmeadoughnut123 · 22/11/2018 07:54

Tell him he should have come and got it himself. You posted it the cheapest way as requested and it's not your fault it got lost. And remind him he hasn't offered you money for postage.
Guy sounds like an asshole.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 22/11/2018 08:00

I'd try and find the proof of postage; if you can and the messages. It'll make life easier if he attempts to argue that you had a duty of care for the parcel... But as he's taken so long to do anything at all; I doubt he will! It can hardly have been important if he was happy to wait months for it.

It was bloody rude of him to ask you to post in on the first place; let alone his message after!

Wheresthebeach · 22/11/2018 08:24

I suppose you could report it lost in the post, unlikely that the post office will 'find' it but maybe worth a shot.

Other than that there isn't anything you can do. You've already gone out of your way and there's not much more you can do.

He does sound a dick.

showmewhatyougot · 22/11/2018 08:27

He probably did get it, just does not want to pay out for delivery.

Send him proof, save the convosation and block him x

cafenoirbiscuit · 22/11/2018 08:30

Am literally speechless. He’s a CF of the highest order

maerd · 22/11/2018 08:36

We once had something delivered here for a previous owner. They had a surname similar to my maiden name and the delivery driver had a strong accent, so when DH took the parcel in, he didn’t actually notice it wasn’t for me. Then we had no way of contacting the person who it belonged to, and I wasn’t going to spend time chasing anyone who might know her, so it sat on our table for a while. She had obviously had tracking info of it being sent to us though because she arranged for a courier to collect it - except didn’t tell us this and we were out at work the three times the courier attempted collection. She could easily have sent us a note in the post or popped round for it. She never did come and get it. You’ve already put more effort in than I did OP so I would just ignore him now!

FFSFFSFFS · 22/11/2018 08:48

I wouldn't have posted it. I would have waited for him to collect it or sent it back (or it didn't look that expensive ultimately chuckled it or given it to charity)

Foxyloxy1plus1 · 22/11/2018 08:55

Surely, his responsibility to update his address anyway. You can’t be held responsible for what happens to a parcelto you have very kindly agreed to forward.

itbemay · 22/11/2018 09:03

Send back the following:

GrinGrin self entitled prick