about this parcel delivered in error to my house?

[LumpSatAloneInABoggyMarsh]

The guy who previously lived here forgot to change his address on paypal and had a parcel delivered here by mistake.

I found him on fb and told him he could come by to collect it but he asked me to post it to the new address as he wouldn't be over this way (half hour away)

I said I could but due to working hours it would be in a couple of weeks before I would make it to the post office. I specifically asked him what type of postage ie tracking etc and he replied "whatever is cheapest"

As it turned out - I couldn't get to the post office after three weeks but completely forgot to tell him. He sent me a message one night at 2am with just a line of ??????????? which I thought was a bit rude! I told him it would have to wait until the following weekend or he could come by any evening.

Anyway, I posted it and never heard anything from him. Just figured he was rude and I'd never see the money for the postage and couldn't be bothered to chase it.

Over a month later and he is asking me where it is and saying I should have gotten tracking etc.

I did have proof of postage but after over a month I've no idea where it's ended up.

AIBU to just ignore him now? Could I get in to any trouble for this?

I was in the same boat, and found this helpful chat on the royalmail website.
www.royalmailchat.co.uk/community/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=76571

The easiest thing would be to find the proof of posting. I found mine in the shopping bag I took with me. I expect you've checked already but... Coat pockets? Bags? What else did you do that day? Did you pay by card?

The worryer in me (and I'm sorry this is totally unhelpful) says change he locks and get a camera. He used to live there so may still have a key.

This sounds like scam. He claims he didn’t get his parcel and is trying to get you to pay. Tell him it’s his fault and block him.

I agree with the poster who said he has the parcel but doesn’t want to pay you. I’d leave it and see if he starts harassing you. You are kind and he’s a cheeky f!!!

Afraid I wouldn’t have posted either, unless he’d asked very politely and paid me in advance for the postage. I’d certainly be tearing the house apart now trying to find the receipt just to wipe the smile off his face. If you really can’t find it, reply that you sent it and had been waiting for him to repay you for postage, not to be rude and just a line of ???
Also remind him you did ask if he wanted tracking.

YANBU and won’t get in any trouble.

Oh, actually after his line of question marks I probably wouldn’t have bothered sending at all. I would have replied with more question marks and waited for him to politely ask an actual question. Or just ignore.

You should never have agreed to post it. You should have just offered to keep it safe until he could collect it. Now you've entered into a situation that is causing you stress. You live and learn.

Just reply that you have posted his parcel and he owes you the postage. Get him to check that it's not been taken to his local collection office due to missed delivery.

You've spent far more time, effort and money than most (including me) would have done.

If you decide to respond tell him you've sent it at your own expense in line with what he said and it's now up to him to do the running around after it. If there's ever a next time give a deadline for collection after which it will go back to the sender.

More pressing concern is whether he's likely to turn up on your doorstep?

As others have said, he's a rude arsehole! I wouldn't even have posted it on to be honest...I'd either have told him to collect it or 'returned to sender' at no cost to myself. But, you did a kind thing that's now backfired...why didn't you IMMEDIATELY send him a photo of cost/tracking proof the second you posted it??? You say you've now lost this proof, so he's going to hound you by the sound of it! Blocking probably won't work...he knows where you live after all 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Really try hard to find the tracking receipt!

He's got it but he doesn't want to pay! If you left that note on it with your payment details then he's got that don't you worry. He's trying to get out of paying you that's all. Either ignore him or lie and say it was your partner who posted it and it had recorded delivery and you know for a fact he's got it. Lying prick.

'No good deed goes unpunished' eh?

As has been said, do see if you can find the receipt from when you posted it, and if you paid by card, it will show the transaction number... (on your bank statement.)

On the other hand, I don't see why it should be YOUR responsibility to find track the item down (which he probably has received anyway!)

Otherwise, as I said earlier, block the fucker and learn from it. Never do this again for anyone. (And if you do, then get the money from them first, and make sure you get a receipt at the post office.)

If he keeps pursuing you, tell him to fuck off or you will call the police for him harassing you. What an arsehat.

Thanks for all your replies everyone. I will just block him from now on and make sure I never do this again!

In a strange twist - I have has a marathon runners pack today for him. Popping that in the post box return to sender first thing in the morning!

So despite this ongoing fiasco he's still 'forgotten' to change his delivery address?

Couldn't be he's operating some kind of claim back scam. Could it?