Premature Ejaculation...F@ck sake

[EmbarrassinglyFrustrated]

Had a stealthy name change for anonymity. 😂

So ladies AIBU to be getting increasingly frustrated and angry at my partner of 3 years premature ejaculation.
We have a baby together now, and before he's never lasted long but it was 8/10 long enough to satisfy. But in the last year it's just gotten so bad. I'm really starting to resent him. He literally goes for about 5 thrusts and is done. Rolls over and goes to sleep. WTF!
At this point I usually end up biting my tongue and going downstairs with a personal toy to finish myself off.
Please tell me I'm not being unreasonable because a part of me feels like I'm being such a bitch.
But at the moment this is putting a massive downer on the relationship and I honestly don't think I'm going to want to carry on this way for much longer. I WANT THE D so bad I've actually started have female wet dreams about random strangers.
I've spoken to him and urged him to see the GP about it but he doesn't seem bothered. I understand it's probably embarrassing for him and I've been so supportive in trying to help him, but my patience is wearing thin.

And before anyway says it, this is not a fake post, God I wish it was.

To add, I've put more effort into trying to resolve the issue than he has. I probably know more about it now than most men do! 😂

I can see why he may be embarrassed about it, and slow to take action to improve things if he's hoping it'll just get better.

I think the just rolling over and going to sleep would piss me off more than the actual issue itself - he maybe can't help how long he lasts but he could make sure you've finished and help in other ways, so in this respect YANBU to be annoyed

YAB a bit U to be angry with him over something he can’t help.

However YANBU to expect him to seek medical advice to try and solve the issue AND to take more care over your needs.

I don’t understand why he isn’t at least finishingyou off afterwards?!

As Meringue said - it's not the PE, it's the complete disregard for your pleasure.

If you can't thrust away mindlessly for half an hour or whatever, no worries. Lots of guys can't. I can't, for a start.

But FGS if you only last half a dozen thrusts then you bloody well give her at least 1-2 Orgasms before and/or after. Jesus. YANBU. He's acting like you're a cum sock.

Maybe you should go first?

He can do other things besides penetration to satisfy you, but he isn't. It sounds like he doesn't care about your sexual satisfaction at all, which is pretty shit.

It sounds like not only are you not getting anything from sex with him, he doesn’t care that you’re not getting anything from it? For me that would be the bigger issue because really premature ejactulation is not an issue if he was still willing to care about you enjoying it.

New rule - ladies first!

Yanbu, I’d have thought he should be ‘sorting you out’ before he starts to dtd. I think he’s being pretty selfish if hes ejaculating then rolling over to sleep, regardless of the amount of thrusts it takes him to get there. I’d be talking to him about his selfishness in bed before trying to get him to sort out his premature ejaculation

The problem isn't premature ejaculation here. The problem is selfish arseholery.

I would NEVER put up with this.

Have you (he) tried a desensitising spray or condoms as they can help without going to the GP?

But agree it should always be ladies first.

Is there any possibility that he's so embarrassed/upset with himself that he's just totally in denial there's a problem? Otherwise, he sounds like a selfish twunt.

He needs to learn the ladies first rule.

Is he actually suffering from premature ejaculation, or is he just not holding back because he’s being selfish?

Get one of the delay sprays and give him a blast before he starts.

Get him to have a wank first, but not sure if it sounds like he's bothered enough to do that!

There’s an echo in here!

What everyone else has said.

...and no, I wouldn’t be putting up with his attitude At All

I’d be ‘sorting myself out’ in my comfortable bed, completely without him, then when he complains tell him you’re not a wank sock.

This does really read like it was written by a man trying ultra hard to pass as a woman

“Ladies”
“Personal toy”
“Female wet dream”
“Not a fake post”

Also I’m suspicious as you’re making it sound like PIV sex was previously your only route to an orgasm, and most women don’t actually orgasm from PIV anyway, but from other stuff. Though I know there are plenty of exceptions.

Anyway on the off-chance this is real, I suggest you just get him to do more of that other stuff before and after sex, slow down his thrusts, and wear a condom. It’s not rocket science.

The turning over and going to sleep immediately is its own issue.

Is he my ex?

No, YANBU. He is selfish and should at least be sorting you out afterwards, preferably seeking some way of lasting longer. There are sprays, as well as other options, if he doesn't want to see a Dr

The thing is there are things you/he can do, but you said you spoke to him about it and he's not bothered. He's happy to finish in 5 seconds and then go straight to sleep. So he doesn't care whether you're satisfied or not. That's the major issue here!

Tell him ladies first. Then and only then does he get his jollies.

Is he selfish in other ways??

I think I agree with Slothslothsloth.

If you are genuine then just say to him you need sorting out first and refuse piv until that happens

I find it difficult to orgasm through penatrative sex so I normally 'get myself off' as it were with a toy then do the deed as my DP seldom lasts long enough for me to get into the zone so speak! [Embarrassed]