To contact my ExP’s Ex and ask her to stop stalking me?

[Didsomeonesaybunny]

My ExP and I are in touch as we have a baby together.

Today I attended a conference that my ex was also attending. We didn’t attend together but did agree we’d have a bite to eat and a chat. I tweeted I was at the conference (nothing about him!) and then my ExP’s obsessive ex girlfriend (who he left me for and they’ve now split) sent him a nasty message about the two of us. She does this constantly with respect to me. My ex asked me not to post anything anymore as she was constantly using it against me but this seems insane to me? They are not even together and she’s shacked up with someone else so why does she even give it s second thought?

I have blocked her off every social media platform so I’m not sure how she’s getting this information but she messaged my ex literally within 10 minutes of me tweeting so she must be stalking me 24/7.

Ex asked me to send him an email so that it looks like we haven’t been in communication, he wants this to send to her so that she backs off else she will pursue him if she thinks he is back with me (this is her MO sadly) she hasn’t really been bothered that my ex has a new Gf but a sniff of me and she starts becoming crazy.

Ex has also asked me to i-message him instead of WhatsApp as he doesn’t want her seeing he is online. I don’t think I should have to do this, AIBU? Should I just contact her and tell her to get on with her lovely life and concentrate on her own shit rather than mine?

Not your circus of monkeys.

You need to carry on living your life as normal.

He needs to deal with his ex. Just tell him you don't want to hear it and it is his problem to sort out.

Don't lie and cover for him.

Your ex is a wrong un

TVM for the posts of advice; you’re right, it’s his problem to deal with not mine. I’ve adjusted my privacy settings and have also combed through my friends list.

One poster mentioned she was his safety net, he’s used the word ‘safety’ to describe his relationship with her in the past.. I’m not exaggerating here but he has zero friends and feels quite isolated and despite the awful things that he has done to the OW she is will always be his ‘friend’ and shag on the side. That is probably why he hasn’t blocked her. Also, I know she won’t have contact with him if he’s job touch with me. He wants his cake and eat it. He’s boomeranged between the two of us for quite some time hence the hatred.

As for my ex being the biggest asshole in the world - I wouldn’t disagree, I mean, this is the man that left his pregnant girlfriend for OW, come back to me and then leave to go off and date someone else (who btw seems lovely).

I’m going to concentrate on my DD, the pair of them are vile

God OP read your posts like a stranger you will see he is a dick. He seems to have an emotional hold on you too, why would you interested in even meeting for lunch after the way he has treated you, you defend him as been lonely and kind. He really is NOT.
I would bet he is having casual sex with all 3 of you mentioned in the OP.
Hence the hatred between you and his ex.
Please cut him off emotional other than DC arrangements. This guy will boomerang in your life until you stop him.

Why is he even telling you what she is messaging him? He should block her or at least ignore her and not drag you into it. I know the messages might be about you but really he's only causing you upset which is what she wants.

Yes I re-read your posts OP. It is actually so obvious. He is even managing to manipulate you into covering for him. After your update this guy must be a stud with a silver tongue. He needs a beware sign on him.

I wouldn’t get involved. Leave them to it. Sounds dramatic and exhausting. Focus on yourself and your child, ignore and don’t meet up with him unless necessary.