Was I unreasonable for leaving the room

[Findyoursparky]

Could I have a general consensus on whether I over reacted

DH and I watch an overseas lighthearted soap on the tv every weekday evening

DH thinks it’s funny to get into it, by loudly calling the characters rude names if they do or say anything he thinks is wrong. On the odd occasion, this involves the words slut and whore. He insists he is saying it as a joke to get a lighthearted reaction from me

I get offended when he uses these words in particular, to be honest I don’t like it when he provides any commentary, and have asked him a few times to stop doing it.

We were watching it again last night and he said (about a female character who was trying it on with a man for financial gain) “she’s just a f*king whore”. He then looked at me and implied it was a joke.
I looked at him, and didn’t even say anything, I just walked out

He is saying I ruined the evening by walking out of the living room, he the wouldn’t apologise when I explained why I did it.

Who was in the wrong?

He is 37 years old.

He needs to grow up and realise that some language is unacceptable, even to close family. Make a stand. I wouldn't like it either, it's possible to enjoy something funny on TV without being insensitive to the feelings of others.

It would be hilarious if he were 16 and surrounded by other similarly immature 26 year olds. As it is he is a grown man and should have grown out of this sort of twattery, thinly disguised as humour. I would find this very unattractive.

I've become a lot more sensitive to stuff like this lately, seem to see misogyny wherever I look these days. Is it that side of it that's bothering you OP?

Tbh if it was every now and again I'd say just to ignore it but more than anything I would find him doing that every time you watch this programme annoying more than anything.

Sorry, clearly I can't type and over used 'more than anything'!

No, he ruined the evening by deliberately saying something he knows you find very offensive. As a consequence of his choice, you walked out of the room, as you have every right to do, and as an action that is a mature and rational one in the face of such deliberate provocation. He then felt his evening was ruined.

His choice, his action. Your reaction. His consequence.

Are you watching neighbours? Otherwise what is this soap and then I can properly assess the situation..

He sounds like a total dick. Why are you with him?

Although, a woman trying to sleep with a man for financial gain is the very definition of a whore, I think you'll find.

He sounds vile.

That's the kind of behaviour you need to nip in the bud. If not, this is what it escalates to.,

It’s horrible, glad you left the room. I think he’s probably doing it as he know it winds you up if you’ve spoken about it before

I find it hard to get so irate over Neighbours that i would have to shout out insults! He is being a pig and you are in your rights to walk out. He really needs to chill out more if Neighbours gives him the rage like this.

You know who is in the wrong. Even your husband knows he’s in the wrong.

He’s deliberately upsetting you every evening by using sexist, denigrating and offensive language and he wants to demonstrate his power by making you sit there and pretend you don’t mind.

Given how he behaves regarding a soap I’d guess it’s just the tip of the iceberg of reprehensible and unacceptable behaviour.

Treat him as you would a misbehaving toddler. Mark your boundaries clearly, tell him the consequences of overstepping and carry them through.

what a knob.

Stop reacting and ignore him.

"Although, a woman trying to sleep with a man for financial gain is the very definition of a whore, I think you'll find"

Yet men who do the same are Male Escouts and Gigolos. Do you see the issue with Whore?

Given its historical usage, like a lot of words, it should have been left in the past.

I would bet that the words used for the Men aren't of the same type as used for the Women.

He sounds like an utter dicksplash.

Sadly, this kind of behaviour is not uncommon in some men (not all obvs!)

All I can suggest is ignore him, or threaten to leave if he doesn't pack it in. What a twat.

I'm guessing he saves the words slut and whore for women and not men?

Ugh. Hideous behaviour. I can't understand why you would be with someone like that.

" He insists he is saying it as a joke to get a lighthearted reaction from me"

I just couldn't be doing with that tbh.

Obviously different people find different things amusing, but I couldn't be with someone who deliberately tried to wind me up.

I think that it's a horrible thing to do.

Why would you try to upset someone you care about on purpose?

He is saying I ruined the evening by walking out of the living room

Well he ruined YOUR evening by his juvenile behaviour!

He insists he is saying it as a joke to get a lighthearted reaction from me

Well he got a reaction.

What a nasty piece of work he is.

Why would you try to upset someone you care about on purpose?

This. It's really weird behaviour from him. It's a kind of opening salvo to see what happens when he pushes your boundaries. It just isn't funny or kind.

He sounds like a woman hater! I bet he goes on FB or Twitter as well and trolls women. Seems the type if he thinks it's 'humour'
The tw@t!