Skids

[DaniEvans]

Does anyone else have to hand wash pants before they go into the washing machine because skids are soooo bad???

My 11 year old does such bad skids I do this for at least 3 pairs of boxers a day.

He does have ASD so I don’t ever say anything or blame him as he says he doesn’t realise he’s done it until it’s too late!

Just wondered if I was the only one with the skids problem 😂

Lol just seen the scraping poo thread 😂😂

It can be part of sensory processing disorder which often run some along with asd

Sorry autumnal I hope you haven’t taken any offence by me doing a light hearted skid thread - I hope your situation improves x

Making miracles- yes I’m sure you’re right - just wondered if he’ll still be doing it in his 20’s - it might make meeting girls tricky 🙈

Why don’t you just wash them separately in the machine? My 9 year old is dreadful for skid marks. There’s absolutely no way I’d hand wash his pants . I just wasn’t them selerately on a really how wash.

Get him some moist toilet paper or babywipes, give him a lidded bin and show him how to use them after using toilet paper and to put them in that bin.

I did that with my son who has ASD, he took to it ok. Much better than watching the itchy bum in action.

Bentneck - but I’d be putting the washing machine on daily for 3 pairs of pants- is that what you’d do? Not sure I could cope with a build up of 6-9 pairs every couple of days!

You need to teach children how to use the toilet properly really, it's unavoidable.

Gamer - yes thanks he does have wet wipes and a bin, but he cleans himself up after he already has done it- then throws his dirty pants in the bath! Tried the constant prompting ‘do you need the toilet? Shall we try just in case?’ But he just gets cross with me and says no I don’t need the toilet

Best thread title of the day. Off to the scrapping poo thread.

I second the moist toilet paper idea. Hope things improve soon.

Sorry, just seen your post that he already uses them.

It sounds like he's soiling himself rather than just having skid marks in his pants.

I'd assume that to be a completely different issue.

I agree that from your description he has a medical issue involving soilage/leakage rather than not being bothered to wipe properly. Generally it’s related to constipation which doesn’t seem to make sense given there is poo coming out but there are several reasons for this.

I had the opposite problem with my kid with ASD. They would literally use an entire roll of toilet paper after doing a poo. Took years to get them to use a reasonable amount.

Yes that’s right he does a bit in his pants then realises he needs to use the toilet rather than going to the toilet and not cleaning himself properly.

It’s not a medical issue it’s because he doesn’t recognise the feeling of needing to go until it’s too late and he’s already had an accident. What makes it worse is obviously he stinks so I gently tell him he needs to go to the toilet, clean himself and take some clean pants with him, but he just denies all knowledge and sometimes says it’s the dog that smells! (I don’t say anything more as presumably he’s in denial because he’s embarrassed).

But It’s not a medical issue it’s because he doesn’t recognise the feeling of needing to go until it’s too late sounds exactly like a medical problem. Has it been investigated?

"it’s because he doesn’t recognise the feeling of needing to go until it’s too late"

That is a medical condition, OP.

This is a medical behaviour issue. Go and see you gp who should be able to refer you to a paediatric doctor. The doctor might suggest a a toileting routine.

It is not medical it’s about sensory processing of information- he’s 11 having had this problem since he was out of nappies I’ve seen plenty of medical people to know this.

Toilet Routines have been suggested and do work to an extent but if he’s not in school like the weekend or busy engrossed on his Xbox there’s not a hope in hell he’s going to get to use the toilet when he’s supposed to, he doesn’t care either

Is he constipated?

No he’s not constipated- he goes 2-3 times a day

Think I would treat them the same as cloth nappies. Put them in a lidded bucket and wash a load together rather than hand washing them.

I hear you, my son is autistic and has the same issues re sensory processing. It's both his bladder and bowels. Does yours have a toilet card for school? Mine does and that's helped a little because he can just leave the classroom by flashing his card without fuss apart from some teachers who think he should just be able to just control it because they are idiots

Whirly - yes he regularly wets himself as well. He does have a toilet card but doesn’t need to go during school (I mean a bowel movement) so I often prompt him when we get home - this is often effective but then he’ll go again during the evening 9-10pm that’s when he has the accidents- also always on the weekend

It’s not that it’s really a massive issue (for me - although obviously I don’t enjoy it!) I just accept I have to wash lots of boxer shorts- it’s the worry that he will never be able to sort this out himself

I'm not sure what the answer is but we're getting referred again to CAMHS to try to get more help, hoping to get to see OH again.
And yes to the constant washing, stripping wet beds and having half a loo roll down the loo because he's tried to clean himself up. We've also tried the wet wipes thing but that's not worked particularly well either.

Have you thought about trying to get an occupational health referral if you're not already under them? He had a couple of sessions a couple of years ago and they were very helpful but I think we need more input from them.

My 6 year old has gastric issues and frequently soils himself in the same manner as your son. I admit that I buy really cheap pants for him now (about the same price as his night time nappies), and if they're particularly bad I throw them out. I'm hoping it's allergy related (since birth) and he'll outgrow much of it