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AIBU to leave him asleep?

51 replies

LoopyLou1981 · 17/11/2018 14:22

DH asked whether he could have a lie in this morning (no problem on the proviso that he didn’t pass out on the sofa because it upsets the kids if we come down and find only for him to then go to bed for his ‘lie in’). Obviously he did the above.
I took the kids up to see him at 10am (which I consider a decent lie in) and got a mouthful of abuse so I brought the kids back downstairs and we’ve had a lovely time playing and mucking around.
Well he’s still asleep at nearly 2.30. AIBU to leave him to fester up there knowing it will screw his sleep pattern up and make work harder next week (and secretly feel rather pleased about it! 😂)?x

OP posts:
Mumof1DS · 17/11/2018 14:25

After a mouthful of abuse, yanbu

Endofthelinefinally · 17/11/2018 14:26

He sounds charming.

BertrandRussell · 17/11/2018 14:27

After a mouthful of abuse I would be out of there. Do you have.a friend you can go to?

Bunchofdaffodils · 17/11/2018 14:27

When you say “mouthful of abuse” wat did he say , exactly?

ittakes2 · 17/11/2018 14:29

What time did he got to bed?

DonaldDucksTowel · 17/11/2018 14:29

Absolutely not a chance would I be shlepping about with the kids on my own while their father lay in bed till this time - does he think he’s 15?!
Get the lazy fucker up and go out leaving him with the kids for a few hours

DontTouchTheMoustache · 17/11/2018 14:29

Unless he is ill I'm surprised he can even sleep so late! What time did he go to bed?
But yes leave him be

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LoopyLou1981 · 17/11/2018 14:35

A bit of f’ing and blinding and some ‘if you don’t let me sleep I’ll make you drive tomorrow (I’m not the most confident driver but would do it)’. Nothing I can’t handle or even be bothered about!
He was last on WhatsApp at 2am (my usual gauge of when he’s dozed off!) so I’m guessing about then.
I’ve no idea how he can still be asleep! Even with a huge effort I can’t stay in bed past 8am. The kids have just started sleeping until 7am fairly regularly and I feel like a new woman! 😂

OP posts:
mylightbulbmoment · 17/11/2018 14:36

I'm slightly concerned that you think this is so funny.

StoneMe · 17/11/2018 14:48

Why do you think it's all so funny OP? He swore at you and the kids and is massively taking the piss. Why haven't you gone up and demand he get up? Are you scared of him?

Kittykat93 · 17/11/2018 14:58

I don't think it's funny. He's acting pathetic.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 17/11/2018 14:59

Tbh my thoughts would be "who is he messaging at 2am on whatsapp" but my bf cheated on me so i am unreasonably suspicious

DonaldDucksTowel · 17/11/2018 15:04

DontTouch I’ve never been cheated on but that would be my first thought too

OP has clearly been conditioned to think this behaviour is not only acceptable but to think it’s funny too! Very sad

Maelstrop · 17/11/2018 15:07

How can he stay in bed til 10 then go back to sleep til 2.30?! Bloody hell, I'd be packing his bags! Giving you abuse for going up at 10? He's an idiot, he has kids, ffs.

NerrSnerr · 17/11/2018 15:10

I took the kids up to see him at 10am (which I consider a decent lie in) and got a mouthful of abuse

Did the children witness him having a go? That can't be nice for them. I'd take them out and do something nice with them. I wouldn't hang around waiting for him to wake up.

lalalalyra · 17/11/2018 15:11

I'd drive yourself wherever you are going tomorrow and leave him behind.

ginyogarepeat · 17/11/2018 15:11

How lovely for your kids, what an awful example their father is setting them. Trust me OP, you (and your children) deserve better than this.

BinglyBunglyBoops · 17/11/2018 15:13

God yeah, this is hilarious. Hmm

jaseyraex · 17/11/2018 15:22

Is it really that funny that you're with a lazy, selfish twat? Seriously OP. Make him get up and be a parent, it's not just your job. If he was ill or on night shift or something then it would be understandable. But from what you've said, he literally is just being a lazy shit.

HelenMummyof2 · 17/11/2018 16:06

Sounds like a total idiot, sorry Op.
And to be abusive too? I'd take the kids and be off/kick him out.

19lottie82 · 17/11/2018 16:10

Seems a bit shit to “take the kids in to see him”, @10am if you promised him a lie in, but on the other hand he should be up @ 230pm! Make sure you get the same time to yourself tomorrow or next weekend!

kitkatsky · 17/11/2018 16:13

It's not your job to ensure he has a decent sleep pattern, but I understand why you try. My DH is an "insomniac" befayse he sleeps 18 hours one weekend day and then can't sleep that night and it all escalated until next weekend when he's exhausted again!

mumsy27 · 17/11/2018 16:19

Give a man a bit of slack
Lack of sleep can make you grumpy
Is it often happening?
Will he do the same to you if you want a lay down.
How hard is his job.
Don't listen to the wickeds" packing his bag" Hmm

lulabaloo · 17/11/2018 16:23

We are up at 6am in this house, me and husband take it in turns to sleep in over the weekend. I always take a cup of tea up tho about 8 as i think that's a good lie in. 2.30pm is just a waste of a day.

mumsy27 · 17/11/2018 16:28

Waste of day..yes
None of us knows if tbe moral is low which can make you want to stay in bed or other reasons.

As someone said to pack his bag ..pleeeease.

No wonder rate of divorce is so high
"Slept until 2.30 so i packed his bags"
Get a grip people !!!

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