AIBU to leave him asleep?

[LoopyLou1981]

DH asked whether he could have a lie in this morning (no problem on the proviso that he didn’t pass out on the sofa because it upsets the kids if we come down and find only for him to then go to bed for his ‘lie in’). Obviously he did the above.
I took the kids up to see him at 10am (which I consider a decent lie in) and got a mouthful of abuse so I brought the kids back downstairs and we’ve had a lovely time playing and mucking around.
Well he’s still asleep at nearly 2.30. AIBU to leave him to fester up there knowing it will screw his sleep pattern up and make work harder next week (and secretly feel rather pleased about it! 😂)?x

Yes, how awfully melodramatic of us to think it's awful that an adult male will sleep all day and swear at his wife in front of their children if she dares wake him.

In our family we don't use F word.
However, if it's the norm in the op family to ff is another thing.
I don't think the op said he was swearing in front of kids

@mumsy27 the OP said I took the kids up to see him at 10am (which I consider a decent lie in) and got a mouthful of abuse. Sounds like it was in front of them.

Give a man a bit of slack
Lack of sleep can make you grumpy

Lack of sleep because you have made the choice to stay up until 2.00am when you are exhausted wouldnt be well received in my house.

I would have gone out with the dcs wo him Tbh.
And seen that he has been sleeping for aux. Long time, I wouod also not ke him off the hook tomorrow ‘because he couldn’t sleep last night so is now very tired’.
Too easy. Up to him to take his responsibilities.

So he stays up all hours, then opts out of family life by sleeping the day away ... which means the children, meals and household stuff all gets dumped on you by default. And if you dare try to prevent him from doing it, you get verbally abused. In front of the children.

Nice.

Great guy you picked there.

It's not just the loss if a day though.

It’s also the fact he left the OP on her own to look afetrvthe dcs because he had decided to stay up much too late.

It's the fact it meant the Op has just waited the whole day for him to wake up. Making HER and the dcs to loose a day doing what they wanted just in case he would wake up.

Just because you can't sleep past 8am doesn't mean other people can't. I'd not have woken him before 11 if my husband had asked to lie in.

Assuming he's not ill or anything or worked nights, he's being totally unreasonable. I would take the kids out for a nice lunch somewhere and leave him to it.

So funny! Yep, this is about as funny as a stinging nettle. WTAF? Aw, diddums, people work, how cute, does that mean that gives them a pass to check out of life when they chose to have a family? Amazing, that.

Everyone need a pass sometimes

Not to be a twat they don’t.

I see the LTB brigade are in full swing!

It not hilarious that he threatens to punish you with doing something you don't enjoy unless he gets his own way

What a twat of a man you are attached to, OP. Best of luck with that.

The only thing wrong here is that she was given a mouth full of abuse. There's nothing wrong with laying in till 2.30 given it doesn't happen a lot. My DH works from his office at home now some days and I don't usually get out of bed until around 11am, normal days I'll be up at 8-9am. My DH can sleep in as long as he wants in weekends it doesn't bother me nor him.

Meant to add he gets up with our children around 8am etc or I do but lay ins are normal in our home

Everyone needs a lie in and to fester in their own pit and stink from time to time, especially ecialkyxwith kids, but there’s no need to be rude about it. You deserve an apology and a day to yourself too

He frequently passes out on the sofa after being on whatsapp until 2am. Theres some red flags here op. Had he been drinking? Who is he messaging?

He gave you loads of abuse. In front of the children. This is bad and then worse.

Go out tomorrow with the children. Drive yourself. Have fun without him.

"I see the LTB brigade are in full swing!"

For swearing at his wife in front of the children? Yep. Happy to be in the brigade.

I gave my DH a sleep in today - he got up at 9 which of you’ve got small children is late enough IMHO.

9 am is not a lay in at all? My kids are 2 & 4. They wake up at 8.30. A lay in is a few hours after you'd originally wake up.

User surely it depends on when you're usually up. Our youngest is up before 6 every day and our eldest is never up after 7 so 9 is a lie in here.

Not sure why so many posters are defending him here, are some people not reading the OP?

DH had a late morning and got up at 9:30am which I consider a pretty decent lie in. Usually I'd be a bit miffed because I was up at 5:30am with the baby but he did the late bottle the night before (11pm). I probably wouldn't take the kids up to him as presumably if he wanted to be sociable he'd come down but if DD was older and I had done that he certainly wouldn't still be living here if he'd verbally abused me in front of her. 2:30pm is ridiculous. He still has a pulse right?

@NerrSnerr that's true actually didn't think of it like that my siblings wake up at 7am every day. 6am in the summer