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Original poster

To think kids are getting injured too often at school?

50 replies

themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 21:17

Year 1 (5 and 6)

Group of boys - same names repeated, my DS is one of them.

In the last few weeks

-scratches that bleed

  • bruises to stomach
  • head injury
  • black eye
  • bruises to groin
  • clothing ripped
  • toys for show and tell broken
  • work ruined
  • child excluded repeatedly from playground game

Probably more.

I understand teacher can't watch everything and boys can be a handful

But everything I hear comes from children or other parents

No accident reports

AIBU pfb to now get really cross with school or is this just the norm for boys?

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IceRebel · 16/11/2018 21:23

I think it's just your school.

No accident reports

This is awful and a serious issue worth going in to see the headteacher about. If your children are coming home with

  • scratches that bleed
  • bruises to stomach
  • head injury
  • black eye
  • bruises to groin

And are not bringing home any accident reports that's negligence. Shock

elliejjtiny · 16/11/2018 21:26

Sounds fairly normal to me. My son is in year 1 too and he comes home with an injury about 3 times a week on average. We've never had show and tell toys broken though.

clowdyweewee · 16/11/2018 21:32

Sounds fairly normal to me

In what kind of school would this be normal? It certainly would not be considered normal where I teach.

IceRebel · 16/11/2018 21:37

It certainly would not be considered normal where I teach.

Nor my school. Grazed knees, bumps and sore hands from falling are normal injuries. The examples given in the Op are all quite serious injuries which I wouldn't expect to see often.I would certainly expect accident reports for them, and perhaps in some cases a phone call to a parent or carer as a prior warning before they were picked up at the end of the day.

Starlight345 · 16/11/2018 21:37

Have you asked dc what is happening?

I had a teacher concerned once how many bumped heads my Ds had in a week. I asked my Ds what had happened. He was doing wheelbarrow races.

My point is sometimes there is an explanation, have you spoken to his teacher?

elliejjtiny · 16/11/2018 21:38

Oops sorry, didn't notice the bit where you said you weren't getting reports. We get an accident form in the bookbag and the child gets a sticker that says they have bumped their head or had first aid so the staff are aware.

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 21:41

Yes the children all explain they have been fighting

Often claim it was an accident when they are the ones who caused it

Parents all quite friendly and we text each other when a kid mentions something so we've been trying to help from home, explaining to our children it's unacceptable to fight at school etc

But ones commented on the frequency of it and I thought I would put it down and see

I like the teacher but she's been a little dismissive, laughed off things in the past then mentioned other things I would have liked to have been told about

Obviously her job is to teach... but...

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OwlBeThere · 16/11/2018 21:42

I don’t quite understand, are you saying all those things happened to your DS or all those things spread out between a group? How many children in the group? If they happened to your DS then I’d expect you to be told, but otherwise why would you be told?

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 21:44

No not all to my DS. I know because we all talk.

All I expect teacher to tell me about is what happens to my DS or is caused by my DS.

But it's the same group over and over of 3-6 children

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ASauvignonADay · 16/11/2018 21:46

Can your clarify if those injuries happened to one child, or all of the children?

I think it's fairly common. Should be accident logs though.

Maybe school budget cuts mean less supervision in unstructured time.

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 21:49

3 children are getting the majority (my DS being one)

6 names involved though

It's the head injury and black eye that upset me the most but that wasn't my DS and there was no accident reports for any

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OwlBeThere · 16/11/2018 21:49

I just think some kids are boisterous and that’s how it is. Maybe as a group of parents get them all together and talk to them about how they behave and about keeping their hands to themselves.

OwlBeThere · 16/11/2018 21:50

By accident report do mean the teacher didn’t talk to you about it?

ASauvignonADay · 16/11/2018 21:50

I agree about them being boisterous! I'm secondary but so many head injuries (although, very rarely serious, and a lot are suspected excuses to get out of lesson, but still every single head injury = a phone call home!)

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 21:51

Nope teacher not mentioned any of it

All info through kids and parents

Nobody has had an accident report home for any incident

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 21:55

I know teacher is aware as when my DS has been the perpetrator he tells me what his punishment has been

(Gets sent to sit in another classroom with another teacher)

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Starlight345 · 16/11/2018 21:57

I think you need to separate this out about your dc.

It’s not clear. Is your Ds fighting ?

At primary we only ever got bumped heads or serious injury)reported to us .

I think you need to ask for a meeting address your concerns about your Ds behaviour and injuries at school. Not the other children

The school need to be dealing with what is going on at school. Parents don’t tend to help.

How old are boys ?

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 22:01

Yes my DS is both fighting and getting injured.

Head injury and black eye is good friends DS

But parents all friendly and chat regularly hence we all are aware what kids are saying is happening and seems to be a group of up to 6 fighting each time (same boys is all I ever hear about)

Children are all 5 and 6

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 22:04

Also kids been together for 3 years now since nursery. We didn't have this previously and all kids know each other well so can't quite understand the sudden fighting so frequently but might be their age

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Thistly · 16/11/2018 22:09

In answer to your thread title; I think there is a big difference in paediatric a and e attendances if you compare term time to holiday, and the accidents aren’t happening more at school.....

But your thread goes on to talk about your school, which seems to be an anomaly

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 22:12

Yeah I'm wondering if this is a problem with this particular school currently or it's just the age of my DS and to be expected

I guess the one thing I know for sure is accident reports should be coming home

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RebelWitchFace · 16/11/2018 22:27

The thing is ..if the teacher is as bad as you think she is ,why aren't you as parents sorting it out? Give them all a bollocking and if any more play fighting,then serious consequences at home.

Has anyone bothered to report all this to the teacher in case it happens when she doesn't see it or hasn't developed into bruises(the ones on the stomach or groin she wouldn't be able to see anyways) yet? Are the boys truthful at school about what happened?

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themanisajerk · 16/11/2018 22:31

Well we are... we all mention it to each other and talk to our children about it. It's now frequently enough for me to think hmm aibu in telling the teacher I don't think this is acceptable ?

Yes boys truthful as perpetrators or victims their accounts all back up what each other says

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GreenTulips · 16/11/2018 22:33

Assuming this mainly happens away from the classroom during break times?

When the teacher Ian the present?

What would you like her to do? Because if you're telling your DS not to fight and he still does it what makes her have more influence?

Ask for a school communication book to be put in place

RebelWitchFace · 16/11/2018 22:36

Have you talked to the teacher about it?
Are the kids telling the teacher what happened when it happened?

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