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To be peed off my daughters driving instructor always asks to use our loo first FOR A NO 2!!!

64 replies

danceintime · 16/11/2018 09:44

So basically yeah every week he turns up desperate for the loo and needs to go . He does a crap then the driving lesson.
I've had enough I have toilet OCD and have to stop everything to bleach all over . My toilet is just for family I don't like it at all .
I want to tell him no never again so don't ask again

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RangeRider · 16/11/2018 10:45

Just have her waiting outside and ready to get into the car the second he gets out. 'Mum's just gone out (to Iceland?) and I don't have a key'
He does sound like he's taking the mick. Surely he could just stop off at a public loo before he turns up.

HebeMumsnet · 16/11/2018 10:46

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BorisAndDoris · 16/11/2018 10:48

Hmm.. I can see both sides of this. I mean, it's a loo. Its what it's for but I would also be a little annoyed at someone shitting in my house on a regular basis when they don't even live there. I know it's silly to feel that way but a part of me would be thinking, "Right enough now, off you fuck."
Especially after hearing some of the stories on MN of men seemingly shitting, stinking up the place simply because they want to. Anyone remember egg butty man who wouldn't use a different toilet and insisted on stinking out a whole office instead for absolutely no reason. Some suggested it was a primal male dominance thing, doing something like that.

OP, as others have said, change the lesson time. Have something come up that can't be changed so the lessons will need to be later/earlier.

If he continues to do it then it's intentional.

EdisonLightBulb · 16/11/2018 10:48

Surely driving instructors have access to a car, and tend to live local to their students or if not work from a company base.

Therefore there is absolutely no reason why any driving instructor wouldn't have a poo either at home or the office.

Jemimapuddleduk · 16/11/2018 10:52

FFS, get a life. It’s a toilet, designed to be crapped in and then flushed away.

dontknowatm · 16/11/2018 10:53

I would say "sorry it's not working today it's just broken" then the next time say "sorry someone is in there at the moment and are going to be a while" they will eventually get the message

Thurmanmurman · 16/11/2018 10:55

Funny how it’s always men doing shits in random toilets! My job requires me to go into strangers houses and as I’m out for hours at a time, if I need a wee I sometimes ask if I can use the toilet. However , the thought of pooing in a strangers house is horrifying! I’d rather drive to the nearest services if I was that desperate.

JemSynergy · 16/11/2018 11:05

As a one off fine but doing this every week would annoy me . I would just say someone else was using the bathroom or plumbing issues.

Deedee248 · 16/11/2018 11:07

To be honest, the thing that would bother me the most would be if she is losing time off her lesson while he is using the toilet. My friend had a driving instructor who used to stop and fill up with fuel during her lesson.

I hope the lesson doesn't start until he's out in the car!

Elliss2018 · 16/11/2018 11:09

I would hate this too op! Why can't people just do it in their own toilet?

PMSwithacockinmydress · 16/11/2018 11:11

What the fuck is "toilet OCD"? Is that in the ICD-10?

Being a bit squiffy about someone shitty in your toilet is NOT a medical condition, and it's offensive to liken it to one.

brodiee · 16/11/2018 11:13

Ergh I am with you OP. If he was just using for a wee then fair enough but he must be dropping pretty stinky no 2s for you to know it's a no 2! That's rank 🤢

I'd say it's out of order next time! Or could he pick up your DD from college or work next time instead of Home?

Sparklingbrook · 16/11/2018 12:09

I have no idea what toilet OCD is.

derxa · 16/11/2018 12:16

Oh dear OP. This must be awful for you

Hidingtonothing · 16/11/2018 12:20

If this was happening in our house the solution would be obvious, simply station DH in the loo at the required time and truthfully inform driving instructor he will be out in approx 45 minutes. After 17 years together I still have no idea how it takes DH 45 minutes to take a shit but it does, a situation like this would be the first time it had ever actually come in useful Grin

TheFreaksShallInheritTheEarth · 16/11/2018 12:27

Other people's poo (outside family) certainly seems less pleasant that familiar poo, but it is just poo, and the smell will pass in a short time.

Also, I'm afraid I'm another that is telling you off for calling OCD unless you actually, genuinely have had it diagnosed. It is a medical condition, not an everyday term meaning fussiness about cleanliness or tidiness. My DD has it so badly that she receives DLA and is in a specialist teaching facility. She's a messy creature, too!

EmeraldShamrock · 16/11/2018 12:40

Tbh it would annoy me. I know it is mot logical but I hate a stranger using my bathroom too.

I've always had a poo smell issues. I can't usually use a public loo. Weird I know but I can't help it.

petbear · 16/11/2018 12:47
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BumsexAtTheBingo · 16/11/2018 12:56

Your dd needs to start getting picked up for her lesson somewhere else.
Yes toilets are to be used but no-one likes a stinky shit and if someone was regularly coming to my house purely to shit I wouldn’t be delighted about it either.

letsgomaths · 16/11/2018 13:21

*Surely driving instructors have access to a car, and tend to live local to their students or if not work from a company base.

Therefore there is absolutely no reason why any driving instructor wouldn't have a poo either at home or the office.*

I used to be a driving instructor. Unlike many others who work in small to medium towns, or rurally, I operated near the centre of a very large city, one which was not built for cars, and this was a real problem. Loads of pupils living in the city centre would want lessons, because most instructors wouldn't venture there at all. There would be vast areas completely without a public toilet quickly accessible from the road, and I mean completely. Most petrol stations closed theirs because of drug users; pubs or even McDonalds would be difficult because of parking (and in a large city, parking attendants would pounce quickly); supermarkets with car parks were rare; and slow city traffic meant any driver could only cover short distances, so no time to nip home or to the office (many driving schools don't even have an office); and as every self-employed person knows, the more people you see in one day, the more money you make: no time for detouring via home for a pee break. I marked the very few public toilets feasible for road use on my map.

So, I frequently used to ask pupils if I could use their toilet before or after a lesson, for weeing and pooing, and I make no apology for it. I tried not to do so with the same pupils too often. Only one person ever refused; she said the house wasn't tidy enough.

ilovesooty · 16/11/2018 13:26

Here's a novel idea. If he's asking every week just tell him you've noticed it's a regular thing and you don't like it.

Ghanagirl · 16/11/2018 13:32

Change her driving instructor

amicissimma · 16/11/2018 13:47

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ilovesooty · 16/11/2018 13:53

Oh yes I know Grin

RTFT · 16/11/2018 13:53

My toilet is just for family I don't like it at all

So what if friends come, are they allowed?

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