WIBU to ask DH to postpone night out?

[Thatsnotmypony]

I've been around for years (penis beaker, naice ham, old korean lady etc) but have name-changed for this. I can't tell if I'm being unreasonable or not as I'm completely exhausted so may not be thinking rationally.

I had a baby just over 2 weeks ago and also have a 5 year old. DH has gone back to work and is out of the house from 7am until 7pm (at the earliest, often closer to 8pm) every day.

I developed an infection so this week I have been prescribed a course of strong antibiotics which are doing their job but unfortunately have knocked me for six with unpleasant side effects including drowsiness (just what I need with a sleepless newborn!), nausea, headaches and diarrhoea. I've got a few days left until I finish the course. Have also been feeling quite low and been really tearful the past couple of days. I don't think I'm depressed, I think it's the antibiotics as for some reason they always make me feel emotional but I'm sure the tiredness and hormones are making it worse.

Last week DH's friends decided they needed a night out to "wet the baby's head" and he was getting lots of messages on their group WhatsApp trying to fix a date. He asked me if it would be ok and I agreed as at the time I was feeling ok so they have arranged to go out this weekend. DH rarely goes out but when he does (especially with these friends in particular) will be on a bit of a mission and be very hungover and frankly useless the next day. No big deal as it's a rare occurrence but right now I feel so ill and so, so tired. After struggling to cope on my own all week I just want some help and to catch up on some sleep this weekend.

Would I be unreasonable to ask that they postpone their night out until I'm off these vile tablets, free of the infection and things have settled down a bit? DH works really hard and is absolutely brilliant with both DC when he's here so I don't begrudge him the odd night out. I just feel like I'm drowning right now

Firstly yes hes being a unobservant and unappreciative dick
But he has said "hopefully " so i would say "yes hopefully I will feel better. And if I do then you can go off and have a lovely time not feeling guilty about abandoning your struggling ill dear wife who has just had a baby. But if I'm not I'm assuming you won't go right? Because that would be a bit selfish right? Thanks for being so considerant dear"

And as you won't feel better, he won't be going. Because what will make you feel better is a rest.
But if he wants to leave it until last minute that's his problem. You just need to feel reassured that if you need him then he'll be there
Also for wetting baby's head. Just go for a drink... later... when you're not suffering sleep exhaustion!

This reminds me of my bloke, can be utterly thoughtless at times and it's hurtful, although on the whole he's a great person.

See what happens on Saturday. Tell him you still aren't well and need the rest. How he behaves after that is key.

I sympathise op, it's so so hard being stuck at home with a baby, never mind feeling shit on top of everything else.

It's not a big ask to send a Whatsapp message to his group and say he needs to put it back a couple of weeks. I'm sure his friends will understand if he's got a 2 week baby in the house.

Congratulations btw

I'm angry on your behalf OP!!!!
I get that he's looking forward to an evening out with his friends but an exhausted, ill, new mum totally trumps that!
TELL him you need support right now and they can celebrate the baby's birth in a few weeks when you're feeling better and things are more settled.
If he doesn't understand that then he's a selfish arse!
Here, have these. You deserve them 

OP please get a drs appointment to discuss PND

I have been trying to figure out whether I'm depressed, or just exhausted and feeling ill. Maybe it's both, I don't know. If I still feel like this in a few days when I'm off the medication will definitely speak to the HV or see my GP.

I hope he stayed home and supported you op.

Has he gone out op?