AIBU to assume DD is invited to wedding?

[thsi]

I received an invite to a wedding that is coming up soon. The envelope was address to "Thsi, DH and Family" so assumed that would include my DD who is four months.

When I RSVP'd via text, the groom responded and said, "looking forward to seeing you and DH" and I didn't think anything of it but now on reflection he made no mention of seeing DD so does that mean my original assumption that she is invited is wrong?

For context Bride and groom are already married. Had the ceremony and sit down meal which we weren't invited too but are now holding an evening party thing for their extended family and friends who weren't at the wedding. Bride will be in her wedding dress, etc. It starts at 7

What do you think?

It sounds like she was invited, however when you replied saying “it’s Thsi and DH, we would love to attend” that implies that you’re not taking your daughter hence the reply “glad you both can make it”.

I would reply saying “yes, we are planning to bring [daughter’s name] with us, just wanted to double check this is ok” or words to that effect.

@thsi
It'll happen for us. Just 6 months after everybody else has watched it.
I've never been one for partying or drinking. And DS can happily come out to dinner with us. I miss the cinema sometimes though. Obviously he's worth it, but when I really good film comes out I am a bit gutted I can't go and see it. Totally my choice, I have people willing to babysit, I'm just still not ready.
Not sure when it gets easier.

@Doveblue
I've never looked into it, but I'll have a look. With a big film like this if they're going to do it for any it might be this one!

"Hi Thsi, thank you for your RSVP. We are glad you can both make it. Hope you, DH and "dds name" are well"

Both? Ooh, I'd check if I were you. You wouldn't use that word for three people.

You're going to have to politely ask. I think you accidentally uninvited dd so they followed your lead.

Definitely get your baby some earphones. I went to an incredibly loud wedding party once with baby dd - it was hell!! The next one we bought ear defenders for and it was great.

Amallard. I think I may be hopelessly behind the times

I think all three of you were invited, but the wording of your RSVP may have led them to think that you would be leaving DD at home. Which wouldn't be an unreasonable thing to do!
I would check, but it won't really make any difference as they won't be catering for DD, providing her with a seat etc.

You need to double check as I would be surprised if they are inviting a 4 month old baby to an evening party. Best be on the safe side just in case.

I also think you were all invited but you replied for yourself and DH and they probably thought you were leaving 4 month daughter at home with it being 7pm start.

Do you really want to take her to an evening party, will it be loud music, band or disco type thing?

I would check, but personally I wouldn’t dream of taking a four month old baby to an evening reception, but that’s just my view.

i agree with others they invited all three of you but your reply implied it was just you and dh.

have you got a cinema that does baby friendly screenings? They're great for watching films without leaving dd.

Lots of cinemas now have a paren't and baby session.
Will there be loud music, can baby cope with that? Just text 'ok to bring baby?'

Hmm, I wouldn't assume at all that it means all three of you. The groom said "both of you" and you said in your RSVP that it was you and dh replying and you'd love to attend.
Check.

It seems unambiguous to me. But make sure you take the invitation (and envelope) with you then no-one can say there was a misunderstanding on your part.

If it's an evening invite, I would assume she is invited. By that time of the day nobody would be fussed if a child is there. Usually "no child" weddings are because they don't want kids getting bored and messing around during the ceremony and meal. By the evening everyone is pissed anyway so they don't care if kids are messing around!

Ignoring the point of the thread, check to see if your local cinema are doing a parent and baby screening of Fantastic Beasts - you might not have to wait for the DVD!

MsLexic my eldest is nearly 16 and went to weddings at 9 weeks and 10 weeks old. I mean we didn't park the pram next to the speakers or anything, but it was fine. Didn't traumatise her or anything.